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Many MANY years ago I had a little girl who would only wear purple. Purple raincoat, winter coat, mud boots, everything had to be purple. I think she was 3 at the time. I'm thinking really??? And mama plays along with this when she's only 3??
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I do that as well. I put clothes I think are too worn or not weather appropriate or I rotate if I want her to try something new. I tell her to pick something out of the closet. She may say "where is my such and such shirt?" I tell her why it isn't available (the truth) and that is the end of it. I find talking about an item that isn't physically there gives me a better result then her holding it up.From very early, I did a "put away" for inappropriate clothing. In summer they have shorts and tshirts with appropriate footwear, and other things are put away. In winter, we switched. Basically, anything in their arsenal would be "appropriate for the season." From there, it was their choice. My kids wore some pretty awesome outfits. :
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It's easy. "She dressed herself today."
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I love to hear a parent say this just so I can embarrass them by getting their child to do what "they won't let me do". I will never understand how a parent could let their child punk them like this. That being said, I would only have an issue with a DCK's wardrobe if it was out of season. Shorts in the winter/flannel in the summer.Comment
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After reading this, it happened to me! 4 yo comes in t shirt and shorts (there is 6 inches of snow on the ground)! Parent says, "This is what he wanted and he threw a fit when I tried to get him to change." Parent leaves. I say "Such and such, its cold in here, it is time to change your clothes" He shrugs and says ok. He put his back up stuff on.
I realized there is another problem I see. Parents are still asking their children to do tasks instead of telling them. They do the sweet sing song "honey can you come put your shoes on?" I don't blame them as it is a hard habit to break. But when it fails, I do what I do in front of them: I get down to their level, look them in the eye and use my authoritative voice "such and such, it is time to leave. Go put your shoes on please" It works (almost) all the time.Comment
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This is the way to go, for sure.
I have had a child come in wearing clothing that is way too small simply because the parent cannot say no and the parent refuses to pack away the clothing that is too small so the child doesn't have that option in their closet. "Well, I tried to get him to change but..." :confused:Comment
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This made me smile My daughter is almost 4 and let her dress herself every day. She rarely matches by society's standards but she can explain why she choose outfits and her logic makes perfect sense. If she wanted to wear a Christmas outfit I'd be glad it was getting more use and never think of apologizing for it!
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I hear you all. I guess my point was that I hate it when parents will tell me that their child "won't let them". To me I don't care what they come dressed in, like today, my one daycare girl came in her jammies,which it is well below zero here and jammies would be so comfy to be in today so that is fine with me. But when parents say this statement to me about they won't let me, it just irks me because they are the parent and why do they let their child tell them what to do,if the parent doesn't want the child to do something, put their foot down and say No, but to say"they won't let me" is ridiculous. So that was my vent. It's like, who is the boss, the child or the parent! No way would I admit to anyone that my child"wouldn't let me",for heaven sakes, put your foot down and be a parent and parent.
I guess I just get so frustrated with how clueless parents can be today and let their child boss them around! I am from the old days where you are the parent and if you want your child to do something,yes you can give them a choice, but to allow your child to" not let you " is bologna, that is just the lazy way out and giving up on putting your foot down and disciplining. I'm not saying all parents do this, but just saying that in my opinion, It is so ridiculous to have a parent tell you that their child "would not let them"!
It's like Come on, your parent, put your foot down!
Sorry for the rant again. I'm not complaining about giving choices here, just how lame it sounds that parents use this excuse.Comment
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My 1 yr old dcg doesn't let her mom put on her shoes (even in -4 degree weather), doesn't let her take her pacifier, doesn't let her switch the hands her chocolate milk is in so mom can put her coat on, doesn't let her.... blah blah blah.
I don't get it either.Comment
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Oh, yes - I do agree that parents trying to say the child didn't let them would make me roll my eyes. Tempts me to undermine the parent a tiny bit at that moment by commending the child for making such a big girl choice of what they were wearing today. *snicker*Comment
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I wouldn't worry about it so long as it was weather appropriate for the child and fit the child right, and the parent didn't care if it got dirty through play during the day- Parents battle to be had. Some parents are just lazy, some are just carefree, some are all about the child making choices.Comment
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I hear you, seems to be the parenting trend. I agree with you. It is like nails on a chalkboard when a parent says.........the child wouldn't let me for a provider. Give me a break!!! Who is the parent.
The clothing thing I responded to already, that wouldn't bother me unless it was not weather appropriate, too small or too big, or an issue- like the kid won't stop twirling to the point of being annoying to others or possibly getting hurt in that pretty fluffy skirt. If the child doesn't match- yes it bothers my eyes but not enough to make it an issue.Comment
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I cant say anything because my three year old has been wearing the same christmas tree outfit several times since December ended. so maybe i am not in control here
"God said, ‘I have found David son of Jesse, a man after my own heart. He will do everything I want him to do.'"
Acts 13:22Comment
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Exact same thing happens here
The exact same scenario happens here sometimes with a 2.5 yr old DCG...except it is a princess dress that she comes in. DCM says "She wouldn't let me take it off". Whatever. I have it off within a few minutes after she leaves. She has it on over her regular clothes. She gets here right before I have to take the SA kids to school, I will NOT be trying to put her in a carseat with a princess dress on(they live 2 houses down, so they walk her here and back). Sure, when I take the dress off, DCG has a little fit and pouts, but she is over it quickly and forgets about it. Personally I think they just don't want to deal with the screaming fit, and hand the problem off to me to deal with. 
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