So Mad Ugh

[TGT09]

I'm so sorry. That is a ridiculous thing to do.

I would collect your check on Friday and then tell her she needs to pay upfront for the rest of her time there.

YEP! This.

[Unregistered]

May I ask, why do you collect at the end of the week??? Is this an unusual case for this family? Or is this just your regular policy? In the future, it may be wise to collect in advance of care. Either the Friday before or the Monday of the week of care. Just my two cents. I am so sorry if this is indeed true. Why is it so difficult for people to be honest!

[MarinaVanessa]

I think you should do this also. You could even be completely casual and non-confrontational about it.
"Hey, little girl said brothers are at xyz daycare now, how are they getting along there?"
Then you could just do the smile, eyebrows up, blinky thing waiting for the answer.

Yes, this is what I would do also. Akward silences seem to work well. The jig is up lady. I agree that if you do continue to care for her daughter you should ask for payment in advance from now on. You don't want to get jipped ... how does she expect you to trust her if she has in fact already lied to you?

[professionalmom]

Yes, this is what I would do also. Akward silences seem to work well. The jig is up lady. I agree that if you do continue to care for her daughter you should ask for payment in advance from now on. You don't want to get jipped ... how does she expect you to trust her if she has in fact already lied to you?

And when she says, "Why do I have to pay in advance all of a sudden. I've always paid you." Simply state, "Yes. And I appreciate that. However, since you have lied to me and I can't trust you to be honest with me, I certainly can't TRUST that you will pay me. You broke the trust. So I need payment up front. This is what happens when you practice to deceive." But make sure to follow up with the raised eyebrows, smile, and awkward silence.

[jen]

I'll ask when she picks dcg up this afternoon. I'll let you know how it goes!

Update????????????

[gbcc]

LMBO, she left before I could ask! I told her about dcg's day and then I said "So, I hear the boys" and boom just like like she says "We're late, bye see ya tomorrow" and dashed out the door! I was just like Really?? :confused:

This morning she came in with swollen red eyes so I didn't want to upset her if she had been crying. Her husband actually followed her here, pulled in after her. She looked like she was going to cry, sighed and said bye. They looked like they were fighting and then both left after 5 minutes. I'm giving it another shot today at pick up! Wish me luck...

[TGT09]

I wouldn't let the tears sway you this afternoon! Don't let her guilt you into agreeing to anything you aren't comfortable with.

[gbcc]

Ya, the way I figure I don't want to bring tears when she has to go into work but after work she just goes home so cry away....

Not to sound rude or incensitive but I think you all understand what I mean.

[professionalmom]

Isn't it interesting that we are always trying to be sensitive to our clients and all the problems they have, yet when it comes to not paying us and putting our family through hardships, there is no sympathy. I'm amazed at the lack of compassion sometimes. It's sad that it's so one-sided.

[Veggie Mom]

I'm not one to have confrontation if there is no reason for the end game. If it were me, I would ask for payment upfront. However, I would not confront her on the information you received from her child. It puts everyone, including the child, in an uncomfortable situation. If she lied, then she knows it and has to live with that.

[momofboys]

Anxious to hear how it goes at pick-up. I wonder if she'll be surprised that you know her boys are at another local center!

[momofboys]

So did you get a word in edgewise with the mom at pick-up today?

[jen]

Isn't it interesting that we are always trying to be sensitive to our clients and all the problems they have, yet when it comes to not paying us and putting our family through hardships, there is no sympathy. I'm amazed at the lack of compassion sometimes. It's sad that it's so one-sided.

I was thinking that same thing the other day. Mostly, my parents aren't like that, but there those...

and doesn't it ALWAYS seem that the people who expect the most "help" are the least likely to help anyone else.

[Former Teacher]

I want an update!!!!! ::

[MarinaVanessa]

Me too!!! This is just like watching a very interesting show and then the really good part somes up and your like "omigosh" and then ... they break for a commercial ::