I Am SO DONE! (Another rant...)

[Blackcat31]

I'm just stuck on how detailed I want to get into with this letter. I termed once before with just a simple letter stating the contract was being terminated and by which date and then in person I explained why I was terming the contract. Should I do that again? I have a detailed explanation ready for why I chose to end the contract as well, but I'm not sure if it'll matter to her anyway...she'll fight me either way, I'm sure...

At least the detailed term letter can be used to explain to licensing...

Honestly I think you should tell her why but not in full detail. She IS going to argue and she IS going to try and negotiate because her past behavior indicates that she is used to getting things done her way and when that doesn't work, she takes the squeaky wheel approach...kwim?

I would say something along the lines of:

Dear DCM

This is written notice of termination of our child care services agreement.
This notice is effective immediately. As of today's date, I will no longer be willing to care for your children.

The reasons for termination are as follows:

• Failure to follow program policies
• Disrespectful behavior towards provider/provider's program

Please note that any information relating to provider and provider's program is confidential and any behavior in words or actions against provider and/or providers program will be considered slander/libel and legal action WILL be pursued if necessary.

Sincerely

Provider who is tired of taking your crap.

[DaycareMom]

Dear DCM

This is written notice of termination of our child care services agreement.
This notice is effective immediately. As of today's date, I will no longer be willing to care for your children.

The reasons for termination are as follows:

• Failure to follow program policies
• Disrespectful behavior towards provider/provider's program

Please note that any information relating to provider and provider's program is confidential and any behavior in words or actions against provider and/or providers program will be considered slander/libel and legal action WILL be pursued if necessary.

Sincerely

Provider who is tired of taking your crap.

Perfect!

How long have you been doing home childcare Blackcat?

[Blackcat31]

Perfect!

How long have you been doing home childcare Blackcat?

I have been in the field of early childhood for over 25 years. First as a Head Start employee (assistant teacher/home visitor) and now as a licensed child care provider for 20 years.

My home child care though is not in the home I which I live.

[Kabob]

Honestly I think you should tell her why but not in full detail. She IS going to argue and she IS going to try and negotiate because her past behavior indicates that she is used to getting things done her way and when that doesn't work, she takes the squeaky wheel approach...kwim?

I would say something along the lines of:

Dear DCM

This is written notice of termination of our child care services agreement.
This notice is effective immediately. As of today's date, I will no longer be willing to care for your children.

The reasons for termination are as follows:

• Failure to follow program policies
• Disrespectful behavior towards provider/provider's program

Please note that any information relating to provider and provider's program is confidential and any behavior in words or actions against provider and/or providers program will be considered slander/libel and legal action WILL be pursued if necessary.

Sincerely

Provider who is tired of taking your crap.

Thanks Blackcat! I appreciate all the help! The last line made me chuckle. I am so ready to be done with this...hoping it goes smoothly.

[Jack Sprat]

Honestly I think you should tell her why but not in full detail. She IS going to argue and she IS going to try and negotiate because her past behavior indicates that she is used to getting things done her way and when that doesn't work, she takes the squeaky wheel approach...kwim?

I would say something along the lines of:

Dear DCM

This is written notice of termination of our child care services agreement.
This notice is effective immediately. As of today's date, I will no longer be willing to care for your children.

The reasons for termination are as follows:

• Failure to follow program policies
• Disrespectful behavior towards provider/provider's program

Please note that any information relating to provider and provider's program is confidential and any behavior in words or actions against provider and/or providers program will be considered slander/libel and legal action WILL be pursued if necessary.

Sincerely

Provider who is tired of taking your crap.

Thank you so much for this BC!! I have the same worries as OP and this is the perfect letter! Thank you! Thank you!

[Kabob]

Well. I did it. It surprisingly went well. Dcm seemed upset but not shocked. Not much was said and she just changed the subject and left as if all was normal. I don't know if she'll get upset once it sinks in but what is done is done. She was so nice about it that I actually feel bad...again. Urgh.

Now to find a new family. Dh is convinced I'll find one by next week...at least he's being supportive in the face of a sudden loss of income.

Whew!

[daycare]

congrats that was a really hard thing to do. YOU are going to feel the weight of the world lifted off of your shoulders

[Kabob]

congrats that was a really hard thing to do. YOU are going to feel the weight of the world lifted off of your shoulders

Yeah it's a weird feeling...it hasn't quite sunk in yet but already I've realized that the stress of this was making me dread the arrival of my baby....wow...

[DaycareMom]

Well. I did it. It surprisingly went well. Dcm seemed upset but not shocked. Not much was said and she just changed the subject and left as if all was normal. I don't know if she'll get upset once it sinks in but what is done is done. She was so nice about it that I actually feel bad...again. Urgh.

Now to find a new family. Dh is convinced I'll find one by next week...at least he's being supportive in the face of a sudden loss of income.

Whew!

DON'T feel bad! You did the right thing for you and your family. Be happy that she took it so well and wasn't rude to you (like it seems she has been in the past). Good for you! It's so nerve racking doing that kind of stuff.

You did the right thing. DO NOT FEEL BAD!

You should be doing a happy dance happyface

[Jenniferdawn]

Yeah it's a weird feeling...it hasn't quite sunk in yet but already I've realized that the stress of this was making me dread the arrival of my baby....wow...

A sure sign you made the right decision. Enjoy the peace that comes from standing up for yourself. Becoming a daycare provider has helped me learn this very important lesson too....

[Jack Sprat]

Good for you!!! Did you give her a letter or tell her in person? I am dreading handing the letter over and dcm reading it in front of me.

[Unregistered]

Good for you!!! Did you give her a letter or tell her in person? I am dreading handing the letter over and dcm reading it in front of me.

I always say "Please read this in private and call me later if you'd like to discuss it"

I refuse to have that kind of situation unfold while daycare kids or my family is present.

[Kabob]

Good for you!!! Did you give her a letter or tell her in person? I am dreading handing the letter over and dcm reading it in front of me.

I gave her the letter in person and told her I was terminating our contract. She didn't read it in front of me. Hope yours goes well.

[nannyde]

I gave her the letter in person and told her I was terminating our contract. She didn't read it in front of me. Hope yours goes well.

Cuz she's not a rules and paper kind of gal!

She is brewing the negotiations to get you back on board so she has time to make other arrangements and she can break up with you.

Get ready for that.

[Babyluber21]

GOOD FOR YOU!!!!! That is a great feeling to finally not putting up with ANY MORE BS from this ridiculous parent. The sense of entitlement in this country is astonishing, so watch out for
1. No I didn't read the form, can't we work something out? PLEASE?! I have no other options now!
2. I didn't realize you meant TODAY, don't I get 2 weeks, you owe me 2 weeks!
3. Badmouthing your daycare in spite of the disclosure


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