Update... Now What?

[Laurel]

Oops, I just realized when the law was enacted. I think that mom was right.

Oh well, I know for the future although I plan to retire probably next year.

Laurel

[Sunchimes]

I have a SPD child, just diagnosed recently. He is under-sensitive, so we don't have the meltdowns or tantrums (I am actually looking forward to his first tantrum-it means we are doing something right!), but doing the things suggested to help him focus and stop wandering aimlessly around the room putting things in his mouth is turning into a full time job. But, I'm loving it. That said, I'm not sure how I'd do if he was hypersensitive. We aren't big on schedules or routine around here.

Our therapists are wonderful and go out of their way to work with our schedule. I also try really hard to accommodate their scheduling needs. I think I may be really lucky with therapists.

About the mouthing-my DCB was a nightmare. As I understand, it is a way to find a grounding and a way to feel. They told us to give him a textured chewy toy clipped to a pacifier clip on his shirt. Every single time he puts something in his mouth, we remove it and put his chewy in, saying Use Chewy. After 2 weeks, I can tell a difference. If I haven't done his focus exercises, it's like the olden days, everything in his mouth. After a few exercises, I will see him reach down and grab his chewy instead of the block or book. Outside was a nightmare because every time I moved out of reach, dirt, rocks, pecans, sticks, and/or leaves was in his mouth. Now, I don't have to clean out his mouth more than once or twice when we are outside.

I have an opening coming up next month. The therapist told me that she was impressed with my commitment and how rare it was in our area to find a provider willing to work so closely with the child. I'm going to ask if she has a client that might want to move her SPD child into a small (3 kids) setting with lots of attention.

[lflick]

So today was an awful day for DCB. He was non stop crying, not his usual whining type cry, but a loud cry.... he has also had a lot of nasal drainage the past two days but he was happy as can be (comparatively speaking) on Tue and Wed. Anyways little guy was so upset he was shaking. I had exhausted EVERY method of soothing... totally unsuccessful.

I had mom pick up. First she told me no it's not an emergency he is not sick his senses are probably on overload.... I informed her that I have exhausted every resource available and if in fact his senses are on overload for some reason I do not feel there is anything further I can do for him today. She tried to get me to have him watch tv (I did and no luck)... which was a last resort anyhow.... anyways I have this feeling I am the devil lady today. Was I wrong to send him home?

[Laurel]

So today was an awful day for DCB. He was non stop crying, not his usual whining type cry, but a loud cry.... he has also had a lot of nasal drainage the past two days but he was happy as can be (comparatively speaking) on Tue and Wed. Anyways little guy was so upset he was shaking. I had exhausted EVERY method of soothing... totally unsuccessful.

I had mom pick up. First she told me no it's not an emergency he is not sick his senses are probably on overload.... I informed her that I have exhausted every resource available and if in fact his senses are on overload for some reason I do not feel there is anything further I can do for him today. She tried to get me to have him watch tv (I did and no luck)... which was a last resort anyhow.... anyways I have this feeling I am the devil lady today. Was I wrong to send him home?

Absolutely NOT. It isn't fair to the other children or you. You actually went above and beyond.

I think it was exactly the right thing to do.

Laurel

[MarinaVanessa]

So today was an awful day for DCB. He was non stop crying, not his usual whining type cry, but a loud cry.... he has also had a lot of nasal drainage the past two days but he was happy as can be (comparatively speaking) on Tue and Wed. Anyways little guy was so upset he was shaking. I had exhausted EVERY method of soothing... totally unsuccessful.

I had mom pick up. First she told me no it's not an emergency he is not sick his senses are probably on overload.... I informed her that I have exhausted every resource available and if in fact his senses are on overload for some reason I do not feel there is anything further I can do for him today. She tried to get me to have him watch tv (I did and no luck)... which was a last resort anyhow.... anyways I have this feeling I am the devil lady today. Was I wrong to send him home?

No way! Without the proper tools to be able to sooth or help him then there isn't anything else you can do. You can't just let him cry the whole day. I mean really, what did mom think was going to happen :confused:.

[cheerfuldom]

She needs to get a clue. The worst thing you can do for a kid with sensory issues is to put them in front of a TV. Just from the actions of this child and the reactions of the parent, I would term asap.

[lflick]

When she picked him up she was very short and her eyes said a million words... she was NOT happy! I told her that I am not sending home out of frustration rather he needs something today that I can not offer.

[blandino]

That was perfect to say !!! He needs one on one attention today, and no matter how hard you try - a daycare cannot provide that.