So Angry

[msblake]

I am new to this forum and just registered because I am about to blow!

I'm going to apologize ahead of time because I am fuming! DCM lost her job and brings 4 year old dcb only 2 days a week until she finds a new job. Today he was acting out all day. As soon as my DD got home he started harassing, teasing and hitting her. I sent my daughter upstairs to play so they could have time away and mom was going to be here in 15 minutes. Dcb cried because he wanted to go upstairs and I said no. Mom and 10 year old sister get here and he has a meltdown. Then my new dc dad comes to pick up the baby. Talking to him over screaming child. Then the sister goes upstairs. I told her no and she didn't listen, then the boy goes upstairs again I told him no. Mom sits there and does nothing. Talk to new parent for a few minutes when the MOM goes upstairs! I told new parent I'm sorry but I have to go deal with this. Go upstairs and they are ALL IN MY ROOM! The sister and dcb jumping on MY bed!!! The one I just purchased with muddy shoes! Mom acts like it is no big deal. I have never been so livid!

[Heidi]

That would earn someone a fast ticket out of here!

You have every right to be pissed. Welcome to the forum!:hug:

[Familycare71]

WOW!!!!
How did you respond? I think I would be having a talk with mom ASAP- unless you can term! It amazes me how little regard dcf have for our space!!
Welcome!!!:hug:

[msblake]

I told them children are not allowed in our bedroom and to go downstairs! The mom then said well of course you allow children in your room. I said my children are allowed in my room because they are MY children!! Just because I run a in home daycare does not mean that children and parents can go where ever they want! I need time to cool off then I am going to term them. I have had soooo many issues with this family over the last year but this is my last straw!

[Familycare71]

I told them children are not allowed in our bedroom and to go downstairs! The mom then said well of course you allow children in your room. I said my children are allowed in my room because they are MY children!! Just because I run a in home daycare does not mean that children and parents can go where ever they want! I need time to cool off then I am going to term them. I have had soooo many issues with this family over the last year but this is my last straw!

And she will be the parent who is completely confused why they were termed!
I am proud of you for holding your tongue!! I don't know if I could have- esp after her snarky comment back!

[msblake]

It was probably the hardest thing I have ever had to do! I knew if I said anything I would loose my cool.

[Michael]

Welcome to the forum!

[Leigh]

I told them children are not allowed in our bedroom and to go downstairs! The mom then said well of course you allow children in your room. I said my children are allowed in my room because they are MY children!! Just because I run a in home daycare does not mean that children and parents can go where ever they want! I need time to cool off then I am going to term them. I have had soooo many issues with this family over the last year but this is my last straw!

I would not have termed over mom and the kids being in my room (DCK's are not allowed in my room, either). I would have just freaked out on Mom about it. I would DEFINITELY term over the "back talk" from Mom about "of course you allow children in your room". I am quite certain I would have just told her to get out of my house and not come back.

**I** am practically fuming over the TOTAL disrespect that you, a stranger, got about this situation. I can just not imagine what kind of an idiot that Mom is to fight with you over the rules of YOUR home! Best of luck to you with this situation.

[msblake]

If this had been the first issue I had with this family then I may have let it slide. But this is just the cherry on top! The past year it has been one thing after another. Earlier this week her child dumped laundry detergent all over my driveway. Not on accident completely on purpose. This was at pick up time I had said good bye and shut the door. I didn't find out about it until my husband got home (he was the last kid) mom didn't come tell me, didn't clean it up just left. So I spent a good hour cleaning it up. The child I can handle but it is just the complete disrespect of the mother, never disciplines her children. Which becomes very apparent when she and the sister are around. I'm just fed up. Last straw! Thank you for your compassion. I really need it right now! I have never felt do disrespected in my life.

[sharlan]

I have a gate across the base of the staircase.

None of my daycare parents have ever been upstairs. None of the kids have been upstairs. I would have been yelling at the mom and not very politely, either.

[msblake]

I have a gate across the bottom of the stairs. But that didn't stop them. It's pretty easy to open for the older kids. Just keeps the babies off the stairs. I recently had to replace it because the older sister broke the last one.

[e.j.]

Wow! Talk about lack of respect for you and your home. I've never had anyone go into my bedroom and jump on my bed but I have had kids and parents try to see what my 2nd floor looks like. I now cover th e subject in all initial interviews. I explain that I deliberately choose not to license my 2nd floor because while my family is good about sharing most of our home with my dc clients, they need their own personal space, too. Since it's not a licensed area, they are not allowed up there for any reason. Since I started addressing the issue directly, I've had fewer problems.

[sharlan]

Time to term and send them on their way. Let someone else deal with them.

[WImom]

WOW I don't think I would have been able to hold my tongue! Acutally after the driveway incident I think I would have termed. Doesn't surprise me that mom has no job! Good Luck with terming, it's hard no matter the reason!!

[Unregistered]

Non enrolled children / siblings are not allowed past the entrance here, for the same reason they they go crazy and parent don't care