VENT: Why Do Parents Enable Their Kids When It Comes To Eating? *SIGH!*

[daycare]

I have only had to deal with this when I ask for a sack lunch if we go on a field trip.

I serve my own food.

But when I do ask for food to come from home I make it very clear on what I want the kids to have.

NO JUNK FOOD.

I am the one who has to deal with the kids all day and I don't and won't deal with 11 kids all cracked out on sugar anything.

I would be so tempted to give her that muffin along with a mountain dew right before going home........... of course I would not do that, but that's its the principal of it.

I see a lot of parents caving in on all kinds of things, not just junk food. We al know it's because the parents don't want to have to hear JR cry when they tell him no.....

If you don't plan on serving what the kids bring, can you either not offer breakfast time anymore or start making your own???

[Country Kids]

In our rule book it says any food served to children has to follow the usda guidelines. I just put that in my handbook to let them know that if they weren't choosing the food program and wanted to bring their own food it had to have the usda type foods.

Everyone choose to have their child on the food program!

[countrymom]

I agree with those who said that their kids are awful in the morning. I have boy like this, he's 4 yrs old. If he eats garbage in the morning, omg he is flying all over the place, and then he hits a low and he becomes nasty. I think this is why he also doesn't sleep till midnight and does naughty things all the time.

[jojosmommy]

I agree with blackcat. Toss the food and don't think about it again. If mom cared enough about the food her child was eating she would either

A. Serve it with enough time to eat it completely at home OR
B. Serve something worth eating in the first place.

NO junk at my house.


Plus who wants to deal with the other kids who now wont eat their oatmeal b/c they have to sit next to the kid licking the frosting on a "muffin".

This is why I do not allow food from home. And I turn them away with it here if they try to bring it in. I blame it on my dd who has severe food issues . "Sorry, we can't have that here. Mom will take it with her and you can eat it later when she picks up "

[brookeroo]

I have had this child for about a month and a half now. No problems at all until this week. They have paid on time everything. I ended up calling them Monday around 9:30 because they never showed at 9 like they usually do. No answer so I left a message... saying I knew it was a long weekend but I didn't remember any conversations that they were going to be late or not coming so please call. He shows up at 10am and says that she will be picking him up at 5. Normally they pick up at 3. Then he proceeds to tell me that he didn't have time to go to the bank (again after dropping him off at 10am ) the entire weekend and wouldn't that day so I would have to wait to be paid till tomorrow.

She picks him up apologizes for the late pay but not the tardiness at any point.

She comes in today and no payment. I'm guessing he will be paying when he picks him up. She also brings him with a huge bag of Cheetos and lipstick candy that she got at the gas station because he didn't have breakfast and he was hungry. I explained that I would let it slide this time but not to bring stuff like that to eat anymore because the others see it and it's not fair that one kid can eat things like that in front of them. She says "OH whenever we bring anything he can share. They can all have some!"

Why are people such idiots? Even if I would be stupid enough to feed kids that crap for breakfast, let alone at all in my care, 4 out of 6 of the kids here don't have most of their teeth! He couldn't even bite the candy it was like a jawbreaker that he had to **** on.

The funniest part was that she said that I had to give him the Cheetos first and if he ate some of those she promised him he could have the candy.

[Lilbutterflie]

Can I ask you why she can't just eat (or waste) whatever it is the parents send with her? I mean what is the difference if she only takes one bite and tosses it or simply licks the frosting off and doesn't eat any other part of it?

It isn't wasteful to you, since the parents sent it. I mean it may seem wasteful to you but she may very well do this same song and dance in the car on the way over and the parents would toss the food (waste it) too and you wouldn't be the wiser....kwim?

I competely understand how frustrating this seems, but I guess I am not understanding why it bothers YOU so much?

If you were paying for and supplying her breakfast, then I would have a competely different take on this whole thing but honestly we cannot control how parents parent or what they do with their children or what they allow their children to do so I think there really is no sense stressing about it or giving it a second thought.

If it really is too much, then I would stop allowing parents to send food with their child and serve it yourself. Otherwise...shrug it off and know that what you serve the DCK's is healthy and nutritious.

I hope that didn't come across as snarky or rude as I was NOT meaning to be

.....I guess I am just one of those people who seriously lives by the whole concept of changing the things I can change and not stressing over the things I can't change.

Blackcat, I love your mindset about food and pickiness. I would LOVE to pick your brain about a very picky eater that I have! So as not to highjack this thread, I'm going to send you a PM if that's okay!