filthy older children

[countrymom]

I'm sorry, but if you can't have the time to give your children a bath, then they shouldn't be allowed to come to my house and make it dirty.

today, 7 yr old comes in and goes and starts playing with my odd. then I hear "omg look how black your feet are" so I go and look, yup, black black black. Not only the bottom of his feet, his legs, his hands, his ears (omg you should see the dirt) even on his scalp. My odd gave him some wipes to clean his feet. But it gets better, he has a brother, but he's not as dirty. But I can't let him take a nap anywhere because there really is no place unless its upstairs on the floor. But, its even better. The kids keep telling me it smells funny in the daycare room. So I check my babies but its not them. Its the brothers, they smell like mildew/mold and poop combined. so ds keeps spraying airfreshner.

there is no excuse for this, no one is that busy that they can't give their child a bath. I don't care if its 10 at night, you need to clean your children. And since they came so dirty, they slept this dirty in their beds last night. How frickin gross is that!

[Southernmama]

How often does he and his brother come dirty? With how filthy the older brother is if it's a common occurrence wouldn't that be a form of neglect by the parents?

[cheerfuldom]

thats disgusting. if it was really that bad, i would talk to the mom and let her know that they will be sent home if they are not kept clean. Maybe some people would disagree with me but that is going way too far, its unsafe and unsanitary, and I dont bathe kids for the parents.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

http://www.livestrong.com/article/192362-poor-hygiene-in-children/

If it is a common occurrence, it is neglect.

[justgettingstarted]

I would have such a hard time not bathing him it would just ick me out too much. I had a DCB show up with really long nails caked with dirt that only got worse after morning outdoor play. We washed twice but couldn't get the dirt under the nails. The thought of him eating his lunch with those hands made me gag a little so I clipped them. I didn't mention it to mom and she didn't notice. If it were as bad as you described and happened more than once I would definitely talk with mom and explain that he would be sent home if it happened again. Poor little guy!

[Breezy]

Gross!

My sister had a friend who looked clean but had the smelliest feet ever!! There are times I will smell a similar stench and be reminded of her.

[daycarediva]

I have a DCB that I had to speak with the mother about. He comes really early and is young (3) and I dress him from pj's to clothes after breakfast. 2-3x a week he was coming back to my house the next day IN THE PREVIOUS DAYS CLOTHES. Right down to his socks. GROSS! We play outside every day. There is absolutely NO excuse! She kept saying it was because he would fall asleep at dinner/right after. When my kids fell asleep in their clothes, they were woken to get changed! I am the one who was bathing him, cutting nails and cleaning ears (we brush teeth everyday anyway so that was done here too) and even changing him, washing his clothes and putting them back on. They went on vacation last summer and the day he came back I took his shoes off (crocs) and his entire TOENAIL was inside the shoe! His baby toe was oozing pus and I called Mom to come get him and take him to the pediatrician. (Then I called CPS!) OMG! I told his mother right then that it was neglect and that I AM a mandated reporter. It's down to 1-2x a month now. Oh, and CPS didn't do anything. so... yep.

[countrymom]

I have said something before, and their aunt even said something too. Mom always has an excuse, her favorite is "well they are boys and like to play outside" she uses "the boy excuse" all the time for everything. The problem is that I have a boy that is older by 2 yrs and he's nothing like them. And cps wouldn't do anything for dirty kids. I only have them a couple of more weeks (sometimes once a week sometimes twice a week) and then they both go to school.

[Nickel]

When I worked at daycare we had an infant that was the same way. Smelly, parents never gave him a bath. He'd come in the same clothes every day. Even his extra clothes were gross and too small. He wasn't caked in dirt, but he wasn't clean either. I think it was their culture or something.

We ended up finding some spare clothes from him and we'd bathe him in the sink and tell mom he spit up or had a leaky diaper and we just washed the clothes at the center. Sad because he was such a sweat and cute baby, but the smell, yuck

[Blackcat31]

http://www.livestrong.com/article/19...e-in-children/

If it is a common occurrence, it is neglect.

Sadly here it is considered neglect but NOT the kind that anyone is willing to do anything about.

I have a DCG age 4.5 and she has not had running water since June.

I reported it to my licensor and was told that it is bad parenting but not necessarily considered the type of neglect that they are willing to do anything about. :confused:

This same child arrives in the winter without shoes of any kind. CPS said that if mom was forcing child to stand out side without boots for hours on end, then it would be reportable but as of now, just arriving without shoes/boots in the winter months is bad decision making......Um, ya think? We live in MN! Temps are below zero for most of the winter

[texascare]

I have a child who comes sometimes 3 days in a row in the same clothes. I have mentioned it before and Mom just rolls her eyes and makes a comment about dad not changing his clothes but i started noticing the dad and how he is always wearing the same clothes day after day. I say it is neglect because I know the child isn't getting a bath and he smells terribly! i also say the parents are lazy!

[shelby]

I had a baby who would just smell so bad. The older sister and brother never smelled. Mom just did not want to bath the baby so one day, when I went to change his diaper, I just about puked.. the smell was so bad... I took him into the bathroom and gave him a bath.. that little guy was so happy and content the rest of the day... Parents can be so lazy some times!

[Heidi]

ok...do you have my son in your daycare???

Seriously...he's 11. I have to remind him constantly to take showers, trim his nails, and brush his teeth. Argg... If I tell him, I'd better follow up, too, especially with the nails. I've been in restaurants and suddenly looked accross the table...eww.. sigh...

[countrymom]

ok...do you have my son in your daycare???

Seriously...he's 11. I have to remind him constantly to take showers, trim his nails, and brush his teeth. Argg... If I tell him, I'd better follow up, too, especially with the nails. I've been in restaurants and suddenly looked accross the table...eww.. sigh...

my ds goes and jumps in the pool. So hopefully the chlorine gives him a good clean ::

but this kid is 7, so mom still has to make sure that they are clean too. dh was shocked too, but not surprised. he was mad that she would send them dirty here knowing that there are other children here and that I try to keep it as clean as possible.

[DBug]

ok...do you have my son in your daycare???

Seriously...he's 11. I have to remind him constantly to take showers, trim his nails, and brush his teeth. Argg... If I tell him, I'd better follow up, too, especially with the nails. I've been in restaurants and suddenly looked accross the table...eww.. sigh...

:: My sons are 12 & 10, and it's the same thing! I'm still waiting for the hormones to kick in -- the ones where they're suddenly concerned about what the opposite gender thinks of them, so they're worried about their appearance, how they smell, etc.

So far, I'm the one nagging them to bathe, trim their nails, brush their hair & teeth, etc. Still ... I do it. It's my job to make sure they're clean.

I used to volunteer for lice checks at their school (can't anymore b/c of daycare), and the older kids were notoriously nasty in terms of greasy hair, filthy fingernails and horrible b.o. I totally get that parents are starting to let kids take care of their own hygiene when they hit 11, 12, 13 years old. But still -- when my kids start to stink, I let them know!