DCM Just Rode By On Her Bike

[DaisyMamma]

I'm kind of feeling like my privacy was invaded.
I know she isn't working today and i recognized her outfit. she rode by starring at the yard and even looking back, straining her neck. I'm 90% sure it was her.
She lives about 2 miles away and my house is very much out of the way and only people who live here drive down our road. It certainly wouldn't be a regular bike route.

I just want to add that this mom has always seemed suspicious of me about 'something,' she's very untrusting.

I'm thinking I'll ask her how her bike ride was at pickup.

[Leigh]

I'm kind of feeling like my privacy was invaded.
I know she isn't working today and i recognized her outfit. she rode by starring at the yard and even looking back, straining her neck.
She lives about 2 miles away and my house is very much out of the way and only people who live here drive down our road. It certainly wouldn't be a regular bike route.

Wow, one would think that if she was so concerned about her kid, he/she would have just been home WITH her.

[butterfly]

I'd probably feel a little weird about it too, but I always tend to over think things.

I'm going to assume it was a nice day and she thought she'd use her day off to enjoy the day and get some exercise. Maybe thought I'll swing by the daycare and say hi - see if they are outside... I don't know. :confused: I'd be weirded out too.

[Blackcat31]

I'm kind of feeling like my privacy was invaded.
I know she isn't working today and i recognized her outfit. she rode by starring at the yard and even looking back, straining her neck.
She lives about 2 miles away and my house is very much out of the way and only people who live here drive down our road. It certainly wouldn't be a regular bike route.

Maybe you should start driving by her house really s l o w l y over the weekend a couple times.


Sorry.... I couldn't resist.


That is kind of weird. I would call her out on it. But that's just me....

I'd have no issues saying that your senses are heightened during daycare hours and you are SUPER aware of who drives by and when (also for what reason) as you are constantly on the look out for danger since you are protecting children.

Then I'd ask her straight up why she was riding by.

Let he be the one to feel awkward when trying to explain.

[DaisyMamma]

Maybe you should start driving by her house really s l o w l y over the weekend a couple times.


Sorry.... I couldn't resist.


That is kind of weird. I would call her out on it. But that's just me....

I'd have no issues saying that your senses are heightened during daycare hours and you are SUPER aware of who drives by and when (also for what reason) as you are constantly on the look out for danger since you are protecting children.

Then I'd ask her straight up why she was riding by.

Let he be the one to feel awkward when trying to explain.

Seriously. I think i will ask her how her bike ride was. You're right. She should be feeling like she needs to explain herself for once.

I was outside with the daycare and she didnt stop to say hi.

And yes, I believe she should be home with her kid if she is so concerned.

[Familycare71]

I swear- people think they are soooo sneaky! :: I'm sure she didn't stop because she didnt want to have to pick up dck!
Let us know what she says when she asks! ::

[Maria2013]

Maybe you should start driving by her house really s l o w l y over the weekend a couple times.

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I always encourage new parents (specially those of babies) to drop in unexpectedly so they can ease their mind, (I know I'd be nervous if I had to leave my baby with a stranger)...they never do drop in, but if they did I'm sure they would at the very least say hello

[craftymissbeth]

Maybe she wanted to take advantage of your open door policy just to see how things are going, but didn't want to actually bother you guys?

When my ds was in a center, I drove by every once in awhile just so I could possibly see his little face out on the playground. It wasn't a matter of my not trusting his caregivers, but simply wanting to see him in action without bothering anyone.

[NeedaVaca]

I would call her out on it too, as a matter of fact I would probably end the question with a little laugh saying I was worried she was going to fall off her bike since she was looking back for so long. See what she says and then follow up with how I thought it to be so odd that she was so far out of her way and even more odd that she didn't stop by if she needed something...

[Maria2013]

Maybe she wanted to take advantage of your open door policy just to see how things are going, but didn't want to actually bother you guys?

When my ds was in a center, I drove by every once in awhile just so I could possibly see his little face out on the playground. It wasn't a matter of my not trusting his caregivers, but simply wanting to see him in action without bothering anyone.

good points

[Unregistered]

I have a daycare mom that lives behind me and works down the street. She drives by often. At first it really upset me but after while I finally gave up! I did however put in eclipse curtains (the black out ones) so when she does drive by she can't see us. So I don't feel like I'm being spied on as much

[daycarediva]

I would soooo ask. It also feels like an invasion of privacy thing to me. I was off today, but a dcm stopped to pay me. I was sitting on my BACK deck, having breakfast with my family when I hear someone walking along the fence. She said NOTHING for a good 3-4 minutes and then said "SORRY TO BOTHER YOU...."




I have a payment drop off box at the front door. She has been a client for well over a year. She got reminded about the drop off box and not to trespass on my neighbors property (my fence literally rides the property line on that side and they are NOT the nicest folks)

[jenn]

Maybe you should start driving by her house really s l o w l y over the weekend a couple times.

I confess that I actually did this. Not a couple of times though, just once. I had a DCP that would go on and on about their home. If my husband was our pulling weeds, they had just had the landscapers come to their yard. We power washed our fence, they had just put up a whole new fence. I painted a shelf, they had just painted all the trim on their house. On and on and on for years. One day, I was taking my daughter to a birthday party on the same street they lived on and decided to drive by. Their house was the dumpiest house on the block. Peeling paint everywhere, the fence was rotten and had one section laying on the ground, the yard was dead and shrubs overgrown. From then on when she talked about their home, I just laughed to myself. You never know what people are thinking!

[NeedaVaca]

I confess that I actually did this. Not a couple of times though, just once. I had a DCP that would go on and on about their home. If my husband was our pulling weeds, they had just had the landscapers come to their yard. We power washed our fence, they had just put up a whole new fence. I painted a shelf, they had just painted all the trim on their house. On and on and on for years. One day, I was taking my daughter to a birthday party on the same street they lived on and decided to drive by. Their house was the dumpiest house on the block. Peeling paint everywhere, the fence was rotten and had one section laying on the ground, the yard was dead and shrubs overgrown. From then on when she talked about their home, I just laughed to myself. You never know what people are thinking!

You are a much kinder person than me, the very next time I heard her say something I would have mentioned that I saw her house when I was dropping my DD off at a friends. I just can't stand that kind of thing and have to call them out. Or even better I would say oh wow, that's sounds awesome I will have to drive by a take a look at all you have doneI just can't help myself

[melilley]

You should have waved and said "look Sally, wave to your mommy"! Well maybe not tell the child, but definitely should've waved!

How weird! I would definitely ask her how her ride was!