Send DCB Home and Now Parents Say He's Fine

[Brooksie]

DCB was kept home Monday for congestion, runny nose and fussiness. Tuesday he seemed fine. Wednesday he was miserable all day, nothing was making him happy and had a good bit of snot. Today he was dropped off with a runny nose and mom said he hadn't slept well. Took 2 3 hour naps and was restless. She said he seemed fine this morning.

Right after breakfast the fussing started. He he was only content for a couple minutes at a time and then would whine and yell about everything. He went down for a nap at 10:30 and slept until 1 and woke up MISERABLE. Screaming and crying, snot pouring down his face. I couldn't get him calmed down for over 45 minutes. I texted mom and dad to pick up because my policy states dramatic change in personality, thick mucous and extreme listlessness (waking up from a 2.5 hour nap EXHAUSTED).

Mom seemed understanding, dad picked up with a massive attitude. I sent mom a text saying "I know its an inconvenience and I'm sorry but this is my policy blah blah blah". Mom texted back saying she was home now and dcb was totally fine. Playing and laughing (dcb is 12 mo). I told her that's not what I saw, I saw at least 3 things that exclude him from care. She said what she see does not justify him being kept home but will keep him home tomorrow per my request.

She then said she was going to send me a video of how "ok" he was but the file was too large. I'm super ticked off. I mean come on! Its not that I don't believe what their saying they are seeing but its clear they don't trust what I'M saying. What do I do? I'm about to term care because clearly they have a problem with my policy and my judgement.

[Blackcat31]

Tell her that's the difference between recovering in the comfort of your own home/bed verses being expected to recover in Walmart.

Of course he is fine at home. There aren't any crying, loud, busy kids running around....and of course Mom is there too...

What doesn't she get about that?!?!

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Bet she highly medicated him...

I had this happen last week. I said sorry, but it is in my policies.

[Brooksie]

I'm so irritated. This is my family that I had to put on ate pick up probation after the first month of care. I really just feel like they have no respect for my policies. Last time this kid had a bug bite and his face swelled the dr gave him antibiotics and the mom gave me a sob story about how he HAD to come to care because she was a social worker and this family this. I accepted the kids back because I did believe that it was just a bug bite and not sinus swelling or whatever. But its always something. They are always challenging my policies and I'm tried of it.

[TwinKristi]

I have a mom who sends me pics of her DS at work with her after vomiting, having left with a fever, contagious illness, etc. like "look, he's fine now!"

I would just reiterate that recovering in your own home, with a 1 on 1 parent is MUCH different than at daycare with perhaps up to 7 other children and 1 person! You just don't have the ability to provide more than normal care for their child. I wouldn't say you're sorry either. DCM I spoke about has made me feel horrible for sending him home before or having to have her get him once when I ended up getting sick mid-day. Everyone else got her quickly and said "no worries, everyone gets sick!" but that mom. She was asking if my 16yr old could watch him. I had my 18m old DS, plus my other 3 SA kids home and he had to help ME before watching her son! Then it took her like over an hour to get here and she wanted a snack and cup of water...

[originalkat]

Its amazing that 9 times out of 10 I have parents say their kid was just fine as soon as they got home and their fevers even magically disappeared and they never threw up again.::

This happens to me nearly every time I send a kid home and I rarely send a kid home...and I only have preschoolers so if I send them home it is for GOOD reason.
But it doesn't matter. The parents still say it. So you know what? I DO NOT ASK HOW DC KID IS DOING UNTIL AFTER THE 24 HOUR SYMPTOM FREE PERIOD!!! I ALSO DO NOT APOLOGIZE! Beacause honestly, I do not want to hear what they have to say. If I sent them home it was for good reason. I give them a paper that states when they may return to DC and I dont think about it again!!happyface

[MarinaVanessa]

She then said she was going to send me a video of how "ok" he was but the file was too large. I'm super ticked off. I mean come on! Its not that I don't believe what their saying they are seeing but its clear they don't trust what I'M saying. What do I do? I'm about to term care because clearly they have a problem with my policy and my judgement.

My response would've been:

"okay, and next time i'll take a video and show you all of the symptoms that I observe. BTW. Did you give him any medication when he got home?"

[NeedaVaca]

Bet she highly medicated him...

I had this happen last week. I said sorry, but it is in my policies.

[Brooksie]

He had no fever. I excluded because he was miserable, snotty and exhausted, all things that are in my sick policy. Its also in my policy that exclusion doesn't JUST mean with fever.

[sugar buzz]

I have a theory that this Daycare Generation is developing a mutation to carry all contagious diseases without fevers I was also sent a text video of a DCG jumping on the couch, after I sent her home. I just texted back: "Aren't kids resilient? My kids were jumping on the trampoline, while they had Strep Throat!"
Don't let her make you feel bad--you have to put your judgement first or your entire family will be blessed with the snots for the weekend. She's only thinking of herself. You're thinking of her, her child, the other children, your family, yourself.....If you're feeling sassy, you could say: "Oh, good. That tells me that I made the right choice because he/she wasn't fine here." Hey, we can send text videos, too. LOL!

[jenn]

I would just reply with "Glad he's doing better. See you Monday!" With some families, it's just not worth wasting your time. You followed your policies, he was obviously too ill to be there, so there is no need to justify yourself to them. If they are unhappy, they will either get over it or move on. Good for you for sticking to your policies.

[Brooksie]

I have a theory that this Daycare Generation is developing a mutation to carry all contagious diseases without fevers I was also sent a text video of a DCG jumping on the couch, after I sent her home. I just texted back: "Aren't kids resilient? My kids were jumping on the trampoline, while they had Strep Throat!"
Don't let her make you feel bad--you have to put your judgement first or your entire family will be blessed with the snots for the weekend. She's only thinking of herself. You're thinking of her, her child, the other children, your family, yourself.....If you're feeling sassy, you could say: "Oh, good. That tells me that I made the right choice because he/she wasn't fine here." Hey, we can send text videos, too. LOL!

I also start my part time job this weekend working in fine dining. I cannot have what he has. And I have to get this part time job because I DON"T GET PAID ENOUGH especially to deal with peoples sick kids.

[Brooksie]

Wow.... dcm posted the videos of dcb on facebook with cute and jesty comments... I'm not even going to watch them because I'm so ticked. I really do have half a mind to give them a term letter. I just don't know if its a good fit. They stress me out for no good reason.

"Mr B**** being silly!" "We caught this little man playing in the pantry throwing his head back and roaring like a little dinosaur . He is such a ham! I have another very cute one of him playing peekaboo with mommy but the file is too large to upload"

If anyone is wondering why we are friends on fb, dcb was here when he was younger. They left for job reasons and wanted back in immediately. Finally got him back 4 months later but became 'friends' in that time. Just chatting occasionally. Probably part of the problem...

They don't respect my policies and seem to feel entitled. I get it, when dcb was enrolled originally I had him and 1 other kids, first year in business, was taken advantage of a lot. Stand more strongly behind my policy and haven't have a problem with current families, but this one, now that they're back have been giving me so many problems..

[JoseyJo]

My hubby would say let her comments roll off your back like water off a duck. Stick to your policy and let her post whatever she wants. Obviously home is where he needed to be today since he was absolutely miserable at daycare and feeling so much better at home!

[MyAngels]

I would just reply with "Glad he's doing better. See you Monday!" With some families, it's just not worth wasting your time. You followed your policies, he was obviously too ill to be there, so there is no need to justify yourself to them. If they are unhappy, they will either get over it or move on. Good for you for sticking to your policies.

This, plus I'd go ahead and unfriend (is that the term?) her on Facebook.