3yo DCB Told His Mom None Of The Other Kids Like Him

[crazydaycarelady]

She asked me about it this morning and I told her I would keep an eye on it. I didn't have the heart to tell her that they in fact don't like him. It's not him, it is his behavior. He is the whiniest, cryingest, most babyish 3.5yo around. They just don't enjoy him.

The school district is having a screening this week to check kids for sight, hearing and development. She is taking him, at my suggestion, which I am glad for because his speech is very behind also.

I am making sure the kids include him but he just can't keep up physically (he is so clumsy) or any other way really. He is always 3 steps behind on everything.

[daycarediva]

That stinks! I have this kid, but he is oblivious to it for the most part. One of the kids even said today "C... is such a crybaby." For the record, C was crying about me asking him if he wanted more pears, when he still had one slice left. C cried because they wouldn't give him ALL the cars. C cried because everyone could put shoes on, but him.

C CRIES! The rest of my kids are (for the most part) non whiny, non crying, happy go lucky/easy going children.

[daycare]

I have one like this too, but it is off and on. The child is very bossy, loud, tattle tale, pushes, says mean things and never cooperates during play time. He is almost 5. I work very hard with the kid and often have to help him engage with the kids the right way.

I know it is because he is allowed to act like this at home and he is talked at instead of talked to, so he does the same exact thing to the other DCK.

The parents asked me about it one time and I told the parent, well often we are having issues with sharing, playing nicely and what not, but we are working on it. I also told the DCM that I have told DCK, when you are bossy, no one wants to play with you, so what can we do instead?

I think that the parents do need to be made aware, because the last thing you would want is for this kid to move on be bullied by others.

I tell my dck, you don't have to like so and so, but you do have to be nice. ONce they are over that, they normally will just hop right into play with everyone....

[crazydaycarelady]

I tell dcb to "stop whining" and "stop crying" all day long. Maybe I need to say "when you whine/tattle tale the other kids don't want to play with you." Maybe he would get it?

He can't get his shoes on either or get dressed/undressed. I know mom and dad just do it at home because it is faster. Yesterday I sat down and showed him how to undo his Velcro and open up his shoe to get it on. Today he comes to me with shoes in hand. I reminded him what I showed him yesterday and he was able to get them on.

Progress.......

[daycare]

I do tell my dck this all the time.....

dck will come to me and whine saying no one will play with me. I normally witness firsthand what and why, so I will tell DCK. when you talk that way to your friends, it hurts their feelings. Would you want to play with someone like that. He always says no. Of course, my DCK is almost 5, so he really gets it.

I think that if you identify how what the child is doing makes people fell, he will get it.

don't forget to also bring up the positive things too.

Like when I see my DCK doing something nice to or for someone, I will say, wow david, when you share with your friends that makes them feel happy, that was a very nice thing that you did. That makes me feel happy too.

This might help lead him in what you are wanting out of him

[countrymom]

you know, little kids can sense things. I have a feeling that the kids realize that he's behind or he's whiny and they don't want to play with him.

after a while, I wouldn't make the kids play with him either. let the kids do their own groove. I hate forcing kids to play with each other, because then I end up listening to more whinning and crying.

[daycare]

you know, little kids can sense things. I have a feeling that the kids realize that he's behind or he's whiny and they don't want to play with him.

after a while, I wouldn't make the kids play with him either. let the kids do their own groove. I hate forcing kids to play with each other, because then I end up listening to more whinning and crying.

sorry if I am reading this wrong, but I don't really think that it would be fair if the kids were allowed NOT to play with him because he is different. You are teaching the children that it's ok to treat him differently because of his issues.

I would be helping everyone to get along together. I would never force any child to do anything, but I am sure that as the adult, you could get the kids at this age to play together in a nice way.

like You sitting on the floor with this kid and playing a really cool game, the other kids will want to play to and you let them in. If DCK starts to whine or bother them, then you need to have the kids nicely tell DCK, when you do that, it hurts my feelings, or when you whine that hurts my ears. If you as the adult show acceptance and set the tone of what is acceptable, then all the children in care will do the same.

I would encourage all of the children instead of just letting them push this kid away.

[Play Care]

sorry if I am reading this wrong, but I don't really think that it would be fair if the kids were allowed NOT to play with him because he is different. You are teaching the children that it's ok to treat him differently because of his issues.

I would be helping everyone to get along together. I would never force any child to do anything, but I am sure that as the adult, you could get the kids at this age to play together in a nice way.

like You sitting on the floor with this kid and playing a really cool game, the other kids will want to play to and you let them in. If DCK starts to whine or bother them, then you need to have the kids nicely tell DCK, when you do that, it hurts my feelings, or when you whine that hurts my ears. If you as the adult show acceptance and set the tone of what is acceptable, then all the children in care will do the same.

I would encourage all of the children instead of just letting them push this kid away.