Need Advice for 12 Month Napping

[Sprouts]

Hello All!
So i just started a 12 month old boy, today he cried a lot, screamed his head of when put in the pack and play. So obviously he is used to being held/rocked to sleep.

When I interviewed mom I could have sworn she said hes a great napper and easy to put to bed...but anyway...hes not.

I am really not looking forward to tomorrow, or the rest of this week.... another day of screaming and crying...I have two other toddlers, they all nap in the same room, and theyre all pretty much on the same schedule.

.Of course I know he needs to get used to us....but any suggestions for getting this boy trained to sleep on his own? Mom tells me Grandma spoils him at home too.

[Little Star75]

The only suggestion is let him cry, take in consideration that he just started dc and is not used to not having mommy around. This can take days, weeks, even months. Not trying to scare you but I was in the same situation and it took dcb 1-month to adjust. He would cry from entering my home until he left the dc home. Be patient and that is it. Also, 12-month olds have a different schedule than toddlers so I wouldn't put him/her in the same room. Maybe when toddlers are sleeping you can put this baby to nap for example; in the living room.

Hope this helps and good luck to you.

[blandino]

As far as what his mom said, I have a family that always used to tell me "we never have any problems getting her to nap"... Come to find out she falls asleep on their chest or is nursed to sleep. But they were actually serious about how easy she is to put to sleep.

So parents have very different ideas of "easy" to get to sleep.

[Sprouts]

yes blandino i am beginning to realize that.

Star i hope ur not right about that

Any advice i should give to parents? I know mom is receptive, not sure about implementing. I know its hard, because i was there with my son...but from daycare point of view its crazy.

Do any of you have wording in your contracts about this?

[cheerfuldom]

Did you ask for specifics on how they get him to sleep? where does he sleep? how long does it take? any special toy, blanket, paci? whats the routine to put him down to bed? I am not saying that you have to copy exactly what they are doing but saying a general "he sleeps fine at home" is so vague. they could be doing anything from letting him stay awake till he passes out in front of the TV to driving with him for 30 minutes and let him nap in the car. to them that is easy. to you, not so much.

I had one mom swear her kid was a good napper only to find out that she put a toddler in a stroller and manually jiggled the stroller for up to an hour to get him to sleep! i found this out because she brought that stroller to my house and wanted me to do that! LOL ummmm....no.

i have parents that let the kid pass out whenever/wherever, others that nurse or rock to sleep or offer a bottle, others that let the kid sleep in the car seat (in the house or in the crib!), sleeping in a swing or bouncer, being held the whole nap, call 5 to 15 minutes a full nap, and all sorts of craziness!

[Sprouts]

We texted back and forth today and she writes "I give him a warm bottle right before nap, then a pacifier and hold him snug while rocking him, he is not there yet with putting him down and letting him go down by himself..."

I need to add something in my parent handbook for parents that are starting. Do any of you have anything like this about getting children ready for daycare? I thikn I may start another thread to get more feed back

[blandino]

We texted back and forth today and she writes "I give him a warm bottle right before nap, then a pacifier and hold him snug while rocking him, he is not there yet with putting him down and letting him go down by himself..."

I need to add something in my parent handbook for parents that are starting. Do any of you have anything like this about getting children ready for daycare? I thikn I may start another thread to get more feed back

A 12 month old will gain self-soothing skills by practicing - they aren't going to just magically appear at a certain age if he is rocked to sleep every time.

If you can't tell, you are catching a lot of what I want to say to my 12 month old who is basically the same at home. Although she has been here since 5 months, so she is used to the way we put her down now.