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oohhh, I have that four year old too Sugar......is he an only child? Mine is.
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awwww, somebody's got a little crush it seems lovethisComment
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How do you handle the situation when you praise one child or encourage them, and then all the others ask, "am I?" Example: I tell one child, "Thank you for setting the table. You were a really good helper". Then all the others ask, "Was I?" When they hadn't even done anything. Or "Thank you for putting those books away. You were a really good listener." Then the others (who fought clean up and some who refused), ask, "Am I a good listener?"Comment
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lovethis Alfie Kohn, and I lovethislovethis this particular article...fits into the category perfectly.
I didn't stop saying good job entirely (sometimes, it *is* warranted, IMO) but I dropped about 95% of it, maybe more. HUGE difference in my DD and in my dcks. I can tell though, which ones get a lot of empty praise at home.Hee hee! Look, I have a signature!Comment
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are these the same kids not paying attention to what the teacher is doing"God said, ‘I have found David son of Jesse, a man after my own heart. He will do everything I want him to do.'"
Acts 13:22Comment
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Awwww... Even if it's a little excessive, you gotta love a little boy who looks up to you so much.
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My own 5 year old daughter is that way. Drives me crazy!! I praise her brother for listening really well and I get, "Am I good listener too? Am I behaving well?". I have explained to her numerous times that sometimes its about other and not about her and her behaviour, and I make sure to praise her a lot as well. I think it must be an age thing.Comment
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Yes! I have 3 kids like that and one that actually does go into that much detail 'he does tell me when he blows his nose!. I just say, great, 'go throw the kleenex away' and move on!
I have one that tells me EVERYDAY 'Miss T--- I got my shoes on! She's been doing this on her own since she started here in June.
In my case yes! Two if the three kids are siblings and neither know what's going on 1/2 the time and I have to repeat my self.Comment
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You're right. There's more to it than I put though. Some of these children are very very spoiled at home, and can do no wrong. So they sometimes have problems listening or doing as asked here. (mom gets mad at us and blames other children when their own is having problems here). So we like to tell the children they are good listeners as often as possible (you know how children begin to behave the way you say they are? If you tell them they're really good at something, they try harder next time, etc?) So maybe if we can tell them they're good listeners or good helpers as often as possible, maybe they will begin thinking they are good helpers and actually become good helpers/listeners. I just didn't add all that to it earlier because it was off topic. But sometimes I'll praise one for being good helper/listener, and then the others want to be told they are too, even though they refused to help/do as asked
My little theory backfires on me at those times...
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