Should I Say Something???

[williams2008]

We have had 3 or 4 cases of developmental delay, eventually diagnosed as everything from a global delay to cerebral palsy, and even a case of celiac disease (causing delays).

My biggest piece of advice would be to flat out address the issue. In the past we have tried to beat around the bush, and mention it here and there in a roundabout way. Parents just discovering their child's special needs, have an amazing ability to see what they want to see and deny (or twist) what they do see. So when we have mentioned things here and there, parents have told us it feels like we are constantly picking on their child. And they truly never even got the message that we were concerned about development. In a lot of cases the denial is so strong (and they aren't remotely aware of their denial), that they really need to be confronted with the information.

So my biggest regret, is not sitting down with them and talking about all of my concerns head on, with some literature or checklists of "red flags", for them to look at. I also would let them know that you would suggest a pediatrician evaluation. And maybe include info from your states early intervention program.

There is a campaign called "learn the signs, act early", that offers greaT resources for daycares to use when talking with parents.

You are so right, I think that these particular parents see what they want to see and the rest goes without question. I have a son who has Cerebral Palsy and I guess that is why this is getting the best of me.I don't want the dcp to think for a second that I am picking on them about their child, but I am really concerned about him.

[williams2008]

This saddens me that they are not going forward as quickly as they should be. That being said, my ds is 17 mos today & he does not walk yet either...but, he does not favor one side over the other. He has always been behind in comparison to his brother's development but, never to the point of worry for me(kinda). He army crawled on his belly for months. I actually thought he would skip the normal knee crawl. He has been doing that for months now. He cruises around furniture & can stand on his own if he tries. He is only in a size 3 shoe & those are big on him so I think his tiny feet may be part of the issue! He is very fast & efficient with crawling so he doesn't feel the need(I guess) to try to balance to walk yet. I laugh because he is a mama's boy & my dad made a comment today that he was walking with me while holding onto my legs! I laughed because this is probably the way he will learn to walk(on mama):: Your dcb sounds like he needs that MRI because just last week I did look up cerebral palsy to see if I should be concerned & from what I read your dcb may fit the symptoms. Poor little man. I hope it is nothing serious.

It saddens me as well. Everyday at pick up I give her a run down of his day and things that I have noticed and are concerned about. The dcm always says things like "He is just lazy, or I think he is gonna walk since he is around other kids.

[Scout]

It saddens me as well. Everyday at pick up I give her a run down of his day and things that I have noticed and are concerned about. The dcm always says things like "He is just lazy, or I think he is gonna walk since he is around other kids.

um yeah...not always the case! My ds wants to chase his brother & even that isn't enough for him to walk!

[KristinLynn]

Just make a list of things you notice that you are concerned about, and why. Bring them up to the parents and ask them if they have noticed, what doc has said (if anything). Give them referrals and tell them you think it should be checked out. Don't freak them out tho. It could be that it is just the child and not necessarily anything wrong.

I would mention that you are concerned and that it is your opinion that he should be taken to a doctor just to be on the safe side.

[Unregistered]

I have a dcb who has been with me for two weeks now. When I first talked to the dcm over the phone she informed me that the dcb is 15 months old and he's not walking yet, but he will stand and he does scoot around...okay i'm thinking maybe he is just developing a little slower than others. Well when she brought dcb to the interview i got down on the floor with him and played around then I tried to stand him up but he wouldn't, so I was thinking maybe he just didn't want to because he wasn't familiar with me or the space.

To make a long story short, dcb doesn't walk,and he can not stand alone. I really think there is something wrong with him. He scoots around on his bottom using his right hand and drags his left leg. He can only move to the right, and I feel there is something going on with his left side. dcm just says "o he is just lazy"....Being a parent of a 22 year old Cerebral Palsy son I wanna tell her that something is seriously wrong, but I don't wanna hurt her feelings. What should I do?????

My Son didnt walk til 16 months BUT he was cruising at 12 months kids grow at different rates BUT I say go with your gut feeling. You can maybe give you the early intervention information and suggest maybe get him evalutated speak with her about your concerns if something is wrong early intervention is SO important.