What To Do, What To Do...

[Bookworm]

Mom emails me today (from work) and tells me that they are "possibly" releasing her tomorrow evening "assuming things continue to go well and she can stop throwing up". They also put her on a clear liquid diet until she can go 24 hours without throwing up. They still do not know what she has and probably will not ever figure it out but she is on some heavy duty antibiotics.

She has a double ear infections and the doctors are now telling her to get her tubes (which I have been telling her for 5 months). So she has finally scheduled an ENT appointment for Monday.... and she will be dropping her off regular time Monday and picking her up at 11:00 :confused::confused::confused::confused::confused::confused::confused::confused::confused::confused::confused::confused::confused::confused::confused:

I am assuming (with this parent) that she will also be expecting to drop her back off after the appointment as well but did not mention that part.

She apologized for bringing her this week and possibly exposing me and the other kids though... riiiiiiiiiiight She also said that I will need to start giving her all of her fluids in a bottle until she starts using a sippy cup better and that I need to be giving her juice to hydrate her which is not on my meal plan and I do not provide.

How is she emailing you from work with her baby in ICU? When my dd was 10 she was admitted to the Children's Hospital for 10 days with a serious blood disorder. I didn't leave her alone even to go to the bathroom. I made sure a nurse was with her. I'm sure they hated me but she is the only one I could have so I needed her to be safe with someone trustworthy. DCM leaving her baby to go to work doesn't sound right.

[providerandmomof4]

I am just shocked at this dcm! The more I read, the worse I feel for this poor little girl and for you.....

I agree with some of the op's, in that you really need to distance yourself from this family, and I hate to sound harsh, but it sounds to me like dcm is very neglectful. You cannot make this your issue, it's hers. I think you should cut ties immediately.

[Chatter Box]

This actually marks the first time in history that I have ever flat out told a person that I had a problem with their parenting. That is a little tough for me to believe that I even did that today for some reason but I just totally unloaded. I never thought I'd be able to do that.... not that it did an ounce of good.

The most uncomfortable part is that they were referred to me by friends whom we are just getting to know a little better. I went to high school with them but I didn't know them that well. I went to school with a sibling of one of them and was really close to him. I actually went to their wedding with him. My 5 year old son goes to school with their son. They are an amazing family.

When we found out they were going to be in the same class last summer we started getting them together before school started so the transition into a new school would be easier. They are now inseparable at school, call each other brothers, and we have been doing things with the parents off and on. Birthday's, New Years we were invited to a very small get together and had plans on St Patrick's day but they fell through. We've had them over and we have even invited them to spend a day with us at the lake this summer while we go on vacation for a week. So I'm afraid this situation will be a little awkward to sort out.

I had to let go of another child last fall that they referred to me for regular damages and non payment that ended really badly. They were neighbors that they used to have before they moved and they ran into them at the store and daycare was mentioned during that conversation so they gave them my information. It was not something I feel like they could have forseen with that family. They seemed very nice and they went to church every week but they were very young and not very responsible.

While I *think* they will see more of the writing on the wall with this situation without having to say much I'm still afraid that they will start thinking I'm intolerable or these things are my fault because I don't want to get into detail with them about these things and bring them in the middle of it.... at the same time they have been referring people and they may stop if they think I'm the problem. I also don't want them to question our friendships (including our kids) because they get a long really well. It's a tough situation.

[TheGoodLife]

This actually marks the first time in history that I have ever flat out told a person that I had a problem with their parenting. That is a little tough for me to believe that I even did that today for some reason but I just totally unloaded. I never thought I'd be able to do that.... not that it did an ounce of good.

The most uncomfortable part is that they were referred to me by friends whom we are just getting to know a little better. I went to high school with them but I didn't know them that well. I went to school with a sibling of one of them and was really close to him. I actually went to their wedding with him. My 5 year old son goes to school with their son. They are an amazing family.

When we found out they were going to be in the same class last summer we started getting them together before school started so the transition into a new school would be easier. They are now inseparable at school, call each other brothers, and we have been doing things with the parents off and on. Birthday's, New Years we were invited to a very small get together and had plans on St Patrick's day but they fell through. We've had them over and we have even invited them to spend a day with us at the lake this summer while we go on vacation for a week. So I'm afraid this situation will be a little awkward to sort out.

I had to let go of another child last fall that they referred to me for regular damages and non payment that ended really badly. They were neighbors that they used to have before they moved and they ran into them at the store and daycare was mentioned during that conversation so they gave them my information. It was not something I feel like they could have forseen with that family. They seemed very nice and they went to church every week but they were very young and not very responsible.

While I *think* they will see more of the writing on the wall with this situation without having to say much I'm still afraid that they will start thinking I'm intolerable or these things are my fault because I don't want to get into detail with them about these things and bring them in the middle of it.... at the same time they have been referring people and they may stop if they think I'm the problem. I also don't want them to question our friendships (including our kids) because they get a long really well. It's a tough situation.

I'm sure they will be able to see that you are a great DCP- hopefully they can see behind whatever story they hear from the parents and understand that you did what was best professionally. :hug: