The Parents That Always Spank As A Consequence...

[daycare]

Ratios?

A home daycare provider rarely has as many kids in their charge as a teacher in a headstart program does.

It can be tough for many kiddos to adjust to not having as much one on one time. Perhaps he is merely testing the waters more to see what he can get away with because he realizes his teacher cannot keep as close an eye on him as you have been able to?

A sort of cry for attention - PAY ATTENTION TO MEEeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!


When he's back with you maybe emphasize personal responsibility for his actions. If he is playing independently very well praise him for that...."Johnny, I'm really proud that you are able to play with the cars by yourself in a very nice way" or after watching him interact from a distance "Johnny, the way you were just playing with Billy was great! You were so kind to him, you were sharing nice, good job!"

I'd probably go overkill with the feedback for awhile so that he learns that even when he thinks no one is watching they actually are. It'll drive home that he needs to behave even when an adult isn't right there to guide him and his actions.

well I thought that this could be the case too, however, he has 5 teachers in a class room of only 18 kids. 3 are there at all times and two are assistance... I asked mom this question already.

However, that does not mean that he is not doing it for attention.




Update....so DCB was dropped off with me about 3pm so that mom could finish her work at her job. I see a whole different very mean child.... I am so saddened by this....what happened to him? ugh

[daycare]

well I thought that this could be the case too, however, he has 5 teachers in a class room of only 18 kids. 3 are there at all times and two are assistance... I asked mom this question already.

However, that does not mean that he is not doing it for attention.




Update....so DCB was dropped off with me about 3pm so that mom could finish her work at her job. I see a whole different very mean child.... I am so saddened by this....what happened to him? ugh

wanted to also add, he is an only child.... so again center of attention....

[Willow]

Update....so DCB was dropped off with me about 3pm so that mom could finish her work at her job. I see a whole different very mean child.... I am so saddened by this....what happened to him? ugh

Ugh, that must sting.....


Could it have been the anxiety of all the changes? Maybe he had a tougher time than most uprooting what he knew and starting somewhere new?

Also, I hate to bring up the stigma of kiddos in Headstart but around here (not all but) many of the kids that go have significant behavioral problems. Perhaps that was the case in regards to the kids in his class and it's rubbed off on him?


Either way, I feel for him, and you now too. I wish you luck helping him find his way back to a better place. Sounds like mom is on board so that should help tremendously.

[Chipmunk]

I'm guessing that you were better able to differentiate his needs and provide enough physical activity as well as mental stimulation to keep him happy, safe and learning. It sounds like, gifted or not, he's a MORE child. Always needs more. More attention, more stimulation, more fun, all the time, nonstop. And at your house previously, he was getting that.

Give him a few days to readjust to being in your care.

And ask the mom what she plans to do when he's bigger and stronger than she is and spanking doesn't work anymore - she won't have any way to get through to him, because she hasn't laid that groundwork/foundation now.

I think Dr. Sears has a Parenting the Gifted Child book that may work wonders for DCB, and DCM.