Just Blows My Mind....

[lilcupcakes09]

DCB here today, he told me yesterday grandparents are coming in from out of town today.....really excited. But they ended coming in early overnight last night. Why is he here today??? He told me after he got here this morning everyone is home still asleep! Unfortunately this is one of those parents I have to make keep their child home(ie taking off days where they are forced to keep him home). Any other day they are off and I am open he is here, it really saddens me for the child I so have the urge to call his parents and ask what the heck is wrong with them!

[wabbittrouble]

My advice? Get used to it. After 20 years it still blows my mind that parents would regularly do this but it never changes.

[JoseyJo]

DCB here today, he told me yesterday grandparents are coming in from out of town today.....really excited. But they ended coming in early overnight last night. Why is he here today??? He told me after he got here this morning everyone is home still asleep! Unfortunately this is one of those parents I have to make keep their child home(ie taking off days where they are forced to keep him home). Any other day they are off and I am open he is here, it really saddens me for the child I so have the urge to call his parents and ask what the heck is wrong with them!

Yep- one of the reasons I am getting out. My skin just isn't thick enough for today's parents. The heartbreak for the kiddos day in and day out is too much for me!

[Maria2013]

most of my dcks misbehave severally in the presence of their parents, no wonder they get dropped off even when they could stay home....I wish parents would demand respect from the kids from day one, that way they could enjoy their kids on days off rather than push them away

they all seem to think their kids behavior will improve on its own after the "terrible twos" (or threes or fours....) if they only knew how much easier their life would be if they took care of the issues NOW instead of ignoring it

[cheerfuldom]

yup. get used to it. sometimes there are good reasons for it but if the parents never ever do anything with their kid unless forced to, well I guess you know then that they just don't enjoy their kids and don't have desire to be around them. grandparents are the same.....some are kid people and some are definitely not.

[Naptime yet?]

Sometimes I feel like people have kids because it's like "keeping up with the Jonses"; have to have 2.2 kids 2 years apart, have to have a boy & a girl...and a puppy, to boot

[Cradle2crayons]

Sometimes I feel like people have kids because it's like "keeping up with the Jonses"; have to have 2.2 kids 2 years apart, have to have a boy & a girl...and a puppy, to boot

Don't forget the picket fence

[KIDZRMYBIZ]

Yes, most definately get used to it. I was quite disgusted and growing really unhappy with this line of work until I decided that I wasn't going to be able to change dcp's commitment to their kids.

When a parent tells me they are not working when they drop off, I tell them flat out that I don't need to know that, and neither does their child. These days, if I need to speak with them, it's always on their cell, so I don't need to know what you're doing.

Parents tell me all the time that the kids have more fun here/are too bored with mom or dad/misbehave too much at home for them to get anything done/blah, blah, blah. And some dck's do cry or whine when they find out they won't be coming one day or on Fridays. I just glow knowing that they love it here so much, and feel like such a superior parent compared to their incompetences.

Not all parents today are so lazy, but most are. Parenting is very different now than it was a decade ago. All I needed was a little attitude self-adjustment to enjoy my daycare again!

[melilley]

Yes, most definately get used to it. I was quite disgusted and growing really unhappy with this line of work until I decided that I wasn't going to be able to change dcp's commitment to their kids.

When a parent tells me they are not working when they drop off, I tell them flat out that I don't need to know that, and neither does their child. These days, if I need to speak with them, it's always on their cell, so I don't need to know what you're doing.

Parents tell me all the time that the kids have more fun here/are too bored with mom or dad/misbehave too much at home for them to get anything done/blah, blah, blah. And some dck's do cry or whine when they find out they won't be coming one day or on Fridays. I just glow knowing that they love it here so much, and feel like such a superior parent compared to their incompetences.

Not all parents today are so lazy, but most are. Parenting is very different now than it was a decade ago. All I needed was a little attitude self-adjustment to enjoy my daycare again!

Great post! I need to start thinking this way. I only have 1 mom who does this and it really bothers me, but really, it's none of my business that she brings her dcb here every day she has off. I shouldn't let it bother me and it is great when the dcp's say their child loves it here!
I guess that can be one of my New Year's resolutions- to do an attitude self-adjustment on myself!

[TwinKristi]

Yes, most definately get used to it. I was quite disgusted and growing really unhappy with this line of work until I decided that I wasn't going to be able to change dcp's commitment to their kids.

When a parent tells me they are not working when they drop off, I tell them flat out that I don't need to know that, and neither does their child. These days, if I need to speak with them, it's always on their cell, so I don't need to know what you're doing.

Parents tell me all the time that the kids have more fun here/are too bored with mom or dad/misbehave too much at home for them to get anything done/blah, blah, blah. And some dck's do cry or whine when they find out they won't be coming one day or on Fridays. I just glow knowing that they love it here so much, and feel like such a superior parent compared to their incompetences.

Not all parents today are so lazy, but most are. Parenting is very different now than it was a decade ago. All I needed was a little attitude self-adjustment to enjoy my daycare again!

Great post!! I hear this a lot too from one family but I just don't think they know what to do because the DCB is a little delayed and he's an only child in a house full of single adults, his mom, Grandma, uncle and Great grandpa. Here there are other kids, outside play area with toys, he gets to just play, have fun and eat! Of course he likes it here better. We also have structure and rules! No one wants to hear him cry and at 27 mos is just now talking at probably a 12-15 mos level so he's cried a lot! They pick him up and carry him around and have to lay with him to get him to sleep and so on. Here he isn't like that at all. I understand why mom would rather him be here but the grandma often gets upset that she doesn't keep him home with her. But the funny part is when grandma has his, she brings him here too! LOL she even said today that she was looking forward to having kid free time! I don't mind having him here, regardless of where mom is. She pays and that's what matters! I've even kept him overnight and on weekend before and grandma can't know. Haha!

[Unregistered]

I fixed the problem. I put in my contract that I watch kids only when their parents are at work. It truly has cut down on a lot of nonsense. Now I do get the odd ones who have things to do but they've been with me for a long time and r good families so I don't mind.

[Cradle2crayons]

I fixed the problem. I put in my contract that I watch kids only when their parents are at work. It truly has cut down on a lot of nonsense. Now I do get the odd ones who have things to do but they've been with me for a long time and r good families so I don't mind.

same here! Problem solved.

[Soccermom]

I have learned through the years that the only way to get DCPS to keep their kids at home with them is to only charge them for the time needed. If you charge them for the full week they will bring them for the full week. If you charge them for 3 days and they miss a day, they will beg you to take them on a Friday or something so they can get some things done around the house even though they are off.

I only charge per day when my SA kids come and it is amazing how often DCPS will go pick them up from school or keep them home on a snow day.

It is almost like they need to feel like they are getting their money's worth from daycare. I think that is the mentality of our society today. It is like that with anything. If you pay for a 3 course meal and aren't really hungry for the dessert...you will make room because you paid for it...KWIM?

It is sad because these are children and most children prefer to be at home with their parents or grandparents when they can. Sure they have fun here with us but if a child prefers spending time with his DP to spending time with his family, then I believe there is something very very wrong at home (IMHO).

My DCKS have a blast here, laughing and playing but they still ask me several times at the end of the day when their parents will arrive. It breaks my heart knowing that DCD was off work at 3pm but yet here it is 5pm and he is still not here to PU DCG. Looking into those little eyes just yearning for him to walk through the door makes me tear up sometimes.

Dead daycare parents - Your children love you and want to be with you!! You are paying for a service that is available to help you while you go out and make a living in order to be able to provide for your family. Yes it is XX$ per week but that doesn't mean you need to have your kids here every minute that the daycare is open in order to get your money's worth!! Sure you paid for Friday and would like to get some groceries and housework done since you are not working but don't bring your DCK here ....have Jr. help you do it!! How else are children supposed to learn how to behave in public if they are dropped off at DC every time you need to run errands?? How are they supposed to learn how to do housework if they never see you do it because you drop them off at daycare or pick them up late to get things done!!?? Children need to spend every single minute possible with their parents, watching them, listening to them, learning from them...that is how they bond with you!! Stop worrying about the $$ and start thinking about what is best for your child! Yes it's hard to shop with a toddler, yes it is hard to clean with a child under foot, yes it is nice to get your hair done sometimes but your child is young one time! They grow up so fast, please don't let their memories be flooded with visions of their DP, fill their little minds with memories of doing simple things with you!! Yes they misbehave, yes they cry, yes they test their limits with you because they don't spend enough time with you! They know their limits at DC and they are trying to learn what their limits are with you. Teach them. Show them. Discipline them. Spend time with them. Let them know that money is no object when it comes to them. Your child wants you to want to be with them and don't kid yourself into thinking that they don't have a clue. They see the other kids getting picked up early, they know that a DCK didn't come today because his Mom wasn't working. They are not stupid. They know.

Sorry for the rant....that is all LOL!

[Naptime yet?]

Amen, Soccermom!