Question About A 9 Month Old

[Francine]

So what do you do with a 9 month old who HATES any sort of confinement? I have never had my house set up where the kids could have full access, I've always had my kitchen/diningroom off limits for the most part. It's where the everybody comes in so the floors get wet, the dogs water is in there, etc.etc. and yes part of is that I just don't feel like the kids need to have full access to my full house. It turns into a big circle so it just screams for running laps LOL. BUT I have this little 9 month old that has been here since he was 5 months old, if he is confined in anyway he screams bloody murder and that is putting it mildly. Yesterday I had to run down to the basement to help my daughter find something so I put him in the saucer......he flipped out the minute he got in there and screamed for the full MINUTE that he was in there. If I dare to put him in my "superyard" he will scream the entire time whether it is 2 minutes or 15 or an hour. I am talking a scream beyond words, and he isn't crying he is pi---d and wants the world to know it. I have never allowed free run of the house and I hate it, I hate him crawling after me and hanging on my pant legs every waking minute. I tried from day one putting him in the superyard every day for just a few minutes thinking he would eventually get use to it......NOT SO MUCH! It doesn't matter if I am sitting right next to it, or even in it with him. He does sleep in a PNP and does just fine with that, thank God because he wouldn't be here if he didn't.

[Meyou]

I'd just let him scream if he was fed, changed and not tired. I have a 10 month old that HATES gates too but she's getting better every day.

[laundrymom]

I'd just let him scream if he was fed, changed and not tired. I have a 10 month old that HATES gates too but she's getting better every day.

Agree. A screaming baby is preferred to a hurt baby.. YOU are boss. He will figure it out.

[Breezy]

Ditto what MeYou said!

[cheerfuldom]

agreed with the others.....I am put him in there and let him cry until he gave up and realized that crying does not mean he gets his way. I have areas confined off and also, kids that hate that. I had one girl that would scream at every closed door, even if no one else was in there, even if it was a closet. she wanted full access all the time. they do get over it but you are just going to have to let him cry. the vast majority of my dc parents let the kids have full access to the house, including the bathrooms. one parent moved all her furniture against the walls and put EVERYTHING away so her daughter could run loose. my sister babysat for them once and said it was really strange....only the big furniture and the kids toys, nothing else in the house at all.

[countrymom]

I have to agree too, except I have 3 kids that are 1 and they think they are the boss.

[Daycaremomof2]

I had a 10 month old that was like that. He screamed everyday for a month. (He was only with mom before and sheheld him all day). I ended up terming- he never adjusted. Found out afterwards that she had taken him to one other provider right before me and they termed him after a month too, for the same reason. He only wanted mom. Attachment parenting is awesome- but not in a group daycare setting.