Letting Someone Go

[morgan24]

How would you go about letting dcb who is 10 go? He is the one who blames everything on having ADHD. I didn't have him over the holidays and it was so peaceful here. Every day I had 6 kids and some of them were school age. They all got along and I didn't spend any time redirecting them. Dcb comes back on Monday and starts something with every group of kids that were playing. I spent most of my time redirecting him to play somewhere else.

My only reason is he just doesn't fit in and I want to let him go before summer. I can't imagine having him here all day. It would be total chaos. I already have a school age girl waiting for his spot. I have only terminated 2 times in the 17 years that I have been doing care and it's not something I'm good at. I'm just get right to the point and I think I need a nicer way to say it.

[Blackcat31]

"Dear Parent

I will no longer be offering services to you as of ****** 2012. At this time, I feel I am no longer able to provide the level of service Billy requires. The last day I will provide services is _______.

Thank you,

Provider"


If the parents want to discuss it, just keep your response vague (too much info will lead to them being able to talk you into or out of your decision)Simply state that caring for mixed age groups can be tough and their DS would do much better with children his own age.

I have done this in the past as well and no longer take SA'ers but do have their siblings. I just told my parents that I really wanted to concentrate on the under SA children and mixing in an older kid always makes things tough. FOR EVERYONE.

Good luck.

[godiva83]

I agree with black cat - short, sweet and to the point.

It is best to put blame on you sort of idea, " I can not provide the care x reguires to meet his full potential. It is in HIS best interest to be in care with children his age, skill level ect.

Really, what can they say if you are telling them it is in their child's best interest.

Letting a DCF go is always hard, but in the long run usually all parties are happier in the end.

Good luck

[Ariana]

I agree with putting the blame on you as well. I have only termed once and it was for lack of language, possible delay and evasive mom who was in denial. I told her that I was finding 4 kids too hard, told her that her boys were wonderful and apologized for the inconvenience. It went really well!