Craigslist Ad Of The Day! ;)

[cheerfuldom]

I have very high standards for her, so if you feel that you qualify feel free to send me an email.

Here is what I'm looking for:

-In-home daycare with a small number of children.
-Part-time two half days and one full day
-Experience and education in child care preferred,CPR and First Aid training, licensed, references.
-Breakfast and lunch given including healthy meals (little to no processed food, no sugary snacks or drinks, fruits and vegetables given frequently, not a lot of pasta, bread, and things of the sort given frequently). We can pack her a lunch if necessary.
-No yelling, no spanking or other physical punishment, no shaming, no time outs to be in line with our gentle parenting
-Absolutely NO crying-it-out at nap times or any other time. She does well going to sleep on a cot while being patted for a few minutes.
-Little to no television, fun activities, learning through play, arts and crafts, out door play, etc.
-No harsh disinfectants and cleaning products like bleach.
-A clean, no smoking and as fragrance-free of a home as possible (we prefer no scented candles, scented plug-ins, fabreeze, heavy perfume, etc.).


Most importantly we need someone who loves children and is passionate about them. We would want someone who is patient and understanding with a big heart and can run their daycare without taking out their stresses on the children.


The above is the ad.

I talked to this mom and she had further requirements as well. (I did not respond to this ad, she contacted me before posting)

-She does not guarantee a drop off time. She wants a 45 min. window of drop off depending on when her daughter gets up and also wants breakfast whenever they show up.
-She wants someone willing to do prolonged rocking or whatever it takes to get her daughter thru nap with no crying and also, whatever attention is needed to avoid crying during the day

AND she said her current provider decided to close down her daycare. gee, I wonder why? I think the "can run their daycare without taking out their stresses on the children" shows what she really thinks of her current provider.

I told her I didnt think I would be a good fit

[daycarediva]

She needs a nanny.


What happens when the other (few) children all cry at the same time? Why do parents think crying is SO BAD? Kids cry. The WORST kids I have EVER had in care are the ones who were never allowed to cry/get mad/get frustrated. More tantrums later on, fewer self help skills, fewer coping skills. The list goes on.....

[TheGoodLife]

I have very high standards for her, so if you feel that you qualify feel free to send me an email.

Here is what I'm looking for:

-In-home daycare with a small number of children.
-Part-time two half days and one full day
-Experience and education in child care preferred,CPR and First Aid training, licensed, references.
-Breakfast and lunch given including healthy meals (little to no processed food, no sugary snacks or drinks, fruits and vegetables given frequently, not a lot of pasta, bread, and things of the sort given frequently). We can pack her a lunch if necessary.
-No yelling, no spanking or other physical punishment, no shaming, no time outs to be in line with our gentle parenting
-Absolutely NO crying-it-out at nap times or any other time. She does well going to sleep on a cot while being patted for a few minutes.
-Little to no television, fun activities, learning through play, arts and crafts, out door play, etc.
-No harsh disinfectants and cleaning products like bleach.
-A clean, no smoking and as fragrance-free of a home as possible (we prefer no scented candles, scented plug-ins, fabreeze, heavy perfume, etc.).


Most importantly we need someone who loves children and is passionate about them. We would want someone who is patient and understanding with a big heart and can run their daycare without taking out their stresses on the children.


The above is the ad.

I talked to this mom and she had further requirements as well. (I did not respond to this ad, she contacted me before posting)

-She does not guarantee a drop off time. She wants a 45 min. window of drop off depending on when her daughter gets up and also wants breakfast whenever they show up.
-She wants someone willing to do prolonged rocking or whatever it takes to get her daughter thru nap with no crying and also, whatever attention is needed to avoid crying during the day

AND she said her current provider decided to close down her daycare. gee, I wonder why? I think the "can run their daycare without taking out their stresses on the children" shows what she really thinks of her current provider.

I told her I didnt think I would be a good fit

I would have suggested she may need a nanny, as if one child is gettin that attention what about he over kids?! There are times where more than one child is crying at the same time, to say the least about her "expectations"

[TheGoodLife]

She needs a nanny.


What happens when the other (few) children all cry at the same time? Why do parents think crying is SO BAD? Kids cry. The WORST kids I have EVER had in care are the ones who were never allowed to cry/get mad/get frustrated. More tantrums later on, fewer self help skills, fewer coping skills. The list goes on.....

Ha, I read this right after I typed mine- great minds think alike, huh!

[daycarediva]

I bet she wanted to pay half (or less) what the average rate is in her area as well. ::

[Leigh]

I have very high standards for her, so if you feel that you qualify feel free to send me an email.

Here is what I'm looking for:

-In-home daycare with a small number of children.
-Part-time two half days and one full day
-Experience and education in child care preferred,CPR and First Aid training, licensed, references.
-Breakfast and lunch given including healthy meals (little to no processed food, no sugary snacks or drinks, fruits and vegetables given frequently, not a lot of pasta, bread, and things of the sort given frequently). We can pack her a lunch if necessary.
-No yelling, no spanking or other physical punishment, no shaming, no time outs to be in line with our gentle parenting
-Absolutely NO crying-it-out at nap times or any other time. She does well going to sleep on a cot while being patted for a few minutes.
-Little to no television, fun activities, learning through play, arts and crafts, out door play, etc.
-No harsh disinfectants and cleaning products like bleach.
-A clean, no smoking and as fragrance-free of a home as possible (we prefer no scented candles, scented plug-ins, fabreeze, heavy perfume, etc.).


Most importantly we need someone who loves children and is passionate about them. We would want someone who is patient and understanding with a big heart and can run their daycare without taking out their stresses on the children.


The above is the ad.

I talked to this mom and she had further requirements as well. (I did not respond to this ad, she contacted me before posting)

-She does not guarantee a drop off time. She wants a 45 min. window of drop off depending on when her daughter gets up and also wants breakfast whenever they show up.
-She wants someone willing to do prolonged rocking or whatever it takes to get her daughter thru nap with no crying and also, whatever attention is needed to avoid crying during the day

AND she said her current provider decided to close down her daycare. gee, I wonder why? I think the "can run their daycare without taking out their stresses on the children" shows what she really thinks of her current provider.

I told her I didnt think I would be a good fit

What parent doesn't want EXACTLY that for their child? I know I do. That's why I STAY HOME WITH HIM! Right now, I have only 3 kids and would like to keep it that way through the summer (we're having a blast on field trips!).

Honestly, every one of us providers would LOVE to be able to provide this kind of care, and I'll bet that most of us imagined that this is how it would be. We imagined a group of easy going, happy, well-adjusted little kids. Fact is, when kids go to daycare, they pick up bad behaviors. When kids have two different lives with different sets of rules, bad behaviors result. NO kid can get this much attention all the time!

The thing that gets me most about this ad is that the mom seems to be afraid of carbs...parents often don't realize that kids NEED more fat and carbs in their diets-their needs are MUCH different than ours.

"No harsh disinfectants and cleaning products like bleach.
-A clean, no smoking and as fragrance-free of a home as possible (we prefer no scented candles, scented plug-ins, fabreeze, heavy perfume, etc.)."

Seriously? I'd love not to use bleach myself (not because it's dangerous,but because I don't like the potential to stain everything). The state gives me no choice...it must be bleach. No heavy perfume? Control freak, maybe?

I'd hate to even interview with this one!

[cheerfuldom]

What parent doesn't want EXACTLY that for their child? I know I do. That's why I STAY HOME WITH HIM! Right now, I have only 3 kids and would like to keep it that way through the summer (we're having a blast on field trips!).

Honestly, every one of us providers would LOVE to be able to provide this kind of care, and I'll bet that most of us imagined that this is how it would be. We imagined a group of easy going, happy, well-adjusted little kids. Fact is, when kids go to daycare, they pick up bad behaviors. When kids have two different lives with different sets of rules, bad behaviors result. NO kid can get this much attention all the time!

The thing that gets me most about this ad is that the mom seems to be afraid of carbs...parents often don't realize that kids NEED more fat and carbs in their diets-their needs are MUCH different than ours.

"No harsh disinfectants and cleaning products like bleach.
-A clean, no smoking and as fragrance-free of a home as possible (we prefer no scented candles, scented plug-ins, fabreeze, heavy perfume, etc.)."

Seriously? I'd love not to use bleach myself (not because it's dangerous,but because I don't like the potential to stain everything). The state gives me no choice...it must be bleach. No heavy perfume? Control freak, maybe?

I'd hate to even interview with this one!

This was exactly my thought

What parent doesn't want EXACTLY that for their child? I know I do. That's why I STAY HOME WITH HIM!

I understand what she wants, because that is what I want for my own kids and that is why I stay home to make it happen. I told her that I understand what she wanted but that I couldnt promise a couple of the things and for that reason, I was not a good fit for her. I dont serve breakfast for the daycare kids and if I did, how would I even have a hot healthy homecooked breakfast holding for 45 minutes every day? What would I do with my own nursing infant if she was demanding her 2 year old be rocked for the whole nap if necessary? so yeah, not going to happen. and like you said, cleaning products are regulated with licensed daycares. there is only so much you can do for particular parents. a licensed daycare on a food program can offer healthy foods but they are regulated as to the types and portions that they HAVE to offer!

[Leigh]

This was exactly my thought

What parent doesn't want EXACTLY that for their child? I know I do. That's why I STAY HOME WITH HIM!

I understand what she wants, because that is what I want for my own kids and that is why I stay home to make it happen. I told her that I understand what she wanted but that I couldnt promise a couple of the things and for that reason, I was not a good fit for her. I dont serve breakfast for the daycare kids and if I did, how would I even have a hot healthy homecooked breakfast holding for 45 minutes every day? What would I do with my own nursing infant if she was demanding her 2 year old be rocked for the whole nap if necessary? so yeah, not going to happen. and like you said, cleaning products are regulated with licensed daycares. there is only so much you can do for particular parents. a licensed daycare on a food program can offer healthy foods but they are regulated as to the types and portions that they HAVE to offer!

Honestly, it's about what you're willing to give up, and I gave up the job of a lifetime (with one of the nation's premier employers). I gave up healthcare for life, a great pension, my income was more than twice the average HOUSEHOLD income in my area, a great work environment (with awesome coworkers), and the best benefits around. I gave it up for a little boy who was just starting to walk and talk-he was 10 months old when I decided that I wasn't going to let someone else experience his exciting milestones. I wanted to be the one to comfort him when he was ill, to be the one who teaches him to use the potty, and mostly, to be the one he knew he could always count on.

It's been hell financially (I make less per month now than I used to make in a week), I haven't had a massage in over a year, or a haircut in about 8 months, no more weekend vacations, no new car this year. I don't miss my old life, and I feel SO sorry for moms who feel that their careers or money are more important than their kids. I know a SAHM who lives in an old trailer house and whose husband is barely bringing home enough to make ends meet. When I was working, I thought her lazy-couldn't understand why she would stay home when she was ABLE to work. Now, I get it. Her kids are WAAAY more important to her than money is. They're all she's ever talked about. And what she is giving them is worth so much more than trips to Disneyland, a fancy house, a new car, or anything else.

How I'd love to tell "fussymom" who posted that CL ad that NO ONE is going to give her kid all that but her, and that if she reprioritized her life, her kid could probably have it.

[Leanna]

I don't think her requests are unreasonable. I think that this mom has managed to put into words exactly what most parents want for their child. There are some things that many FCC's won't be able to accommodate (like the bleach, which is required for disinfecting in NYS) but as she looks into daycares she will see where she has to compromise and where she can have things how she prefers them for her child.
PS How old is the child? Is this her first child? An only child?

[SilverSabre25]

some of it certainly won't work in a daycare setting (rocking to sleep, no cry ever, that sort of thing)

but, some of it like the food requests and the scent requests would work with certain providers (me for example).

And some, like the crying, makes me think this is AP-Gone-Wrong. Which gives all AP parents a bad rap. And annoys the crap out of me.

And her phrasing in the sentence about no TV makes it sound like she wants little to no outdoor play, arts and crafts, etc. I know what she meant, but this is why sentence structure is important! Reminds me of a grammar joke, actually.

"Let's eat, Grandma!"
"Let's eat Grandma!"
See? Punctuation saves lives!

ROFL! (Yes, I think that sort of thing is funny. And I laugh at my own jokes :

oookay...going to bed...

[Blackcat31]

ROFL! (Yes, I think that sort of thing is funny. And I laugh at my own jokes :

oookay...going to bed...

I thought it was funny!

I've always heard grammar was the difference between
Feeling you're nuts & feeling your nuts.

[cheerfuldom]

I thought it was funny!

I've always heard grammar was the difference between
Feeling you're nuts & feeling your nuts.

bad BC! go to bed! LOL

[daycarediva]

Honestly, it's about what you're willing to give up, and I gave up the job of a lifetime (with one of the nation's premier employers). I gave up healthcare for life, a great pension, my income was more than twice the average HOUSEHOLD income in my area, a great work environment (with awesome coworkers), and the best benefits around. I gave it up for a little boy who was just starting to walk and talk-he was 10 months old when I decided that I wasn't going to let someone else experience his exciting milestones. I wanted to be the one to comfort him when he was ill, to be the one who teaches him to use the potty, and mostly, to be the one he knew he could always count on.

It's been hell financially (I make less per month now than I used to make in a week), I haven't had a massage in over a year, or a haircut in about 8 months, no more weekend vacations, no new car this year. I don't miss my old life, and I feel SO sorry for moms who feel that their careers or money are more important than their kids. I know a SAHM who lives in an old trailer house and whose husband is barely bringing home enough to make ends meet. When I was working, I thought her lazy-couldn't understand why she would stay home when she was ABLE to work. Now, I get it. Her kids are WAAAY more important to her than money is. They're all she's ever talked about. And what she is giving them is worth so much more than trips to Disneyland, a fancy house, a new car, or anything else.

How I'd love to tell "fussymom" who posted that CL ad that NO ONE is going to give her kid all that but her, and that if she reprioritized her life, her kid could probably have it.

I thought the same thing until I had kids as well. It REALLY changes your perspective on things. I do love my job though, if I could afford to be a sahm, I would probably have gone legally unlicensed and cared for 1-2 kids M-Th, or something like that.

[mrsnj]

::
That ad made my day!!

Makes me grateful for my parents I have! LOL! They aren't all looking so bad!

[TheGoodLife]

And her phrasing in the sentence about no TV makes it sound like she wants little to no outdoor play, arts and crafts, etc. I know what she meant, but this is why sentence structure is important! Reminds me of a grammar joke, actually.



ROFL! (Yes, I think that sort of thing is funny. And I laugh at my own jokes :

oookay...going to bed...

Ha, I thought that about her phrasing as well- I had to reread to check what she meant!