Ear Tube Surgery

[Blackcat31]

So to sum this up:

-she didn't and had no plans to disclose that the child had more than just tube surgery yesterday
-surgery that directly involved his airway
-he's on an undisclosed pain medication
-stronger than OTC pain medication he's likely never been on before
-meds you cannot continue to give as directed in your care

And you took him today why??!!!

Not trying to be rude in my bluntness but holy buckets, none of the above would EVER fly with me!!!!!

Would be one thing if mom had been honest and open from the get go but she wasn't, and continued on with murky clarity. Not only would I not have accepted her today had she shown up at my door but she'd be lucky if she still had a spot at all as I likely would have termed effective immediately. Withholding information about a child having surgery (I don't give a rip how minor) and being on more than just OTC pain medication is just SICK.

This is pretty much what I was going to say....

NO way would I have provided services to someone who can't even be honest with you.

Personally, I too would have termed the second she admitted to not being truthful.

Wow! Wonder how much other info she has with held?

[Blackcat31]

This family honestly has always done things "on the fly", which has resulted in me reminding them on policy multiple times. I gave in this time though since she had a dr note saying dcb is "cleared for normal daycare activities."

As far as I know, he has only been on acetaminophen. I have decided that if he needs ibuprofen today then he needs to go home. But you are right, she was supposed to tell me he had his adenoids out via text yesterday and she never did.

She is always one to wait to text me important info at the last minute (i.e, needing an early drop off or late pick up...texted that at 10pm once so now I have a list of late drop offs from her up until December) so I guess I just didn't think about how upset I should be that she dropped the ball and didn't tell me until I asked her this morning. Honestly, I was blindsided and so let it go due to the dr note and dcb acting normal. Lesson learned...

THAT is classic behavior of someone who KNOWS her actions are less then ethical but can't quite work up the character to just be honest and open.

She purposely didn't tell you a lot of things because she KNEW when you were blindsided by this, you would do exactly what you did.

I guarantee you this kind of relationship will end badly.


I'm sorry you are in this situation but honestly, I would give her a call and tell her you have had a chance to really think this over and you don't think it is a good idea for him to be in care. He needs his mother and to be able to recuperate in the comfort of his own home. POOR KID.

[Familycare71]

I believe when my daughter had her adenoids out it was an increased risk of bleeding for about 3 days- Tylenol over Advil because it doesn't thin the blood.
Doctors too should be ashamed of themselves!!! Oking kids for daycare so soon-

[Meyou]

I hemorrhaged 24 hours after my adenoid surgery. It was scary, very dangerous and I was 17. I can't imagine a parent taking a child to DC with that danger.

[Willow]

I hemorrhaged 24 hours after my adenoid surgery. It was scary, very dangerous and I was 17. I can't imagine a parent taking a child to DC with that danger.

I had the same thing happen with a daycare child who about two weeks post op had her scabs dislodge in my care.....I've never seen such a thing and hope to never again......

[Willow]

THAT is classic behavior of someone who KNOWS her actions are less then ethical but can't quite work up the character to just be honest and open.

She purposely didn't tell you a lot of things because she KNEW when you were blindsided by this, you would do exactly what you did.

I guarantee you this kind of relationship will end badly.


I'm sorry you are in this situation but honestly, I would give her a call and tell her you have had a chance to really think this over and you don't think it is a good idea for him to be in care. He needs his mother and to be able to recuperate in the comfort of his own home. POOR KID.

[Meyou]

I had the same thing happen with a daycare child who about two weeks post op had her scabs dislodge in my care.....I've never seen such a thing and hope to never again......

I'll never forget the look on my mom's face. She was terrified and she's a tough lady who handled multiple broken bones, stitches and surgeries without blinking an eye up to that point.

[Kabob]

This is pretty much what I was going to say....

NO way would I have provided services to someone who can't even be honest with you.

Personally, I too would have termed the second she admitted to not being truthful.

Wow! Wonder how much other info she has with held?

Yeah, I've wondered in the past if she was being honest with me when they kept forgetting to tell me their schedules and to pay me, which resulted in a conversation and an apology from her and I received her schedule over a month in advance as well as a new payment schedule to avoid late payments. I still am in that mindset of assuming innocence and just chalked it all up to her being busy.

I have yet to learn to look for the potential ways that a parent could be trying to pull the wool over my eyes...clearly I'm learning very quickly that not everyone is as organized and honest about their kids that I would hope they would be...

Just another situation that has caused me to clarify my policies and made me more cautious of trusting parents...which is sad...I want to be able to trust parents to do what is best for their kids...

[Kabob]

And yep, left her a message.

[Blackcat31]

And yep, left her a message.

:hug:

You caring and concern is evident in this thread.

This little guy is SUPER lucky to have you as a provider!

Hang in there!