Tempted to Just Get in the Car and go Somewhere!! UPDATED!

[Breezy]

She's late again! 40 minutes late this time. Texted and called with no answer. I am so tempted just to jump in my car and go to Target or something. DS is eating his breakfast now though so I can't. If you're going to be late, FINE! But tell me so I am not waiting around all day for you. I do have a life and things to do. I am MORE than flexible with yoiur schedules- opening on Saturdays and Sundays and letting you change your schedule when it works for me. The very LEAST you could do is let me know what is going on,....


46 minutes late now....

[Christian Mother]

I'd be in the car driving to starbucks..heheh!!

It will teach her that if she does happen to come while your gone and she calls you asking where your at you can tell her well we did wait for 45 min with no call so you figured you had the day off. If she said she would of called first to tell you that she wouldn't be coming you can inform her that she didn't call nor did she call that she would be late and for the future that if she plans to be late no matter the time...she needs to make that call as a courtesy...

[Blackcat31]

Oh I read your post title and thought "yah, Breezy is heading here!!" happyface and then I read the rest

I am so sorry she is being so rude. I would absolutely get in the car and go to Target!!! Or if possible, go to a room where she can't see that you are home and don't answer the door. Another suggestion is to add a late fee for no call or notice of her lateness! That is so disrespectful! I don't mind if parents are late but ONLY IF they call and tell me....that is just common sense for most people!

I do think you need to tell her that from now on, she canNOT come if she doesn't atleast call or text that she is running late. Besides, late is a few minuets, NOT almost a full hour!!!

If you don't get really firm/strict with this situation it will just continue to happen. Like a child, she needs consequences that are strong enough to detour her form continuing this behavior.

[Breezy]

I just sent another text that said " Since I have not heard anything I am going to assume H is not coming today. I am going to run some errands this morning that I had planned for this afternoon. I hope everything is ok with you all!"

[Breezy]

Oh I read your post title and thought "yah, Breezy is heading here!!" happyface and then I read the rest

I am so sorry she is being so rude. I would absolutely get in the car and go to Target!!! Or if possible, go to a room where she can't see that you are home and don't answer the door. Another suggestion is to add a late fee for no call or notice of her lateness! That is so disrespectful! I don't mind if parents are late but ONLY IF they call and tell me....that is just common sense for most people!

I do think you need to tell her that from now on, she canNOT come if she doesn't atleast call or text that she is running late. Besides, late is a few minuets, NOT almost a full hour!!!

If you don't get really firm/strict with this situation it will just continue to happen. Like a child, she needs consequences that are strong enough to detour her form continuing this behavior.

I wish I was heading there!!!!!!!

I think I will go into my room with DS now that I told her I am going to run errands since I have heard nothing from them.

[B Lou]

Oh I so agree with Blackcat31. Who by the way has given me tons of advice on late parents. I have been getting in my car ready to back out the driveway when a parent was over 1 1/2 hour late. Told them that I assumed that since no call that they weren't coming. They did get my point. Now when they are running more than 5 mn. late, they call. Thank you that's all I was asking for.

[Breezy]

She is usually good at eventually letting me know shes going to be late. So, over an hour late now she probably isnt coming. She is now late for work though since he shift started at 8

[wdmmom]

I had a family like this a few years ago. DCM had to be to work by 630am so she would drop off DCG at 610am. It got to the point where she was late at least once a week and wouldn't call so I implemented the "Convenience fee".

My handbook states that if your child is going to be absent or late, you can contact me via telephone, email or text message but I need to be notified at least 30 minutes before drop off time. Failure to provide notice will result in an additional $10 fee in addition to your normal daily rate.

[Breezy]

It's been 1 hour and 40 minutes now.. I hope everything is okay with them. My mind is wandering to a bunch of different senerios and I am tempted now to call DCD at work to make sure everything is alright. I am just imagining him showing up at 3:30 this afternoon to pick up DCG and her not being here and THEN realizing something is wrong.

Is it my business to call him and see what's up?

[Country Kids]

Call them for piece of mind but tell them that you are leaving since they didn't show up. Stick to that girlfriend and take the take for you and the little man. Big man to if he's home!

Keep us updated!

[daycare]

not trying to pull the negative out here, wanted to share a short story..,

About 6 years ago one of my families (who was fantastic about all of my rules) was about 30 minutes late dropping off their kids. They had never been late before, so I call the mom. No answer. Another 20 min. go by and I call the mom again, No answer. So I called the dad. As it turned out, the mom was in a horrible car accident with both kids in the car on the way to my house.
The dad was in hysterics while on the phone, so I thought the worst.

They all ended up ok, all went to the ER and were sent home the same day. Ever since then, I call all of my families if they are even 15 min late.

Also, about 3 years ago, I had a family that sounds like yours. Drop off and picked up when it was easy for them and did not take me into consideration. SO I started a new PHB policy. If you are more than 20min late without notice you forfeit your spot. I will not take you in even if I am here.
I also don't take kids in after 9:30am. Maybe you can try to enforce something like that.

Sorry you are having to deal with a lousy person like this who is not taking your time into consideration....

[Christian Mother]

It's been 1 hour and 40 minutes now.. I hope everything is okay with them. My mind is wandering to a bunch of different senerios and I am tempted now to call DCD at work to make sure everything is alright. I am just imagining him showing up at 3:30 this afternoon to pick up DCG and her not being here and THEN realizing something is wrong.

Is it my business to call him and see what's up?

I'm w/you...I'd be worried specially since it's out of character for them not to notify you...I would call dcd's work # and tell sorry for calling but I am just worried about dcm..I haven't heard from them today and dcb never showed up for daycare this morning. You tried reaching mom on her phone with no reply...just wanting to make sure everything is ok....

[Breezy]

I called and texted dad too as I am super worried. She does show up late some times but usually she eventually lets me know. Its not like her to be going on almost 2 hours late with ZERO communication. I would feel horrible if I didn't check with all numbers I was provided and then to find out something happened.

I know mom has some sort of heart condition- not sure what exactly the condition is- but that also makes me worry. At least now I can say I did everything I could do to check on them short of driving the hour up there.

Hopefully it is something as simple as DCG was up all night and then mom fell asleep and slept through her alarm or something like that. I have done that before.. Not going to be able to enjoy my day though until I know.

[wdmmom]

Some people are just flaky like that. I would do what ever you wanted to get done later in the day and spend some quality time with your own child.

I'm sure everything is fine. Don't worry your whole day away.

[Breezy]

Ok so she texted me and said that they just woke up, DCG was up half the night. I said I am glad everything is ok. I was having visions of a car accident or something. She said no car accident just a tired mommy and how long do I need for my errands.

I haven't left to do errands... I was going to meet my DH for lunch in less than 2 hours though....

Guess I will have to scrap those plans now, right?