Not Sharing, Pushing and Yelling...

[LeslieG]

How do you handle kids who don't like to share, and push and yell at each other? My 2 year old dcg and 3 year old dcb do it all the time!!!

Sometimes I feel like they shouldn't have to share [I]everything[I] they are playing with... I understand they just want to play alone sometimes.

But I don't know... I feel like I'm constantly breaking up fights. And it's hard because the 3 year old understands, but it seems like the 2 year old doesn't always understand (she just turned two in January).

[MNMum]

Pushing is not allowed. "We use nice hands" If it continues they would be separated from the other kids and only allowed to play with something I have chosen. I.E. placed at the table with some table toys. Even for my just turned 2 year olds, unacceptable. I do occasionally resort to time outs, but not very often. And it is acceptable in my state.

Sharing - I don't make kids give up the toy they are playing with. If it is in their hands first its theirs unless they decide they are done. This is only 1 item at a time. I.E. If a child has 2 cars and another wants one, the child with the 2 cars will need to decide which one to share.

The 2 year old probably does get it. It will just take lots of reinforcement for them to realize that it's not acceptable.

But I get what you are saying, there are days I feel like all I do is police the kids.

[providerandmomof4]

How do you handle kids who don't like to share, and push and yell at each other? My 2 year old dcg and 3 year old dcb do it all the time!!!

Sometimes I feel like they shouldn't have to share [I]everything[I] they are playing with... I understand they just want to play alone sometimes.

But I don't know... I feel like I'm constantly breaking up fights. And it's hard because the 3 year old understands, but it seems like the 2 year old doesn't always understand (she just turned two in January).

I feel your pain and struggle with the yelling and not sharing a lot. At my daycare, with toys that I only have a single, it's a whoever has first basis. However, they aren't allowed to hoard the toy and not play with it, just so no one else can have it. I'm constantly teaching to use inside voice, and the nice way to talk to friends. Basic manners...I understand...they're learning, but I have a two yr old dcb who I sometimes wonder if he is grasping basic concepts and then he shocks me by proving he understands way more than I'm giving him credit for.