WWYD? The kid said this............

[daycare]

Every day my preschoolers draw a picture in their journals and then I come and talk with them about their pictures. Then I will ask them what do you want me to write about your picture.

Well yesterday during journals we were talking about what they are afraid of. We read a book about a being scared before hand. One of my kids who is quite the story teller drew a picture of his parents yelling at him and when I asked him, what do you want me to write he said: " I am scared when people yell at me"

I was not sure what to do at that point, so I just wrote it down, moved on, did not mention another word about it.



BTW this kid comes from a great home, is spoiled rotten, is a HUGE handful..the last few weeks the DCM has been telling me that they have had several episodes of massive meltdowns and really bad behavior.

Should I let this paper go home? DO I talk to him about it more? Do I talk to the parents about it?


WWYHD?

[Unregistered]

I would just hold on to it. Dated. And drop it for now.

[SilverSabre25]

Let it go.

*I* get scared when people yell at me. I get scared when people yell, period.

[Blackcat31]

Sounds pretty normal to me.

Only you know this child and whether or not you think this is an out of line statement or not.

If the only thing that really scares him is being yelled at then I would say he is probably a pretty good kid that doesn't get yelled at often. Hence, why it's scarey.

Bottom line though, is only YOU know if it's something that needs to be addressed or not.

I'd document it for sure...but then again, I document everything. But I still would.

[daycare]

thanks for the advise. I think that I will just date it like suggested and add it to his file...

I am sure that the child is just recalling something that happened, and not necessarily to him. I also was not sure to even bring it up to the parents, because the kid tells tall tales all the time.......

[itlw8]

I would treat it just as you do all the other journal entries. It is scary if you get yelled at . The does not mean the parents did anything wrong or even loud. If they normally see them then maybe it will make them think or even talk about it...

[permanentvacation]

I would do the same thing with this journal entry that you normally do with the journal entries. If you usually send them home, send this one home too.

I would have, at the time that I asked him/her to explain their picture to me, asked about them getting yelled at. I would have asked things like "what do they say when they yell at you" "what happened the last time you got yelled at, (try to find out what made the parents yell and how extremely they yelled) or asked something like, "what do you usually get yelled at you for?," If he said something to the effect that he actually did something wrong and his parents yelled at him for doing it, I would discuss with him that when he does things he knows not to do, he should expect to get in trouble. It's your parents' job to teach you right from wrong and if you do things that you know are wrong, you will get in trouble.

Children often call it 'getting yelled at' or 'getting in big trouble' when it was a simple little thing that they got in trouble for and the parent/caregiver simply fussed at them a little bit. Especially with you saying that this child is spoiled rotten and a handful. Sounds like maybe his parents are getting tired of his spoiled behaviors and are starting to correct him. But he's just not used to being corrected.