How Would You Handle This?

[littleblossoms]

DCB 13 month been with me two months. He has always geen held by mom and grandma or who ever is around.

Apparently he does not like floor, playing by himself and so on.

He screamed for the first four weeks of care. As i let him CIO did i do the right thing?
Then it got better where he can play but he now sleeps all day.

Only on bottle milk will not eat some days.

I also need advice how to reduce the bottle?

Get him to play? I tried holding him with toys nope, i tried putting the toys in the playpen nope, he will not branch to play.

He is also like this in his own home and cry all the time at home.

Today he was dropped off by grandma not his regular routine, he was late, someone else dropping off. I was changing diapers at the same time. So i put the child in the playpen as soon as he was dropped off so i can finished taking care of the children i was tending to before he dropped off. His grandma saw what i did and said why did you put him in the playpen. I said he was crying and i wanted to finished off what i was doing with the other kids.

She did not say anything else but she was not happy.


Also when the chld cry he drolls so much he does not close his mouth so all his slavia is on the floor and i cant handle that part.

Remember this child cries less in the playpen thou

Am i doing the right thing?

[ihop]

No real advice here but I try to remind myself that it may not be the "right" thing according to some, but if it's my only option at that time and it Is reasonable then why am I hassling myself about it. Otherwise I find myself constantly questioning how I a doing and I get insecure for no reason

[playdate4]

No advice here either but you did the right think putting him in pnp safety is first..:hug:

[cara041083]

I had a child like this for about 8 months. I don't have him anymore, but I have spoke to his mom and he hasn't changed. In my case, he was happy in the play pin and not happy around other kids. He would freak out when I would try to hold him, or if I sat on the floor to play he would freak at the thought of interaction. In the whole 8 months I had him he probley ate 2 times at my house. I would always give him lunch, snack, and he would just look at it and that was that. Also he still had a bottle of milk ALL THE TIME at home. Well one of the rules here is you don't walk around with bottles, if you want a drink its on the drink table in the kitchen and its from a sippy cup. Well after I tried to talk to mom about it. Her response was "ya he doesn't like to be messed with". I'm pretty sure he had something going on that needed to be evaluated. However I truly think his parents just didn't want to deal with him so they just gave him his bottle and put the tv on. (one of the things that really set him off here was no tv) I eventually had to term. So my advise would be to sit down and speak to his parents about all the red flags you see. Hopefully they are the parents that say "ok lets call the doc or someone and start there". And what I did was I wrote up the meeting and had the parents, and myself sign it so that way it was documented that we tried to work it out. Or they are going to be like my DCP and just ignore it and its not going to get better. In my case it got worse as he got older so I had to term. It was one the best things I did for myself and my other kids. Good luck:hug:

[BrooklynM]

DCB 13 month been with me two months. He has always geen held by mom and grandma or who ever is around.

Apparently he does not like floor, playing by himself and so on.

He screamed for the first four weeks of care. As i let him CIO did i do the right thing?
Then it got better where he can play but he now sleeps all day.

Only on bottle milk will not eat some days.

I also need advice how to reduce the bottle?

Get him to play? I tried holding him with toys nope, i tried putting the toys in the playpen nope, he will not branch to play.

He is also like this in his own home and cry all the time at home.

Today he was dropped off by grandma not his regular routine, he was late, someone else dropping off. I was changing diapers at the same time. So i put the child in the playpen as soon as he was dropped off so i can finished taking care of the children i was tending to before he dropped off. His grandma saw what i did and said why did you put him in the playpen. I said he was crying and i wanted to finished off what i was doing with the other kids.

She did not say anything else but she was not happy.


Also when the chld cry he drolls so much he does not close his mouth so all his slavia is on the floor and i cant handle that part.

Remember this child cries less in the playpen thou

Am i doing the right thing?

To reduce the bottle I would recommend that you put water in it. Maybe right before naptime (s), give him a bottle with milk so it comforts him? He can't help the drool at all, some kids just drool more than others and he may be teething.

It has been 2 months now. Maybe you can talk to the mom very openly and see if you guys can come up with a plan together. I'm sure she wants her baby to be happy just as much as you do! Hang in there and try to be as soothing and loving as possible with the baby. He is probably frustrated about something and can't tell you. Lower your expectations of him and see if you can find any "wins" (a smile here and there, a sparkle in his eye when he sees a ball, something). It's frustrating when you don't have that attachment with some babies. Hopefully things will get better:hug:

[cheerfuldom]

honestly it sounds like he needs to be home with a single caregiver. i dont know how or why you would put up with a demanding crier for 8 weeks, sounds horrible. i would just let him go.

there are some things that may improve with time and a lot of work and patience but you arent going to change who he is. it sounds like he is a high maintenance kiddo so either you can handle that long term or you cant.

[daycare]

just curious, what state are you in?

In CA, we can not put children in a crib or pnp unless they are sleeping.....



I agree with the others, if it has been 3 weeks and the child is not improving after much talk with the parents, you might want to let go and move on

[BrooklynM]

just curious, what state are you in?

In CA, we can not put children in a crib or pnp unless they are sleeping.....



I agree with the others, if it has been 3 weeks and the child is not improving after much talk with the parents, you might want to let go and move on

I'm in California as well. My inspector said that there are times for example if you are changing another child you can put the baby in a PNP for a couple of minutes to keep them out of harms reach. I actually asked specifically about it. He said you can't just keep them in there for a long amount of time, but if you need to sit them in there to keep them safe while you are doing something else, he said it is fine and he recommends it. I think that all of the inspectors are so different. It's frustrating to say the least because so many other providers told me things that were not in line with what my rep told me. What county are you in?

[daycare]

I'm in California as well. My inspector said that there are times for example if you are changing another child you can put the baby in a PNP for a couple of minutes to keep them out of harms reach. I actually asked specifically about it. He said you can't just keep them in there for a long amount of time, but if you need to sit them in there to keep them safe while you are doing something else, he said it is fine and he recommends it. I think that all of the inspectors are so different. It's frustrating to say the least because so many other providers told me things that were not in line with what my rep told me. What county are you in?

yes we talk about that alot on here about all the GREY areas of licensing in CA..When I had my last inspection I was told very firmly....ONLY FOR SLEEPING....

silly if you ask me...I agree sometimes the PNP/Crib is the safer place to be when we can't have our eyes on them for a short period of time...