Ticked Me Off This Morning

[My3cents]

Not at this time I'm not but I do follow a lot of the guidelines. I try to make sure we have very healthy lunches. Every once in a while on a Friday when I have less kids we might have a fun lunch. I think this bowl will stay in the fridge and I'll give it to mom at pickup and tell her sorry but all kids eat the same thing.

I recommend you find a food program. Your already serving the same way that food program does and you will be reimbursed to help with your food cost.

Unless this child has an allergy I would serve her what the other kids are having. I would tell Mom at pick up that bringing her own lunch is not going to work for you. If you feel she does not eat well at lunch you can agree to tell the mom at pick up but other then that I would stick to what you have been doing and it sounds like you have it all figured out anyway. Seriously look into the food program it is worth the small amount of paper work you have to do for it.

[My3cents]

do you manage to say/type/think these things with a straight face? I'm being a bit facetious, of course, but we all know that parents rarely feed their kids as well as we would like or they lead us to believe

I don't know about this. My parents do. I also think the obesity rate in the USA in kids shows that parents are feeding the kiddo's but just not the healthy stuff or too much of it. Except for one parent that I had my parents all feed the kids well and healthy. Right now I am on the lucky side of things, has not always been that way. My parents are always amazed when I tell them what the kids are eating for lunch. The appreciate me feeding them well and introducing them to different foods.

[My3cents]

I know for a fact they do not eat well at home. For a while they kept a notebook of all dcg ate at home and I would write in what she had eaten here. From breakfast all the way til 10 pm at home it was nothing but juice, spagetti o's, hotdogs, chicken nuggets, cake, ice cream, pizza... the healthiest things she ate was mashed potatoes and gravy.

your in a great and wonderful place to educate these parents and being on the food program is a great help to facilitate that also- Hand outs, talking to parents about what the child ate at daycare- Little daycare gal, loved loved loved string beans for snack today. Do you give her those at home? Pops the idea into moms head that snacks can be other things besides junk food. Then again if the parent doesn't have good eating habits most likely the kids won't either.

[sally]

well I talked to the mom at pickup and it didn't go over well with her. She wasn't too happy but I did stick to my guns. So dcg will have what everyone else has again from now on. I did try to tell her dcg seems to like almost all the fruits and veggies I serve. Also found out the mom thinks my healthy snacks are bs. She says snacks are supposed to be candy or junkfood. WOW

[Heidi]

well I talked to the mom at pickup and it didn't go over well with her. She wasn't too happy but I did stick to my guns. So dcg will have what everyone else has again from now on. I did try to tell her dcg seems to like almost all the fruits and veggies I serve. Also found out the mom thinks my healthy snacks are bs. She says snacks are supposed to be candy or junkfood. WOW

Oh boy!

Mom seems to have "snack" mixed up with "treat".

Good job sticking to your guns!

[daycare]

I think what would bother me is that the mom is sending the wrong message to the child.....What is mom going to do the next time you do something DCG does not like.......I would not be ok that mom was not supportive of my program....Meal time is part of it...

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I think what would bother me is that the mom is sending the wrong message to the child.....What is mom going to do the next time you do something DCG does not like.......I would not be ok that mom was not supportive of my program....Meal time is part of it...

I agree.

I helped a family term themselves last year because of something similar. Dad came in and said, "My daughter doesn't want to come here because of what you serve." I said, "That's funny, because she eats it all." with a straight face.
He wanted us to make her a different meal or serve her a PB&J sandwich if she didn't like something. No, sorry. That isn't going to happen.

[sally]

UPDATE... The dad talked to the mom and I guess even dcg told mom she likes eating what her friends eat and mom spent a few minutes talking with me today at pickup. I told her dcg really likes cottage cheese and mom was surprised but even said she's happy I'm introducing dcg to new foods. Shocked but happy this is working out better.

[MarinaVanessa]

UPDATE... The dad talked to the mom and I guess even dcg told mom she likes eating what her friends eat and mom spent a few minutes talking with me today at pickup. I told her dcg really likes cottage cheese and mom was surprised but even said she's happy I'm introducing dcg to new foods. Shocked but happy this is working out better.

Sounds great! Hopefully you can get the family on board with YOU instead of the other way around. Maybe you can write down what you serve DCG and in what quantities to help out DCM?

[Unregistered]

Only ONE child is allowed outside food at my home, and it's because he has a doctor's note (Celiac & allergies).

WAS the child forced or coerced to eat green beans? At my house, I plate the food, set it in front of the kids, and it sits in front of them for 20 minutes. If they choose not to eat it, they don't have to. I TRY to accommodate their preferences when I can, but if they don't eat it, they don't.

I'd let mom know that you can't serve the child food from home because it's not allowed by the food program, and let her know that you would never force her child to eat anything, but you will not remove green beans from your menu for her, either.