Mom is Dying..DCPs Mean

[Unregistered]

Honestly, if a home care provider were caring for my child, I would embrace her like an extended family member. What you are dealing with now is tough, and I am sending you hugs. I thought parents used a home provider to get a small, intimate environment . That works both ways, the parents should be prepared for and help out when something happens and the provider needs off. Otherwise, they may as well be at a center. We all know that if something happens in a day care family , the home providers are quick to offer a hand. Maybe some parents don't see it that way.

[Scout]

:hug: Wishing you peace to deal with all this!

[hgonzalez]

Thanks for all of your support. I was with my Mom last night and was up most of the night. I decided to take a day off to get myself pulled together.

I sent a text message last night saying all parents should check their text messages in the morning for an update. All but one family responded. I texted this morning and they did not respond again. So rude.

There is no hope for my Mom, she is 89 and stopped eating last week, then had a major stroke. She is in hospice care and dying. It is just lasting longer than we had hoped for her. The hardest part is that she is awake and looking at us and getting teary. Really hard to watch.

It's really difficult to work with young children when this is going on. I don't expect them to understand, but they also seem to act up even more when I am run down. I do expect adults to understand, and if anyone doesn't, they can leave my daycare. I am that fed up.

[JoseyJo]

Prayers for you and your family :hug:

[AfterSchoolMom]

So sorry to hear this. :hug:

[melilley]

So sorry :hug:

I'm also sorry that they are treating you like this, it's so sad that people can't be sympathetic, especially people (dcp's) who you give care to their little loved ones every day. So sad for them to be like that.

I lost my dad 11 yrs. ago and was with him in hospice when he passed. I worked at a center at the time and my mom called my director and she knew what was going on and all she could say was "what's the problem". People are so rude. Please take any time you need, you'll regret it if you don't.

[Meeko]

Sounds like you have some real sub human daycare families

Time to clean house when you are able.

Until then, much love to you as you go through this time. Try to focus on YOUR needs and on your sweet mom. :hug:lovethis

[Crazy8]

so sorry about your mom. :hug:

I have seen more and more how SELFISH people are. Everything is about them and if its not about them it just doesn't matter. Please take the vacation time you are due and spend time with your mom and do not worry about these families.

[Blackcat31]

Sending prayers. :hug:

[cheerfuldom]

Close now! Spend all this time with your mom while you can. Screw all this daycare stuff.....you do what is important to YOU!

how rude of all these parents. If my providers mom was doing so poorly, I would keep my kids home or send them elsewhere. Really, where is their compassion? Shame on them!

I am sorry you are going thru this! **hugs and prayers**

[Michelle]

some of these families remind me of families I have had in the past.
they would have emergencies with their families and I would be the first one to volunteer to keep the kids longer, be their "middle of the night-going into labor hero " anytime I can help someone in need I would do it.. until they do this to me.
I would definitely take your 10 days off effective immediately and let them try to find good care during this time of year.
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big hugs to you and your mom

[momofsix]

Prayers and hugs for you and your family.

[Moppetland]

Christmas is next week. I'm quite sure that most of the parents will be off for the holidays. I don't know what schedule you gave them for that, but I will start it now and go through the holidays. I wish you and your family well during this time, and a prayer for you and your mother. God bless.

[mema]

Sending prayers and hugs your way. Sorry you are having to deal with rude dcp's. I would probably just close and spend the time with mom. Don't worry about them (I know, easier said than done). If it was reversed, they would do what they needed to do also. Be with your family until you feel ready to come back.
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[kimsdaycare]

So sorry!

I have now made the mistake of choosing other families needs/wants over my own twice...yes twice!

My mother was in hospice for several weeks with cancer. My entire family surrounded her each and every day and night, except me. I needed to work and felt guilty even considering taking a day off at the time. Well I decided to use one sick day and took the night shift with her the evening before. She passed that evening. It was as if she had waiting for me to finally get some time with her before she left us. I so wish I had spent more time with her. Earlier in the week she could still speak, but because I had waited until I felt it was bad enough to justify the day off I had missed that opportunity. I regret that each and every day

Then, several years later when my father passed unexpectedly I literally worked the morning of his funeral to accomodate a favorite family's request for a partial day of care because they were really in a bind. They picked up late, I was then late to his funeral Years later I am still close to this family and I doubt they even remember I did this for them. On the other hand, my entire family remembers ONLY this fact from that time.

DCP's may be upset at first, but they WILL forget, I can promise you that. Our own families are a lifelong relationship, daycare families are temporary.

This is the most important moment in time you will ever have again with your mother. Please, please take this time to be with your family and don't even give it a second thought. Your mother needs to be your priority and you should make every attempt to do that for her. Families that do not understand that, do not deserve the sacrifice you would be making for them...ever.