Should I say sorry

[morgan24]

I had a family leave in Sept. For a center because their son was the oldest here and didn't have any friends to play with because they were all younger than him. I was fine with that. They took him to the center for a 2 days and that's when they decided to take him there. Dcm wanted to do one day a week and I told her no, I also had their school age daughter and I told them I would no longer care for her since the younger one was leaving. He was part time M-T-Th. he went to the center M-T, Wed. Dcm called to tell me they would be starting there the next week. Then she wanted to bring him on Thursday and I told her no I already told you I don't do just one day a week. Then I gave her the total for the last week and she was going to stop by with a check....she never did. I kept forgetting to call and now it's been 5 months.

Now fast forward to today Dcd calls and wants to know if I had there year end reciept. I told him that they had a balance from Sept. So I had not finished it yet. Then he goes on to say that he thought we were even because dcm had to take the Thursday off when I wouldn't take their son and that was with out pay and I should of called. Then he was going to drop a check off tonight and pick up the reciept. I said that would be fine. He continues on how I should of called because he pays his bills and repeats that dcm had to take a unpaid day off work. At that point I was a little pi@@ed and remind him how many times they took time off and that was a unpaid day for me, he goes well I guess you should of had it in your contract if you wanted paid for it. I agreed and told him I thought that they should mail my check and I'll mail them their reciept. Now I feel bad because I was being as big a bi@@@ as he was being a jerk. Should I call and apologize or leave it alone? Thanks if you managed to get through all of that.

[daycarediva]

You want to call and apologize for someone not paying you, and then treating you badly? Ohhh no no no honey. HE should be apologizing to YOU.

[mrsnj]

I would just leave it. It won't earn you anything. If nothing else take it as a learning moment. We have all been there I am sure where a parent has pushed that button a little too hard and then we regretted it in the end. I say let it go and move on...........

[Play Care]

You want to call and apologize for someone not paying you, and then treating you badly? Ohhh no no no honey. HE should be apologizing to YOU.

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[TwinKristi]

Well personally I would do an email or something apologizing for being short but it took you by surprise that he would be so rude. Not to mention how is a week of your care comparable to her one day off at work because SHE changed providers?
I would say the balance due is $X and you will send their receipt when you get their check, and it clears your bank. It was their choice to move him not yours. Why should you not get your prior weeks pay?

[craftymissbeth]

I'm pretty sure you cannot withhold their W-10 because they owe you money. I also would not fuel the fire any more. No more contact besides sending them their W-10 in the mail and then whatever it is you intend on doing to get their payment.

[morgan24]

You want to call and apologize for someone not paying you, and then treating you badly? Ohhh no no no honey. HE should be apologizing to YOU.

I usually don't let myself get into a back and forth conversation like that and towards the end I was very rude. That's why I feel bad, but your right he should feel bad he's the one that owes me money!

[Shell]

You want to call and apologize for someone not paying you, and then treating you badly? Ohhh no no no honey. HE should be apologizing to YOU.

Yes, exactly!

I'm pretty sure you cannot withhold their W-10 because they owe you money. I also would not fuel the fire any more. No more contact besides sending them their W-10 in the mail and then whatever it is you intend on doing to get their payment.

Agreed. This is the best approach imo.

[Laurel]

I'm pretty sure you cannot withhold their W-10 because they owe you money. I also would not fuel the fire any more. No more contact besides sending them their W-10 in the mail and then whatever it is you intend on doing to get their payment.

We are not required to give anyone a W-10.

[morgan24]

I'm pretty sure you cannot withhold their W-10 because they owe you money. I also would not fuel the fire any more. No more contact besides sending them their W-10 in the mail and then whatever it is you intend on doing to get their payment.

It's just a year end receipt, not a W-10. I thought I seen in another thread that I don't even have to give them a receipt, but if that's the case I didn't know that and I better send it out.

[TwinKristi]

I don't give W-10's, I just give them a year end total with my info on it. It's worked for 2yrs now.

BUT their payment would have to go on this years taxes anyway, not last year even for services rendered last year.

[Play Care]

It's just a year end receipt, not a W-10. I thought I seen in another thread that I don't even have to give them a receipt, but if that's the case I didn't know that and I better send it out.

Even if not required I would always be the bigger person and do the right thing. In this case, sending the receipt which you agreed to do.

[MotherNature]

Well personally I would do an email or something apologizing for being short but it took you by surprise that he would be so rude. Not to mention how is a week of your care comparable to her one day off at work because SHE changed providers?
I would say the balance due is $X and you will send their receipt when you get their check, and it clears your bank. It was their choice to move him not yours. Why should you not get your prior weeks pay?

[morgan24]

Even if not required I would always be the bigger person and do the right thing. In this case, sending the receipt which you agreed to do.

I know, I will send it but sometimes I don't want to be the bigger person::

[LadyPearl]

He wouldn't get an apology from me!