What To Do When You Have A Funeral ...

[beachgrl]

My ex husbands dad passed not too long ago, i went to the wake i. The evening and i would have missed it but wouldnt have wanted to bc i wanted to be there for my son and the family in general..but one of my dcmmwas off that day and the other used backup so i was able to attend.

[cheerfuldom]

my grandmother passed away last year and I had the same dilemma. Finally I practically slapped myself and was like Hellloooo? This is your grandmother! your only chance to have that closure and be with the family when they need you! Plus other family members would be hurt if from their view, they see you putting your job first. These are events and memories you cannot ever get back. The parents need a back up plan and they will get over it. You may not ever get over the fact that you missed this event.

[bice99]

I have 3 paid funeral days in my handbook/contract - for both myself and my families. Theirs is for immediate family.

[Meeko]

I have it in my handbook that parents need to make sure they have back up in the case of an emergency closure.

I've only had to close twice in 27 years for an emergency/funeral etc and everyone was great.

But bottom line is I tend their children...not them. They need to have their ducks in a row and plan for emergencies when I cannot help them.

And anyone who honestly thinks that their daycare comes before a death in my family would be out the door with a boot in the backside....just sayin'!!!

[daycare]

OMG sorry, what kind of heartless parents do you have. I am so so sorry that they are doing this to you.

I would tell them that you understand that they don't have any time left, but that they have to understand that you need to tend to your family right now and that they are responsible for making proper arrangments for when and if theses types of situations arise.

Would their boss give them the day off if their MIL or other family member passed away and they already used all of their sick time? I am sure they would.

Many moons ago I worked at a dental office and both of my kids kept getting sick so I had missed many days of work. My grandma died and when I asked for the time off, the dentist said NO, you don't have any days off left. I quit. Who wants to work with someone so heartless? I understand that the bills needed to be paid, but no one was going to take away my opportunity to say my last good byes to my grandmother and take away my right to morn.

I hope it all works out for you...

[PitterPatter]

First of all I am very sorry for your loss. This shouldn't even be an issue. Clients should step up and offer to find alternate care. I would Close for the day. Anyone of your client families would do the same so why shouldn't you. We are human too.

If they can't understand that then they don't have a heart. If you don't already have noted in your handbook that clients are to have a backup in case of emergencies then I would definatley add it ASAP!

[e.j.]

I'm sorry for your loss.

I agree with those who have advised you to close. My father passed away at the end of April so I had to close for his wake and funeral. My husband's mother just passed away this past Thursday and her wake/funeral was held this morning in another state. As terrible as I felt having to close the day care again so soon, I did close today so we could attend her funeral as a family. Only the most self-absorbed person would fault you for closing in order to attend a close family member's wake and/or funeral.