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I have a new family that started last week. This dcg is 3 almost 4 and will come 2 days a week. Mom came and interviewed with me last Tuesday afternoon. She barely asked me anything at all. The dcg had been in daycare and her provider moved to CA, then she was in a center and it was just too many kids for her. The little girl is very pleasant and good for me. Mom called Tuesday night and says that she would like to have her come to me. I said great, when would you like her to start? I thought maybe she would say next week. She says tomorrow. Oh, okay. Thought maybe the husband would want to come meet me. Nope. I should also mention that she got my name off the gov't site. I've only had 1 other family that I've taken from getting my name from that site. In 13 years, it's always been word of mouth. So she knows about 1/2 hour worth of info about me. She never calls at all during the day. Picks her up at 4:00 last week and doesn't really ask about her day at all. Then comes this week. She's normally supposed to come about 10:00 and it's 10:40 before she comes. Thought maybe they weren't coming back. Mom says oh yea, I should warn you, we don't always run on time in the morning. Then she says that she knows that I close at 5:00, is it okay if it's pretty close to that time. I said I have to be out of here AT 5:00, so you have to be here by then. She cleans houses for a living. Im thinking get your butt out of bed earlier and get her here by 9:00 so you can be on time. She better not be late, because I'm not going to put up with it.
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weird. I have had parents start next day. I have never met some of the dads. I have parents who never ask about their childs day. It just wasn't all the same parent.
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LOL! I don't know what it is, this probably doesn't seem like anything to some. It's just a feeling. It just seems like if she knows absolutely nothing about me, she might be interested in something you know? I've had more indepth conversations with someone a waitress in a restaurant for goodness sakes. This is her child and she doesn't even ask on her first day how she did? Something weird. The the little girl says daddy doesn't work a lot, he's sick a lot. huhComment
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I had a lady set up an interview with me once and cancel later that day, said she was unable to make it. She set up an interview for the following day and couldn't make that one either. Low and behold she showed up Monday morning with shot record in hand filled out all the paperwork and rushed out the door. Never even told 13m dcb goodbye.
She was with me for about a year. Made almost every payment late with a late fee added on, never came on Fridays (this is why all her payments were late) always picked up fairly early. Never really asked about his day. I finally met DCD about 6 or 7 months into it and when he knocked DCB was yelling and When I opened the door DCD says to DCB "was that you making all that noise you little ba****d"
:confused: he chuckled to himself and kinda petered off at the end so he must have caught what he was saying but not quick enough that I didn't catch it.
Some people are just strange. It takes all types I guessComment
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WOw!!! Can't believe dcd would call his son that. That's terrible.Comment
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LOL exactly. Although, I've had some weird ones that make my eyes get really big after they've shut the door and circus music plays in my head.Comment
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MAYBE she thinks that the government website is extremely trustworthy and would only put wonderful providers on it? Some parents just don't know how things work.
MAYBE Mom is the breadwinner and Dad IS sick and Mom just has other things on her mind. Who really knows...?Comment
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Because we are all involved with children all day and see on an hourly basis how essential appropriate care is, I think we get into the assumption that what we value and care about would be the same as the parents. This is not the case. It is important to remember that just because an adult is able to physically create a child, or adopt or take custody of a child, does not mean ANYTHING about their capabilities as a parent. There are some parents that do not care and do not think, for whatever reason, about who is taking care of their children, what their child is doing all day, and how best to make those young years as wonderful as possible. They are not raising their kids, the parents are just there while the kids grow up....like room mates essentially. I have met a number of parents that have attachment issues with their kids, are very disinterested in their children, or worse, neglectful. I do think what this parent has done is neglectful. Very little thought or concern about who is caring for their child all day. I find it alarming that a parent would not try to bond at least a little with the provider. Its weird how in daycare you see extremes.....either parents that want to micromanage every single second of the child's day at daycare or parents that could not care less.Comment
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on a positive note, she did move this child when the last daycare was showing poor environment. It is possible mom has some sort of social issue that comes across as disinterested but she does seem to care at least enough to move to a better daycare.Comment
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Could you send home a daily note or daily report to ease your own grief over her not caring?Comment
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