Am I taking it the wrong way or should I say something

[daycare]

I have a family that is still some what new. I recently had to charge them a late fee for not paying on time. DCP were really angry about it.

After talking with the DCM in person, she has since apologized and things have gone on as normal.

The DCD drops off sometimes too as well as picks up. He is not the most sociable guy, but was always very nice.

I never talked face to face with DCD about the late fee and you can tell that he is holding a grudge towards me about it. It was charged last week and since then, he has not said 1 word to me. I on the other hand have carried on like I always do, tell them about the kids day, anything important type stuff, dad won't even look at me.

Well this morning, I asked dcd if the kids were still going to get picked up early today. He won't even look at me, does not answer my question. He takes off his daughters shoes, signs her in and leaves.

I am soooo sick of the childish games, I refuse to play them. I just don't know if I am reading into too much or if I need to say something.

what would you do here??

[crazydaycarelady]

I had a dcd similar to that once. Everything was fine otherwise but I just could not work with the dcd. I ended up asking the dcd if we could talk and he proceeded to tell me how much they appreciated me, he would never want his kids to go anywhere else, etc.

The kudos were nice but in the end I termed months later anyway. I really just could not play dcds games.

Next time you see him I would just say "Listen, I am caring for your kids and because of that we need to be able to communicate. Can we (you) put aside any issues for the sake of the kids?"

[Crystal]

I wouldn't stand for that at all. I'd ask him point blank if he has an issue with me. I would tell him, just as I would a child, that it is rude and disrespectful to not respond when he is spoken to. I would then tell him I will not tolerate being disrespected in my own home and that if the behavior continues, he would no longer be welcome in my home. He can interpret that in any way he chooses.

[Unregistered]

unless he has a hearing issue this would really be a problem to me, I would probably say something to dcm about it let her know that the tension is unnecessary she would probably know how to better approach him about it than you. If things didn't change quick I would term. There is no way I would be treated like this in my own home. I get mad if I say good morning and the parent says absolutely nothing, a little respect is required here.

[Meeko]

I wouldn't stand for that at all. I'd ask him point blank if he has an issue with me. I would tell him, just as I would a child, that it is rude and disrespectful to not respond when he is spoken to. I would then tell him I will not tolerate being disrespected in my own home and that if the behavior continues, he would no longer be welcome in my home. He can interpret that in any way he chooses.

THIS!...a thousand fold!!

Don't EVER let somebody treat you with that much disrespect in your own home. Hugs to you...nobody should be treated that way.:hug:

[Blackcat31]

I wouldn't stand for that at all. I'd ask him point blank if he has an issue with me. I would tell him, just as I would a child, that it is rude and disrespectful to not respond when he is spoken to. I would then tell him I will not tolerate being disrespected in my own home and that if the behavior continues, he would no longer be welcome in my home. He can interpret that in any way he chooses.

+1

How childish on the dad's part...

[daycare]

so of course my husband who works with me says that I am reading into it too much and that I should just keep being me. He said, if you say something you may be starting something else.....

UGH....

[Live and Learn]

I agree with CRYSTAL.

That dad needs to grow up or ship out.

[Blackcat31]

so of course my husband who works with me says that I am reading into it too much and that I should just keep being me. He said, if you say something you may be starting something else.....

UGH....

Your DH doesn't like to rock the boat very often does he?

My sister is like that...she hates making waves so she deals with lots of situations she shouldn't have to....

I understand your DH thoughts but tell him he is wrong in this case

....the ONLY way you can be successful in this business is if you ARE willing to speak up when things aren't right.

That's both the beauty and ugly side of being self employed. YOU, yourself have to do a lot of "people mananging" because we aren't working for someone else where they just send HR people to fix this stuff.

[Meeko]

so of course my husband who works with me says that I am reading into it too much and that I should just keep being me. He said, if you say something you may be starting something else.....

UGH....

My husband (who works with me) was livid when he heard this. He says no husband should ever let his wife be treated with that much disrespect. He would have thrown the guy out on the spot and told him to never come back.

But that would have been after I'd already told the jerk to get out of my house!

[CedarCreek]

My husband (who works with me) was livid when he heard this. He says no husband should ever let his wife be treated with that much disrespect. He would have thrown the guy out on the spot and told him to never come back.

But that would have been after I'd already told the jerk to get out of my house!

Heck yeah. My dh would say the same!

[Crystal]

Heck yeah. My dh would say the same!

Mine too.

[Crystal]

Daycare, I'd love to be able to come and be your assistant for a week. I'd whip all of your families into shape real quick.

[Laurel]

I have a family that is still some what new. I recently had to charge them a late fee for not paying on time. DCP were really angry about it.

After talking with the DCM in person, she has since apologized and things have gone on as normal.

The DCD drops off sometimes too as well as picks up. He is not the most sociable guy, but was always very nice.

I never talked face to face with DCD about the late fee and you can tell that he is holding a grudge towards me about it. It was charged last week and since then, he has not said 1 word to me. I on the other hand have carried on like I always do, tell them about the kids day, anything important type stuff, dad won't even look at me.

Well this morning, I asked dcd if the kids were still going to get picked up early today. He won't even look at me, does not answer my question. He takes off his daughters shoes, signs her in and leaves.

I am soooo sick of the childish games, I refuse to play them. I just don't know if I am reading into too much or if I need to say something.

what would you do here??

I think I would have repeated the question in case he did not hear you. If he still did not answer then I would say "I asked you about the children's pick up time and I need an answer so I know what time to have them ready. Can you answer me please?" If he ignored me and started to leave, I'm not quite sure what I would say then, but I'd be tempted to say "You need to go to time out mister!" :::::: Oh sorry, I couldn't help myself.

I guess then I'd just talk to the mom and ask her if she knew what was bugging him.

Laurel

[daycare]

Daycare, I'd love to be able to come and be your assistant for a week. I'd whip all of your families into shape real quick.

....my asst tells me daily....I bite my tongue soooo much...