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So before I begin explaining anything I will remind everyone that I am in Canada. In Canada woman get 1 year of maternity leave and 35 weeks out of the year the husband can take to be home with the child too if he choses. Also being that we get 1 year of maternity leave in Canada most daycares do not accept children until they are 12 months old, which is what I do.
Anyways, I am pregnant with our second child. Our first child is 8 years old so this is like starting all over again. My husband and I decided in order to balance things when the baby is born I would close the daycare for 2 weeks (which would be part of my holidays for the year) and then he would take 6 weeks of parental leave following that.
I know most of you woman only close your daycare for 2 weeks and then open again with your new born and keep on going but being that I don’t care for children under 12 months of age in the daycare I am too nervous that I won’t be able to handle everything smoothly alone at that time. I think if I had more experience caring with newborns in a daycare setting I wouldn’t feel as nervous about the situation.
This is when the mother-in-law comes in. My husbands mother in law texts me and informs me that it is not acceptable for the man to take time off when the baby is born and that although it is a government benefit and his job should be protected when he takes it company’s have a way of weeding employees out. She informed me that I would be stripping my husbands career from him that he worked so hard to obtain.
I obviously got upset so my husband stepped in and spoke to his mother. He told her that she needs to stop trying to tell me what to do and that he is 30 years old and can figure his own personal issues out himself without outside input.
My mother-in-law then continues to text my husband page long text messages about how it’s unethical to ever miss a day of work and that I have no idea what working a real job in the work force means and that he would lose everything for my STUPID daycare if he took time off of his job to help out. She informs my husband that his job is everything and he would have nothing if he lost it.
I have to note at this point that my daycare brings in more $$$ then his job and that his income alone would not be able to support our family.
I am super frustrated with my mother-in-law and I guess I just need some encouragement and support from you all.
Thank you.
Anyways, I am pregnant with our second child. Our first child is 8 years old so this is like starting all over again. My husband and I decided in order to balance things when the baby is born I would close the daycare for 2 weeks (which would be part of my holidays for the year) and then he would take 6 weeks of parental leave following that.
I know most of you woman only close your daycare for 2 weeks and then open again with your new born and keep on going but being that I don’t care for children under 12 months of age in the daycare I am too nervous that I won’t be able to handle everything smoothly alone at that time. I think if I had more experience caring with newborns in a daycare setting I wouldn’t feel as nervous about the situation.
This is when the mother-in-law comes in. My husbands mother in law texts me and informs me that it is not acceptable for the man to take time off when the baby is born and that although it is a government benefit and his job should be protected when he takes it company’s have a way of weeding employees out. She informed me that I would be stripping my husbands career from him that he worked so hard to obtain.
I obviously got upset so my husband stepped in and spoke to his mother. He told her that she needs to stop trying to tell me what to do and that he is 30 years old and can figure his own personal issues out himself without outside input.
My mother-in-law then continues to text my husband page long text messages about how it’s unethical to ever miss a day of work and that I have no idea what working a real job in the work force means and that he would lose everything for my STUPID daycare if he took time off of his job to help out. She informs my husband that his job is everything and he would have nothing if he lost it.
I have to note at this point that my daycare brings in more $$$ then his job and that his income alone would not be able to support our family.
I am super frustrated with my mother-in-law and I guess I just need some encouragement and support from you all.
Thank you.
). That aside I would demand DH have a talk with her and expect an apology (easier said than done i understand!). It's ridiculous to belittle you and your business that way! Especially if you are bringing in a larger part of the income. 
! It is unpaid unless you have vacation/leave through your company (which thankfully my DH did so he got paid monthly). The company I worked for when I was pregnant (had taken a break from DC at that point) offered 6 weeks paid if you were there longer than a year but they were a nationwide company so i think they did that to meet each states requirements
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