Really BAD Kid...

[countrymom]

I'm wondering if this is becoming the norm. I've heard so many stories and have seen first hand how some parents spend so little time with their kids. But I also find that they are the first ones to complain about how bad their children are, even thou they spend the least amount of time with them.

[Bookworm]

There are too many parents who think children are accessories that can be put away when not needed. I think a lot of parents have children because society says they should whether they want them or not.

I hope you can understand what I'm saying. I had trouble wording it.

[Blackcat31]

So for the two previous posts-is this something we should report for being neglectful/abusive?

Basically they are spending no time with their children and pretty much just putting them into their room for the night but really not for the right reasons.

Does or did your state ever offer any type of training about being a mandated reporter? It seems to me that after being in the business for as long as you have there should have been some sort of training or education about this. If not, then your state has really done a diservice to child care providers.

Here is a fantastic flyer/site about being a mandated reporter, what things you should report and how. (I attached the pdf file below)

It is definitely worth the read! If any providers don't have the information already, I really suggest printing it off and keeping it for future reference if you should ever need it.

Also, here is a web-site that CLEARLY explains how to identify abuse/neglect in case anyone is unsure: https://www.childwelfare.gov/can/ide...ng/neglect.cfm

[cheerfuldom]

I'm wondering if this is becoming the norm. I've heard so many stories and have seen first hand how some parents spend so little time with their kids. But I also find that they are the first ones to complain about how bad their children are, even thou they spend the least amount of time with them.

yes i think it is the norm. between school, sports, lessons, club, church, and so forth, many parents spend very little one on one time with their kids. if you have multiple kids, you are at activities every night of the week and most of the weekend or so it seems. parents really are overwhelmed by their own children when they have the full responsibility of caring for them. many kids are in daycare 40 to 50 hours a week starting from newborn age. I know some providers on this board take kids as young as two or four weeks old! I think a huge majority of issues we providers see with parents is because are just in survival mode with their kids, waiting till bedtime or daycare drop off time or whatever is "next". They just let the kid eat what and when they want, sleep where and when they want, and give into the tantrums because they are just trying to keep their child happy for a few hours. i know it is really sad. these are good parents who are doing their best but like the PP said, this is a fast modern generation who supposedly doesnt have time to wander thru a park, sit down for family meals or pick up their kid early from daycare.