Trying My Best Not To Be Frusterated

[dave4him]

Feeling pretty annoyed with my SIL. What else is new? So she is going to send my niece to a head start preschool program next fall since she will be 3 in Feb. Guess its up to her to make that choice. Kind of a punch in the stomach since i kind of need the income. Guess i need to start putting ads out for my own waiting list. Its still a year from now so i will try not to be annoyed. ALmost makes me want to not teach her anything between now and then since apparently im not good enough for her. oy

[sharlan]

Please don't take this the wrong way, but I would send my child to the head start program with a full classroom rather than a small home daycare if she had issues.

[dave4him]

If i had DHS help i would too But still its the principle of the thing. Oh well.

[dave4him]

I actually look forward to getting my own two into preschool. Then hopefully ill be able to start teaching school aged kids

[Crystal]

I don't really think it is fair of you to hold it against her. It is a whole year away, and you can hardly blame her for accessing free services in (hopefully) a quality program. You also have plenty of time to replace her, so being upset with her because you need the income isn't really fair either. Honestly, if she qualifies for free preschool, she probably needs the money she pays you as much as you need the income.

I don't mean to be rude, but really, if you were in her shoes, wouldn't you do the same? :confused:

[dave4him]

Its DHS who is paying either way. So yes you are right its not fair to hold it against her. Still im expressing frusteration either way :: Its a year away and who knows where we will be then. I was just hurt because she didnt mention it to me at first, it showed up on her facebook status. Its kind of like having another daycare provider calling you to check on references. Thats how it felt anyway. Its good for my niece sure, but my kids will miss her being here everyday.

[Country Kids]

I had one that pulled a week before returning from summer break! Wanted to be in a more school environment (more children) before starting school next year. Didn't have a bad word to say about me and child was very, very sad to leave. Just my environment was to small-

Those are the things that frustrate me-parents leaving over something I can't control!

[Nickel]

I sort of understand how you feel. I mean, Sure I would understand, but it still ****s... I had a girl start that was the same age as my daughter so I was really excited (because dck wasn't an infant, kwim?) and then a week later dcm tells me she got excepted into the headstart program and she is really sorry but she got accepted during late enrollment, (she didn't quite make the income cut off but they weren't full, so they started accepting the next tier) I was happy for her, but so sad to see her go

So i get it. Someone can be happy for someone else, but still frustrated for themselves!!!But maybe now you canmake more than what dhs was paying... Hopefully

[sharlan]

I had one that pulled a week before returning from summer break! Wanted to be in a more school environment (more children) before starting school next year. Didn't have a bad word to say about me and child was very, very sad to leave. Just my environment was to small-

Those are the things that frustrate me-parents leaving over something I can't control!

IMHO, that's when you shouldn't be frustrated. You know that you've done everything for this family, but their needs have shifted. It's when you can change whatever their complaint is and they leave.

Some parents want a small daycare for their infants/toddlers, but want a larger grouping for their pre-k kids.

[Sugar Magnolia]

I'm sorry to hear that Dave. I can see why you are frustrated, you are family.

[jojosmommy]

I had a terrible experience with my family being clients. They either want to own you since they pay you or they act like you are a babysitter who cant teach their kid squat. In my case, they acted like both to me.

Atleast she gave you a heads up. Tell her clearly her child is your income. You depend on the money. You need lots of notice to fill the spot.

Then happy dance when you fill their place and they move on. Its better for everyone.

And fb is a nightmare. My sil accidentally fwd me the emails to her current provider about how much she hated having her kids at my house. Thank you sil for that added kick in the teeth after all I did.

[My3cents]

Feeling pretty annoyed with my SIL. What else is new? So she is going to send my niece to a head start preschool program next fall since she will be 3 in Feb. Guess its up to her to make that choice. Kind of a punch in the stomach since i kind of need the income. Guess i need to start putting ads out for my own waiting list. Its still a year from now so i will try not to be annoyed. ALmost makes me want to not teach her anything between now and then since apparently im not good enough for her. oy

It has nothing to do with you. It is what the parent wants for the child. Separate that is your sister in law. Any client can do this, just as we do what is right and what we want for our children.

Treat this child the same as you would the rest of the kids. Off time spoil her like a good Uncle would. ::

Dave, I am going to private message you a little of my experiences

[Country Kids]

IMHO, that's when you shouldn't be frustrated. You know that you've done everything for this family, but their needs have shifted. It's when you can change whatever their complaint is and they leave.

Some parents want a small daycare for their infants/toddlers, but want a larger grouping for their pre-k kids.

I guess what I'm trying to say is they loved, loved, loved having the child here! Could not wait to get them in here and then after a year they moved the child to this other place.

I anguished over raising my rates because I loved them as clients and didn't know if they would be able to afford my new rates. Well the place they go to is the same as me I believe!

Also, by school time next year they will have to move to another child care because the current one is out of school district for them and the closest elementary is very strict on keeping in district kids. So the child will only get one year at this new place and when they move that will make either #4 or #5 childcares for this child- Oh, and I'm in the district they need for schooling.