Old School

[godiva83]

Old school, because it is what works.
I don't want my child to be disrespectful, they are children they need boundaries, rules, manners and to respect their peers and adults.
I also believe in true choices, " x, would you like milk or water with lunch or would you like to sit on the blue or red chair." I also believe you need to value and show respect to children's emotions and feelings - we need to be proper role models while guiding and teaching children.

My dad was a bit of both and I look back now and appreciate it. If I were to say break curfew or skip he made me do the churches or neighbors gardens all Saturday, for a teen with a social life it was t fun. Also, he used this time to actually talk to me, find out about my life, teach me about the world and as much as I hated it then I truly value all those Saturdays I was out doing community service with my old man - if only I could skip math one more time

[daycare]

I am not too sure what old school refers to?? Somenone anyone help me... Sorry.

Does this mean to do things like are grandparents did?:confused::confused:

[Country Kids]

I am not too sure what old school refers to?? Somenone anyone help me... Sorry.

Does this mean to do things like are grandparents did?:confused::confused:

Yes or parents. Even just the generation before us would work. Think of the 50's -70's how parents/kids were.

[daycare]

Yes or parents. Even just the generation before us would work. Think of the 50's -70's how parents/kids were.

ahh ok. I see...Well I do nothing like what they did, but there are a lot of reasons for that.
1. is now I am living in the USA
2. I would go to jail...

SO maybe I would fall under new ways....

Or you can count me out...

[mac60]

Old school. And I agree with most of everyone above that considers themselves old school.

[Countrygal]

What IS the "new school"??? ::

To my knowlege, kids haven't changed, just they way they are handled. I don't think it's been a big improvement. OS works. It's tried and true most of the time. HOWEVER (aha, the caveat) - there are things I'VE learned over the years. Those are new school (to me). AND... (another caveat) - society is different than it was 30 years ago or more. So things ARE different whether we want them to be or not. Therefore the way we handle some things is, by necessity, different.

I don't think I answered the question.....

[Kaddidle Care]

Old School all the way. I AM the playground Gestapo! ::

I do have off days when I can't get them in line and then I feel like this:

[jenny31052]

I'm only 30, but I use old school methods with the daycare kids (minus the spanking - )...
I do acknowledge their feelings, however I'm not afraid of disciplining. I sure dont want the kids to go home and tell Mom and Dad that I am a "meany", but I don't want this kids to destroy my property, or being direspectful.

I can't stand when I say, for example, "no running, please!!", and they look at me, and keep running down the living room! that is automatic time out in my house.

They don't want to share? I warn them once, the second time I hear: "No!It's mine, he took it, she took it, I had it, he stole it from me" or whatever, that toy is gone for the day... too bad..

[countrymom]

Old school during daycare hours, and more new agey after hours.

That is because during the daycare hours, my first priority is to keep everyone SAFE, and injury free. I could care less if anyone is happy about it, how/what the child feels about it. I expect obedience the first time, and that's that. It is required in order to be safe with a larger group. ALL my rules are to minimize my liability and to prevent as many issues as possible.

Now, after hours with only my own kids...I want to explore their feelings on a particular matter, help them make their own decisions (and for them to own their own successes & failures), thought behind those decisions, etc... My priority is their personal growth & happiness with themselves -- not me making them happy by giving in to demands/tantrums. There does tend to be more tantrums with my own kids, with the less strict boundries and stuff...but I know that I am growing these kids to be confident in themselves.

So, an example: I do not allow the kids to run, jump on the sled and crash into the fence at the bottom of the little hill during daycare hours. With only my own kids, I figure it is rather harmless fun, but if someone lands wrong & breaks an arm or gets a bloody nose, it is all part of childhood.

yup in my house too. but its the age too. Its not new age when you do it with your own children because of the age difference, I'm still mean with my kids, they still have to behave, but they also have freedom to play in the ditch and get dirty and not touch the stinky fish because I can't stand the fishy smell.