Termed a Kid Today

[treyes]

What a day! I termed a kid today for exposing himself to 3 other boys. I had to talk to the other parents too. I also reported it to my licensing rep. Just wait and see what's next.

This child has been acting so out of control, I have sent him home before because of his behavior. I tried talking to mom about his behavior but she didn't seem to care until I made it inconvenient for her and made her leave work to pick him up, then she acted like it was the first time she was hearing about it. The exposing himself was the last straw.

Have any of you ever had to deal with this?

[BrooklynM]

Well, typically toddlers wanting to be naked is very normal. How old is he?

[treyes]

4 years old in pre k, old enough to know better!

[Play Care]

What a day! I termed a kid today for exposing himself to 3 other boys. I had to talk to the other parents too. I also reported it to my licensing rep. Just wait and see what's next.

This child has been acting so out of control, I have sent him home before because of his behavior. I tried talking to mom about his behavior but she didn't seem to care until I made it inconvenient for her and made her leave work to pick him up, then she acted like it was the first time she was hearing about it. The exposing himself was the last straw.

Have any of you ever had to deal with this?

I had an older child expose himself last week (almost 5 yo ) In my case the parents seemed appalled and spoke with him. I believe there are some other issues with this child and believe the parents are in for a rude awakening when he goes to K in the Fall. I've had him since he was an infant and love him dearly - he can be a very sweet kid. But he is also *very* impulsive, prone to tantrums still, etc. Had the parents brushed off my concern, I probably would have had to term as well. Behavior that is common or even acceptable at 2 isn't necessarily okay for a child who is a month away from turning 5. A few months later and he does that, he would be suspended

[coolconfidentme]

I had a DCB5 ask a DCG3 to pull up her shirt. I thought I heard right so looked back at him as he tried to touch her chest. I blurted out, "You keep your hands to yourself mister & come here." All parents were told & his dad acted shocked. I wasn't, DCKs tattle on their parents all the time. He once told me daddy was rubbing a lady under her shirt at the park. (It wasn't mommy.) He was eventually was termed for that behavior. Sad in a way.

[Maria2013]

What a day! I termed a kid today for exposing himself to 3 other boys. I had to talk to the other parents too. I also reported it to my licensing rep. Just wait and see what's next.

This child has been acting so out of control, I have sent him home before because of his behavior. I tried talking to mom about his behavior but she didn't seem to care until I made it inconvenient for her and made her leave work to pick him up, then she acted like it was the first time she was hearing about it. The exposing himself was the last straw.

Have any of you ever had to deal with this?

the worst I ever had was a child playing doctor way inappropriately, I got rid off all the toys associated with playing doctor and banned that role play even on a pretend level...never had another issue

[BrooklynM]

Maybe I'm not understanding the full picture. A 4 year old decides to show 3 other boys himself. No, not appropriate, but unless it has happened over and over again, then it's totally normal. Was there a pattern of this and you had given the parents warning that if he strips down again he will be termed or was it the first time it happened?

I'm also confused as you would report it to your licensing rep? Is there something deeper going on where you think the boy is being abused? Reading your post it sounds like this was the first time so maybe I'm not getting a complete picture of what really happened?

[Play Care]

Maybe I'm not understanding the full picture. A 4 year old decides to show 3 other boys himself. No, not appropriate, but unless it has happened over and over again, then it's totally normal. Was there a pattern of this and you had given the parents warning that if he strips down again he will be termed or was it the first time it happened?

I'm also confused as you would report it to your licensing rep? Is there something deeper going on where you think the boy is being abused? Reading your post it sounds like this was the first time so maybe I'm not getting a complete picture of what really happened?

I'm not sure what you don't understand. :confused: In the OP she states she had talked to mom without results regarding the child's behavior and had to send him home due to behavior in the past. I don't think that's a step most providers use lightly.
She admitted this was the first time he exposed himself but in the context of other, more serious behavioral issues that parents ignored, I can totally see why a provider would not want to "go there."

[treyes]

This was the first time he exposed himself to kids, but he had previously exposed himself to his teachers. When I talked to mom about it she acted like it was no big deal, she just told him "don't do that".

If someone told me that my child has exposed themselves to anyone else I would take it very seriously.

Also in the same day he had shoved a table so hard it hit another kid in the stomach that was sitting across from him, he slapped another boy, punched a kid, and laid on top of another child holding her down. Every time he did something he said he was being a dinosaur, or spiderman or whatever he is pretending to be.

When he is separated from the kids he screams and throws a tantrum. One day he threw my tables and chairs all over the room, grabbed my blinds and tried to rip them off the window. When I call mom and he puts his hands over his ears and refuses to listen to her, I have to put her on speakerphone so he can hear her.

Mom tells me she refuses to put him on medication (he's been to a behavior specialist).

I am afraid he is going to end up hurting someone. Also I reported it to my rep to cover my butt because of the nature of what he did, I don't suspect abuse but I am not I their home.

[Josiegirl]

Wow, how long have you had this kid??? The collective behavior points to some real problems. You made a good call terminating him.

[treyes]

I have had this child since august. I'm worn out, .

[cheerfuldom]

I dont find this behavior normal or appropriate at all. Its one thing for a child to be curious about their bodies but it is another thing to purposefully and repeatedly expose yourself to others. Thats really alarming. I would term as well. There is only so much I can do as a provider and without the parents support, forget it. I am not subjected my own kids and my daycare families to a kid like that.