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agree on the bolded.
i think you may change a lot as you add to your own family. if I remember right, you have one child right OP?
My first child was full potty trained day and night by 26 months. She had a small potty in her room and would get up at night to go and would wipe herself and go back to bed on her own.
my second struggled so much. same parenting styles (and yes, I "AP" although I don't like labels....) she STILL has occasional accidents at 4.5 years old! She was in trainers or padded underwear options till close to 4.
my third is rounding the corner to 2.5. we have tried some introductions to potty training and she is very resistant but she is also physically delayed. she didnt start walking until 18 months and didnt start running till over 2 years old. getting on and off the potty is very challenging and scary for her. it will be a miracle if she is potty trained before 3 years old.
EVERY kid is different. It has nothing to do with what parenting techniques you use. Yes there are some that seem to make more sense than others but there is no perfect way to parent. no techniques that reach every child. no standards that every kid is going to reach.
I really think that you are being too hard on other parents, or at least that is the way your post is coming across. I am a huge supporter of co sleeping, breast feeding, baby wearing, cloth diapering, natural birth, etc, but the reason why I dont use the AP label is because the label has a bad connotation. people think of superior moms that judge working moms, formula feeding moms, parents that choose to crib sleep, etc. the term excludes others as if there is only one way to be an attached, responsive, bonded parent.
AP type parents do look for childcare. They want providers that are long term and able to bond with their child and provide as close to as possible what they are getting at home. I work for parents like this. No I cannot breastfeed their child but I can bond with them. I can't co sleep but I can make sure their sleeping environment is peaceful. I do wear infants, offering cloth diapering services and I would EC a daycare kid too although no one has ever asked.
I am with Daycare on this one....too much judgment coming from your posts. I hope that is just me reading the tone on the messages incorrectly and not really how you are intending to come across. I think with time you will see that there are many effective ways to nurturing and connecting with kids outside of strict AP standards. AP standards are wonderful parenting tools but by far, not the only tools in the toolbox. just something to think about. I think you should give parents and kids a chance to prove your impression wrong. It was just a hair cut (which will probably be cut soon or you can put it in a pony at daycare) , just a sippy or bottle (which you dont have to use at daycare) and an un potty trained 2 year old (super common). Seems like all things that can be overcome easily and if you gain a family that pays their bills, treats you respectfully and a child that can be a great addition to your group, that sounds pretty good to me.
i think you may change a lot as you add to your own family. if I remember right, you have one child right OP?
My first child was full potty trained day and night by 26 months. She had a small potty in her room and would get up at night to go and would wipe herself and go back to bed on her own.
my second struggled so much. same parenting styles (and yes, I "AP" although I don't like labels....) she STILL has occasional accidents at 4.5 years old! She was in trainers or padded underwear options till close to 4.
my third is rounding the corner to 2.5. we have tried some introductions to potty training and she is very resistant but she is also physically delayed. she didnt start walking until 18 months and didnt start running till over 2 years old. getting on and off the potty is very challenging and scary for her. it will be a miracle if she is potty trained before 3 years old.
EVERY kid is different. It has nothing to do with what parenting techniques you use. Yes there are some that seem to make more sense than others but there is no perfect way to parent. no techniques that reach every child. no standards that every kid is going to reach.
I really think that you are being too hard on other parents, or at least that is the way your post is coming across. I am a huge supporter of co sleeping, breast feeding, baby wearing, cloth diapering, natural birth, etc, but the reason why I dont use the AP label is because the label has a bad connotation. people think of superior moms that judge working moms, formula feeding moms, parents that choose to crib sleep, etc. the term excludes others as if there is only one way to be an attached, responsive, bonded parent.
AP type parents do look for childcare. They want providers that are long term and able to bond with their child and provide as close to as possible what they are getting at home. I work for parents like this. No I cannot breastfeed their child but I can bond with them. I can't co sleep but I can make sure their sleeping environment is peaceful. I do wear infants, offering cloth diapering services and I would EC a daycare kid too although no one has ever asked.
I am with Daycare on this one....too much judgment coming from your posts. I hope that is just me reading the tone on the messages incorrectly and not really how you are intending to come across. I think with time you will see that there are many effective ways to nurturing and connecting with kids outside of strict AP standards. AP standards are wonderful parenting tools but by far, not the only tools in the toolbox. just something to think about. I think you should give parents and kids a chance to prove your impression wrong. It was just a hair cut (which will probably be cut soon or you can put it in a pony at daycare) , just a sippy or bottle (which you dont have to use at daycare) and an un potty trained 2 year old (super common). Seems like all things that can be overcome easily and if you gain a family that pays their bills, treats you respectfully and a child that can be a great addition to your group, that sounds pretty good to me.
. But other than that I could care less how long their hair gets. Lol
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