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My normally happy-go-lucky has lately become surly and obnoxious. I know it's her age- 22 months. But it's driving me crazy. My son just got out of this stage. If someone comes near her or looks at her crooked, she bursts into tears and whines. Everything is no and mine. I know it's part of being two, but she's coddled in a lot of things at home and it's driving me nuts here. Mom is expecting me to hold her and rock her to sleep. Told her I couldn't do that. My son is high need & if he naps, I'm nursing him to sleep. Otherwise, I'll have my 18yr old take him upstairs away from the others. I also have a 4 month old that just started with me and we're still trying to get into a sleep routine and learn how to soothe... I think her parents kind of just let her do whatever, as far as small stuff goes, b/c she's constantly trying to walk around with food, takes other kids' food, climbs all over my furniture, etc. Hard to keep reinforcing rules when they're different at home. Aside from the normal annoying toddler stuff, the family is pretty good. They always pay on time, and are considerate, though they always drop off late. I don't mind it during the winter though, b/c I'm not going anywhere. Mom is pregnant & due in a couple months & I just found out she has 12 wks of paid leave & is taking an additional 6 months after that! I need to find out if theyplan on hlding their spot though... Anyways, just ranting and seeing if anyone has any advice. Basically she went from a sturdy farm girl(yup-lives on a farm) to a prissy whiny girl overnight.
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Aw, that sounds like a tough situation. One I have no advice for.... but I do feel for you. It's hard when a normally fun and happy-go-lucky kid turns sour over a small period of time.
You are probably right about it being terrible 2's but who knows.... kids are HARD puzzles to figure out.
Maybe someone else will have some suggestions.
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I have a 19 month old that went through that very same thing literally last week. I love him to death but he all the sudden started hitting kids with toys in the back of the head, he was throwing food, he was acting CRAZY. So, the first day I thought, well, maybe he didn't get enough sleep over the weekend (it was a Monday) I talked to the parents and they were so sorry, said he just started acting up, so we all agreed to act swiftly, and not give him an inch of room to misbehave. On Wednesday, he had 9 time outs. On Thursday, he spent the entire day shadowing me. On Friday, I let him back in with the kids and warned him if he misbehaved (hitting, throwing food, etc) he would get time out or have to stay with me. Although, he can only say a few words, I learned really quick that he understood me completely. He didn't act out at all on Friday and so far this week he has been AMAZING!
All I have to say is be super consistent, get the parents to do it as well at home. I have a new DCG that is his little sister, she is only 3 months old, which I think may have been part of the problem, maybe because she got so much attention, but that is no excuse, he is not allowed to act that way. I was EXHAUSTED by Friday. Seriously, on top of it, I found out I had a sinus infection, so the week was a rough one, but well worth it.
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I would guess big sis is freaking out now that baby stuff and baby talk are in full swing at home with mom prepping for little sis. I would write up a handout right now regarding maternity leave and any policies about holding spots and make her commit by a certain deadline and pay any holding fees, etc. Do not hold this spot for free for 9 months!Comment
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I wrote this same post about 5 months ago! The DCB I had was super whiney, possessive, coddled, etc but mom pays great, always on time and typically a great DCM except she always dropped him off sick! Ugh! Anyway, a lot was from being sick and crabby and over tired and not sleeping well from being sick. He wouldn't sleep long at all throwing off everyone's nap because he would scream bloody murder the moment he woke up from nap! Ugh! Then mom gave me notice and has since put him in Jr Preschool!
It really caused me a lot of stress and I was considering terming when she gave notice so I just stuck it out the 2mos until he left.
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There's no way I'm holding a spot for free.
I'll charge half my rate to hold it. If they want to gamble since I don't really ever fill up (my choice), then that's on them.My ultimate goal is to get super organized with my resale shop on etsy so I can list all the vintage items I have for sale & then start turning more of a profit from that and not have to watch kids, unless I want to part time.
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