Is This Unfair Of Me?

[daycarediva]

I have a dck with a lazy eye. He got glasses about 3 months ago and there were issues with that, taking them off, trying to break them when angry, etc. We resolved those (mostly).

Now he is supposed to wear an eye patch for 2 hours/day. Dcm brought me a box of eye patches today, telling me this. Um, its for 2 hours, why can't he wear them at home? He is picked up at 4! So I tell her that I will try it. He took 2 off and bent them so that they cannot be reapplied in the first few minutes. I told dcm it was difficult and that it needs to be done at home. She asked if she can bring him with it on (sure, but he doesn't LEAVE IT ON!) She got a little irritated that he used two because they are expensive.

Am I being unfair?

[Heidi]

No..

You are providing group care . You tried it, but 2 hours does NOT have to be at daycare.

She can bring him with it, and you can encourage him to leave it on. Then, tell her how long that was, add the car ride, and she can do the "rest" of the time after daycare.

[Maria2013]

No you are not unfair, you tried it didn't work, what's mom excuse for not doing this at home?

[cara041083]

No I don't think your being unreasonable at all!

This is off the subject, but isn't it amazing how parents will ask you to do what they don't want to deal with at home and then get mad when you say it doesn't work at your house. ::

[Familycare71]

I agree- not unfair at all. I had an 18 month old that had them (ended up getting corrective surgery) and wore his here but only because he would leave it alone for me and not them. But if he didnt I would have out it back on them-

[Blackcat31]

How old is this little guy?

I had a DCK last year who had to wear an eye patch for 6 hours per day as well as having to wear glasses.

What I did for the child was have ALL the kids decorate some eye patches and wear them for the day (those that wanted to).

It really helped the DCK to know their friends were so supportive!

[MsLaura529]

I don't think you are being unfair.

As a suggestion to the mom: Get some stickers to decorate the eye patch at home and he might like it better. I used to have a wear a patch for a majority of the day when I was little (about 3-4 yrs old). I loved the stickers, and being able to put a new sticker on it each time.

[MsLaura529]

How old is this little guy?

I had a DCK last year who had to wear an eye patch for 6 hours per day as well as having to wear glasses.

What I did for the child was have ALL the kids decorate some eye patches and wear them for the day (those that wanted to).

It really helped the DCK to know their friends were so supportive!

I LOVE this!

[MarinaVanessa]

How old is this little guy?

I had a DCK last year who had to wear an eye patch for 6 hours per day as well as having to wear glasses.

What I did for the child was have ALL the kids decorate some eye patches and wear them for the day (those that wanted to).

It really helped the DCK to know their friends were so supportive!

I really like this idea!! happyface Heck, I would have worn one too !

The eye patch is usually used to repair/correct eye muscle issues (hence the lazy eye... muscle in one eye tugs the eye in another direction). They're used to cover the eye that does not have the problem so that the child must use the eye with the muscle problem which can correct the problem over time.

I think that mom should try at home as well and once DCB gets used to it more then you can try it at daycare too. Right now it may be for only 2 hours but as DCB gets used to it, and depending on how severe the problem is, he may have to wear it for longer than that later.

DCM may also want to find out if the expensive eye patch is necessary. Usually in some circumstances any 'ol thing like gauze will work so she can save the fancy eye patches for when they go out in public. She may want to ask if she can use cheaper materials while at home and daycare but it should be okayed by the Dr first.

[mema]

I don't think it's unfair. It is her child after all. If it were longer than that, I would do what BC suggested and have his friends make their own. I have one that wears one for 2-3 hours a day also and they do it at home only. I'm sure he doesn't like to keep it on at home either and she probably fights with him and doesn't want to deal with it-therefore, make it a daycare problem.

[Laurel]

I had a little girl wear them for a while but she left them on. If she wouldn't have, I would have put it back on the parents.

I had a mom wanting me to do breathing treatments as soon as he got to my house. Another older child freaked out at the sound of the machine so I figured why couldn't the mom just do it at home before she left. I suggested it and she did it but was miffed. Who cares? Geez.

Laurel

[Familycare71]

All my dck were so jealous of the eye patch here!!! .

[Cradle2crayons]

I agree with all of the others. I would have told mom that it needs to be done after hours unless there was a real reason for it to be done during the middle of the day. Even then, I would try it ONE time, and if the child didn't leave it on, I'd put it back on mom.

It's HER child and ultimately HER responsibility. She knew it would be a problem and she didn't want to deal with it.

[daycarediva]

How old is this little guy?

I had a DCK last year who had to wear an eye patch for 6 hours per day as well as having to wear glasses.

What I did for the child was have ALL the kids decorate some eye patches and wear them for the day (those that wanted to).

It really helped the DCK to know their friends were so supportive!

Almost 4.

Tried this, he wouldn't even wear the cool ones we decorated and all wore together. I got a fake eye (foam from toys r us) and we talked about his 'lazy eye muscles' that needed exercise.

I don't think you are being unfair.

As a suggestion to the mom: Get some stickers to decorate the eye patch at home and he might like it better. I used to have a wear a patch for a majority of the day when I was little (about 3-4 yrs old). I loved the stickers, and being able to put a new sticker on it each time.

His are all cool, super heroes that Mom ordered online. Wants NO part of it.

[Patches]

Nope. not unfair at all. That would be like dcb needing a dose of medication once a day (that can be done any time of day) and dcm giving it to you.
My son has to wear a patch for 2-3 hours a day and I don't send him to school wearing it and I didn't send him to daycare wearing it. He wears it at home in the evening