Daycare vs Other Jobs

[LadyPearl]

My own kids (ages 6 & 7 1/2) dislike that I have other kids here. It's mostly one specific child because he can be an absolute terror. (I only have 2 kids from 1 family.) If I could make a little money from home other than daycare, I would do it in a heartbeat. I feel guilty that my kids are unhappy when dcks are here. Does anybody else struggle with this?

I am pregnant so I don't want to work outside our home. I quit my p/t job to take in kids at the beginning of the year. I became a SAHM once my oldest was born. I have started the process to become a registered home daycare.

[Crazy8]

Wish I had an answer for you… when people post on my budget boards about work from home opportunities we get swamped with posts on selling stuff (scentsy, pampered chef, avon, beachbody, etc.) and posts where they claim you are not selling stuff but basically getting people to sign up under you (pyramid schemes). If you are into selling that's great but I have yet to find anything where you can make money without selling.

Sometimes I wonder if running my daycare for the last 13 years was the right thing to do for my kids. I think it beats out being out of the house 50+ hours a week at a job but sometimes I wonder if my kids are going to grow up resenting it. :confused:

[TwinKristi]

Have you thought about interviewing for another family that may jive better with your kids? I know my kids absolutely couldn't stand having one of my DCKs here. It was temporary and I reminded the kids the extra money I make helps us do fun things like Disneyland last summer or the snow trip we took last winter. Or going to dinner somewhere they like. I know without my income we wouldn't be able to do those things.
Also, remind them that because you're watching them, you're able to be home for them after school. Remind them that these 2 kids have to leave their home with their toys and go to someone else's house every day. Would they be happy going to someone else's house where they don't have their toys and mom? I think sometimes our children forget how lucky they are having us home AND making money. Kids don't understand the concept of money and survival and responsibility.
If these 2 kids (or 1 of them) is really the issue than I would consider replacing them. It doesn't have to be miserable for everyone but you also can't let your kids decide on money issues for your family. I've never been able to find a job from home making as much as I do with daycare.

[Blackcat31]

This is a tough one. I think there are pros and cons to having DCK's in your home and having your own kids go to daycare.

I think it is an individual choice and only you really know what's right for your family.

I posted a while back about how my DH felt as a child growing up while his mom ran a daycare () and many others posted having the opposite feelings () so I think it really is a situation that has no right or wrong answer....only a what's the lesser of the two evils...kwim?

If you are interested, you can read my DH's thoughts here (first post) https://www.daycare.com/forum/showthread.php?t=41913

Maybe it will help you to start an open, honest conversation with your child and see if you can remedy the situation or atleast help them understand your choices better.

[Play Care]

My own kids (ages 6 & 7 1/2) dislike that I have other kids here. It's mostly one specific child because he can be an absolute terror. (I only have 2 kids from 1 family.) If I could make a little money from home other than daycare, I would do it in a heartbeat. I feel guilty that my kids are unhappy when dcks are here. Does anybody else struggle with this?

I am pregnant so I don't want to work outside our home. I quit my p/t job to take in kids at the beginning of the year. I became a SAHM once my oldest was born. I have started the process to become a registered home daycare.

I have always said that I am doing this job for ME/MY family and the second that it becomes an issue where WE can't stand being home, having dck's here, etc. it's time to find something else.
That said, I would evaluate what the issue is and see if that's something that can be changed or modified. For instance, my kids bedrooms and toys are always off limits - this is easy since they are not on my main level. We also have a finished basement that is not approved for DC - that's my families hang out on days I'm working. I'm fortunate that DH is a teacher and off when the kids are, so he takes them out and about on vacations and such.
If you can replace any child that doesn't mesh well with the group/your family. I did NOT give up a lucrative career to be home with my kids only to have their childhood be a terror because I insisted on keeping kids that were not a good fit.
Good Luck!!

[DaisyMamma]

My kids really don't like my daycare. I know this because my older one tells me so. I know this because my younger one beats up all the other kids. My husband also doesn't like my daycare.
My youngest will go to K next year. At that point I'm either going to do only part time and only watch kids while my kids aren't home or fully close down.

My new "business" is breeding hedgehogs. I've been doing this for a while and really like it. Last week I had someone here picking up a baby hoglet. My older daughter was having a fit about something in the other room and I told her I had to go talk to the hedgehog people. Her response was "I don't like hedgehogs."
So here I am thinking that I'm making the switch from one business to another to please everyone, but the bottom line is that they are going to be jealous no matter what

I still think hedgehogs don't really compare to daycare kids. And I can see that I need to schedule my meetings while my kids are at school. That's fine.

Anyway, breeding hedgehogs isn't for everyone ::

Here are a couple of other ideas. These companies are legit and do pay you to work at home.

Humantic
Alpine Access
USA Contact POint
Grapevine Sales
Leapforce
Appen
Lionbridge
Butler Hill

There are others. I found them on http://www.wahm.com/forum/
Make sure you're getting your job leads from others in the forum, rather than from the ads all over the web site though.

BTW, that's all I really know. I looked into the google rating jobs a little bit but never followed through with any.

[dave4him]

I know how it feels though to be working the daycare but wishing i did not need to be.

[cheerfuldom]

I think you situation is really similar to a lot of other providers. You have to make it work because of income. I would start interviewing for another family and find a scenario that is a better fit for your kids. In this case, you might go for a baby and toddler sibling set because then it wouldn't be older kids getting into your kids' stuff and you can train these new kids instead of trying to break bad habits of preschoolers. Anyway, I understand what you are concerned about. I have four kids of my own and it has taken a number of years to know what daycare children mesh well with my kids. right now, all my daycare kids are under 2 except for one 4 year old that gets along with my kids like a dream. I wouldn't take any older kids that my own kids don't like, it just causes too many problems.

[LadyPearl]

I didn't have the kids last Wed and Thurs and my 6-yr old said that it was so nice to not have them here. I agreed.....

[LadyPearl]

These companies are legit and do pay you to work at home.

Humantic
Alpine Access
USA Contact POint
Grapevine Sales
Leapforce
Appen
Lionbridge
Butler Hill

There are others. I found them on http://www.wahm.com/forum/
Make sure you're getting your job leads from others in the forum, rather than from the ads all over the web site though.

BTW, that's all I really know. I looked into the google rating jobs a little bit but never followed through with any.

Thanks for this info. I will look into it!

[Cccdcia]

Man I hear ya!!!!! I have a 15 year old a 12 year old and a 7 year old the two big ones HATE daycare my 7 year old loves it my husband hates it too! Iam really wondering what to do to???

[Play Care]

Man I hear ya!!!!! I have a 15 year old a 12 year old and a 7 year old the two big ones HATE daycare my 7 year old loves it my husband hates it too! Iam really wondering what to do to???

What specifically do they hate about it? I ask because I find a lot of providers say their family/ husband doesn't like having the day care, but when the provider finally throws in towel and goes outside the homes to work, they find their family doesn't like that either. Are there changes/ adjustments you can make to make it better for your family?

[e.j.]

So here I am thinking that I'm making the switch from one business to another to please everyone, but the bottom line is that they are going to be jealous no matter what

My ds was 5 when I started doing day care. My dd was 2. To this day, they complain about me doing day care out of our home - although they get it now.

The bottom line is, I did what I felt was best for our family. I had to work full time to help my husband support the family. Initially, I had my ds in day care and he hated every minute of it. It was the biggest reason I opened my own day care. Whenever they would complain, I would tell them we had a choice: I could get a different job and place them in someone else's day care or I could keep doing day care and they could stay at home with me. They always chose to stay home with me. (Not that they really had a choice! )

Kids want what they want when they want it. They really have no idea of what it takes to work, raise kids, support a family, pay for day care.... My kids still aren't thrilled with me doing day care but they see the pluses now that they're older. There were times when I felt guilty about causing them unhappiness but I'm convinced that no matter what I chose to do, they would have been unhappy about something. I got to spend as much time with them as I could while they were young and that counts for a lot in my mind.

[Unregistered]

My oldest 2 were the same age as yours (op) when I quit my outside the home job and started a licensed home daycare (I also have a third child, 2 yrs old at the time). The job I had been working was terrible, made me miserable and I worked ridiculous hours. By time I quit, my middle child (the 6 yr old) was having panic attacks almost every day that I left for work. My oldest wouldn't even talk to me. I was missing out on everything with my youngest. It was killing me and making everyone around me miserable.

When I started in home daycare and staying home with my kids, their behavior and my relationship with them improved drastically. I became a better mom too in the process. However, after a while the daycare became too much for me and my family. ALL of the children in my care (and most of their parents) were very difficult. Their parents worked long hours so they were here 11-12 hrs a day. I spent all day focusing my time and energy on correcting the issues with the other kids and had almost no 1on 1 time with my own again. I became very stressed and decided it was no longer for me or my family.

I am now just a sahm and the whole family is happy. We figured out a way for it to work. I think some families can benifit tremendously from mom doing in home child care (I also grew up in one and loved it), but I personally would never go back to doing daycare now that I closed. I think that most families with mom and dad still married and at least one full time job can afford to live off of one income. We do but we have no luxuries, drive old (paid for) cars, almost no money to spend on frivolous things, we don't eat out, do free stuff for entertainment, shop second hand stores, etc

[Annalee]

What specifically do they hate about it? I ask because I find a lot of providers say their family/ husband doesn't like having the day care, but when the provider finally throws in towel and goes outside the homes to work, they find their family doesn't like that either. Are their changes/ adjustments you can make to make it better for your family?

I have seen this happen as well. A provider friend of mine has been in FCC forever and now has grand kids. Funny thing is....her grown daughter wants her to "find a job elsewhere" BUT the daughter is who needs her the most. The daughter is constantly leaving her children there even though the daughter doesn't work. Why is it the persons who NEED us the most are the ones trying to force us to find other jobs? Many FCC providers would be fired on the first day elsewhere due to the expectations/responsibilities placed on us by our families. Our families feel we do not have REAL jobs and therefore many of us get stretched to the max trying to meet demands. It was hard in the beginning for me finding a medium trying to balance but, all in all, I LOVE my FCC job and I think my family FINALLY, after 20 plus years, understands that!!! happyface