Off Limit(S) Words In Your Home

[Hunni Bee]

I do not allow not nice words icluding but not limited to I am going to kill/hurt you and Find then I will kill/hurt myself. I am talking with the parents of the biggest offender of that one and s/he is getting help.

I also do not allow Oh my god or any version of it, I do not call it a bad word I simply ask the children not to talk that way in my house untill the stop.

That's the other one - oh my God. I did get them to change it to "oh my goodness"...

[daycarediva]

Is the child telling the parent NO? I can't handle when a child will tell me NO when I'm trying to correct them or trying to get them to do something. I have one thats getting really bad about it and I'm about ready to climb the walls. Anything you say to the child they respond with NO.

Maybe thats what the child is concerned about more then anything.

No, he doesn't say it to me (well, regularly anyway). That's exactly what I asked Mom. "Is he saying it to you?" "No,but he says it all the time now!"

[familyschoolcare]

No, he doesn't say it to me (well, regularly anyway). That's exactly what I asked Mom. "Is he saying it to you?" "No,but he says it all the time now!"

Tell mom "No is an easy word to say and express a lot."

[Bookworm]

Shut up

What the heck-every now and then, I'll hear "hell"

Potty words

Anything with the word "kill"- this has gotten worse since the Avengers and Spiderman came out

Stupid

And answering an adult by saying "what"-being born and raised in the South, this really irks me.

[Sunshine74]

The boy that I just finished taking care (moved due to military) is 4 years old.

He was always saying WHAT THE?! I had absolutely NO idea where he got this from. He loves Disney's Cars movie. Turns out Mater the Tow Truck in Cars 2 says it. Yes Disney.

Maybe I am wrong but I just think WHAT THE? is inappropriate

That is one we try to discourage also. We (the teachers) have replaced the phrase in our vocabulary with the phrase "what in the world!?" We say it in an exaggerated tone, and of course the children have picked up the phrase too.

[Half-Pint Hide-Out]

My biggest irritation lately has been "I'm not going to invite you to my birthday party!" and "You're not my best friend!"...UGH!

[Blackcat31]

My biggest irritation lately has been "I'm not going to invite you to my birthday party!" and "You're not my best friend!"...UGH!

Yeah, especially the birthday party one.

Usually 9 out of 10 times the kid just had a birthday in the last 2 weeks and isn't going to have another one for a while! ::

[Kiki]

My biggest irritation lately has been "I'm not going to invite you to my birthday party!" and "You're not my best friend!"...UGH!

Haha, it's been that here too. Or this one- "When I get <insert something here>, I'm not going to share it with you!".

[MsMe]

The boy that I just finished taking care (moved due to military) is 4 years old.

He was always saying WHAT THE?! I had absolutely NO idea where he got this from. He loves Disney's Cars movie. Turns out Mater the Tow Truck in Cars 2 says it. Yes Disney.

Maybe I am wrong but I just think WHAT THE? is inappropriate

Thank you!!! I had a little boy start saying this a few months ago....and YES it went on the "do not say" list right away. I just thought he parents were saying it at home. He watches the Cars2 movie almost every night (I have never seen it).

I also don't say or allow Good/Bad-Girl/Boy. We studied and talked a lot in my CDA classes about how it can infuance a child to believe they are good only through your interpritation of their work ect. I NOT someone who thinks every child should get a metal or always make the team and I am all for keeping score. It was just explained to me that a child will seek out ways to get that "good girl/boy" praise even if it they don't find pride or joy in their actions just to get an adults approvial.

[MsMe]

We also get our fair share of you're not coming to my pary/birthday/house. It is soooo annying to hear this 20 times a day and then hearing the crying of the child that it was directed to.

I have noticed my niece says this A LOT and her parents think it is cute and funny. They even say it back to her and most everytime she says it they all laugh and repeat it back to her. So I am sure she also goes to daycare and says it (so I assume my DCP also maybe? do the same at home)

Sure it is adourable for the to say it and everyone to laugh, but in a daycare setting it gets out of hand....I wish paretns wouldn't brush off/ encourage bad behavior as cute.

[Unregistered]

In the ECE world, even this positive re-enforcement has potential issues...

I say wonderful job or lets try again. I don't want children to be labeled good or bad based upon the views of others. To me it teaches children's self worth to be based upon outside sources which creates the exact opposite I want them to learn, and people pleasers at an early age. Their behavior isn't always acceptable but they are always valuable little people.

I had an Child Development teacher that had a pet peeve about saying stuff like "Good job" or just "I like it" to children because she said it is an 'empty complement' and only focusing on the finished product and not the effort put into it. Also they hear this all the time and eventually they tune it out because it is overly used and it complements the finished project (like a drawing) not the person on their choices.

She perfers to complement their choices like "Oh look, you used all the colors from the crayon box in your picture", "You cleaned up your mess really fast", or "I can tell you put a lot of hard work into this" because she said it gives them a sense of accomplishment and makes them feel good about their choices (it helps them believe they are capable of making good choices) not just a short lived complement on the finished project that will go away once the project is over.

She said some children who are never praised for their effort would also try to do things they know they can do (not take any risks) only to fish for a complement like "good job" (they may be dependent/insecure and need approval for others)-it like giving a kid candy/toy to go to the bathroom and they regress and avoid the potty when you stop giving them a treat (in case you can't tell she's not a fan of giving tangible rewards (positive re-enforcement with toys/candy) or negative/possitive punishments as motivation either- because motivation need to come from the good feeling you get from doing it). But children who are complemented on their choices will try to take more (healthy) risks because they feel confident that they are capable of doing it without needed help, approval, or complements from others.

[Holiday Park]

before my niece
Learned "no" My sister said she didn't want her to learn the word and "be one of those kids that said no all the time" So she told everyone not to ever use the word no and instead say "tah tah!" If she touched something she couldn't have . She still ended up learning to say no and I couldn't remember to do the tah tah thing because sometimes she was just too fast and I caught myself saying"No-no" out of habit. Luckily she got tired of correcting people and it got old and she was over the phase of saying tah tah instead of no.

(See below) This is actually how I believe ! I was a kid with low self esteem who wasn't given enough praise like below and why I am not against "good boy/good girl"

I had an Child Development teacher that had a pet peeve about saying stuff like "Good job" or just "I like it" to children because she said it is an 'empty complement' and only focusing on the finished product and not the effort put into it. Also they hear this all the time and eventually they tune it out because it is overly used and it complements the finished project (like a drawing) not the person on their choices.

She perfers to complement their choices like "Oh look, you used all the colors from the crayon box in your picture", "You cleaned up your mess really fast", or "I can tell you put a lot of hard work into this" because she said it gives them a sense of accomplishment and makes them feel good about their choices (it helps them believe they are capable of making good choices) not just a short lived complement on the finished project that will go away once the project is over.

She said some children who are never praised for their effort would also try to do things they know they can do (not take any risks) only to fish for a complement like "good job" (they may be dependent/insecure and need approval for others)-it like giving a kid candy/toy to go to the bathroom and they regress and avoid the potty when you stop giving them a treat (in case you can't tell she's not a fan of giving tangible rewards (positive re-enforcement with toys/candy) or negative/possitive punishments as motivation either- because motivation need to come from the good feeling you get from doing it). But children who are complemented on their choices will try to take more (healthy) risks because they feel confident that they are capable of doing it without needed help, approval, or complements from others.

[Scout]

dont' laugh...

fart

[snips&snails]

I say wonderful job or lets try again. I don't want children to be labeled good or bad based upon the views of others. To me it teaches children's self worth to be based upon outside sources which creates the exact opposite I want them to learn, and people pleasers at an early age. Their behavior isn't always acceptable but they are always valuable little people.

I agree

[CozyHome]

Where have they heard these words? DISNEY FILMS! Yeah, I said it!