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What to do with Parents that send poop stained clothing
Help, I need some advice! I have a family that is a major pain in the ass anyways! Well, now they have been sending their 6 month old daughter in poop stain clothes! And not little stains, I am talking the big stains on the back, white socks that now look yellow from poop stain! First time i did it she said oh did she have a blow out i said no there is a huge poop stain i figured you didn't notice it, and she is like oh i know. And the car seat is also stained yellow! What would you do? Should I write a letter? Should I confront her? We often go the park and stuff and as a daycare its embarassing for people to see one of my daycare kids this gross. I feel it makes me look like a bad daycare! Should i not allow her to leave car seat anymore. Her car seat smells so bad i have to put it in the garage. I really would like to terminate them. Anyone else run into this problem.
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I think you just have to figure out if you are willing to work with them (assuming they make any appropriate changed) or if you would just rather term. If you would rather just term, dont even say all the issues....just give them a notice telling them you can not meet their needs right now and the last date of care is X date. -
Just send home dirty clothes and ask that they send in clean clothing.
Car seat- sorry no car seats can be left in my home anymore because of space and safety issues. Thank you. I don't allow this. Parents can arrange to transfer car seat or have an extra one if needed. Most car seats come apart so that you can wash them-pain but they do
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GROSS!
If it keeps up ask her if she has clean clothing, because it is not exceptable to send her child in dirty clothing it is considered a form of neglect. Recommend that she used dreft stain spray on her clothing.
Maybe change the diapers she is using or go up a size-
Then you have to decide if you want to put up with it or not. I am thinking your on the Not side of things. Stinky situation, literally.
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Communication is a huge part of retaining happy long term families IMHO.
Just talk to her, it's not that big of a deal I'm sure.
"Hey mom, can you bring some non-stained clothes because that's what I prefer? And her carseat could use a good wash, I'll send it home with you and you can bring it back next time you come, thank you!"
Personally I prefer parents bring their kids in grubby clothes as long as they're washed grubby clothes. They get filthy here, I don't like worrying about who's getting paint or marker or mud and chalk on this that or the other. If kids don't leave needing a serious bath at the end of the day we didn't do near enough fun stuff.Comment
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they are washed and stained. car seat i have suggested several times to wash but she says oh a wipe is good enough! I don't mind dirty clothes either so i'm not worrying about markers, etc. but poop stains to me is disgusting even if it washed. and of course she uses unscented so they always reak!Comment
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I love this and this is me too! I would just mention dreft stain spray. It works well and is gentle.
Talk to her and if she tries to blow you off or make no big deal of it, just settle with her and say look this really bugs me can we please try here.
Another idea is to ask her for a bunch of clothes that are kept with you and just wash them yourself, or pick up a supply cheap. Not ideal but it might ease your mind that the child is at least clean at your house.
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I know poop stains are gross but if it is cleaned and only stained...then not much you can really do unless you simply want to be blunt and tell her she can't bring her child in stained clothing.
Hints aren't going to cut it as you are finding out with the car seat.
If it really bothers you (as it would me too) you will just have to stop suggesting and hinting and start insisting.
"DCM, this car seat is really dirty and I refuse to use it while your daughter is in my care. You will need to take it home and wash it thoroughly or I will not allow it to stay on my property. Thank you."
If she says a wipe is good enough you can say "Maybe by your standards but not for mine" and smile sweetly as you physically hand the seat to her.
People behave how YOU allow them to. Stop allowing her to do something you aren't ok with. If she is not ok with your rules, she can find other care. If you are unhappy with her behavior, require that she change it (and the stained clothing) and if she won't, then term.
Otherwise, the only other option would be to simply deal with it.Comment
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Reading this post- made me think of a good question for everyone-
Do you allow infant car seats into your daycare home? I think they are a pain in the butt, to leave in the foyer area of my house. THere are times I have two of them!!!Comment
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NOPE. I do NOT allow them on my property at all. If a daycare family has one parent who drops off and another who picks up, getting the car seat from one parent to the other is their problem.
I refuse to assume ANY type of liability. Plus car seats aren't meant to be removed repeatedly.
I don't transport and I don't allow infants to spend ANY time in them while in care, so there is no need for the seat to be on property at all.Comment
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I know it is a pain to have the sit in the foyer area all day. Plus the other kids play with them, try to get in them, etc...Comment
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