Another Horrible Act!!

[blueclouds29]

http://www.fox2now.com/news/ktvi-missing-affton-mo-toddler-police-search-111511,0,5340800.story

This all unfolded yesterday about 45 min away from me. Mom got up and baby was gone from his crib. Hours later police find the body of the baby in a cemetary. Today they have a suspect in custody.
WHY? WHO would do this to such an innocent,sweet baby???
Breaks your heart!
Can't even keep your kids safe in your own house, in thier own bedroom!!!
SICK!!!

[mismatchedsocks]

I cant even read it from what you posted. ( so sad. My heart breaks for the family.

[MommyofThree]

I am so terrified for my own children. How are these kids not safe in their own home... I just dont get it.. I check on my kids so much at night since little lisa has been missing. Wow.

[morgan24]

My thoughts and prayers are with this family. I hope who ever did it fries.

[beachgrl]

We had a story yesterday in a neighboring county about a ten yr girl who they found had hung herself. They investigating social networks because they seem to think she was being bullied...so sad

[Breezy]

I am sickened by the fact that a child can not be safe in their own home. I am seriously considering putting decorative bars on all my windows like my neighbors have.

[blueclouds29]

So far they have the mom in custody for the murder!
so sad, very sad... My heart breaks for the family!!

[Cat Herder]

I read she admitted to beating him because he would not stop crying.

[awestbrook713]

I just don't have words, why couldn't she just leave the room and close the door if she was feeling that angry, why put your hands on a child that can't defend themselves. I am filled with anger and sadness. Nothing will fix this no jail sentence in the world will make this better. People need to smarten up and stop being so damn selfish if you are to worried about partying and can't think about anyone else but yourself you obviously shouldn't be a parent.

[dave4him]

Its what i tell my wife when the kids are too much, just leave them in the crib and go outside for a few minutes

[mismatchedsocks]

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/11/16/shelby-dasher-missouri-mo_n_1098619.html?1321496869&ncid=webmail2

So sad, I dont understand.

[Cat Herder]

So sad, I dont understand.

When re-reading all the "crying" and "screamer" threads, here and on Cafe Mom, I do understand how you get "there".

What I don't understand is why there is not more discussion/education on how to deal with it when we do get to that ledge.

Reminds me a bit of the "Baby Burner" (Irene ?)case....the only difference was this time it was a parent. NO caregiver is immune to this.

[SilverSabre25]

What I don't understand is why there is not more discussion/education on how to deal with it when we do get to that ledge.

I think at least part of it is the prevailing attitude of "you can NEVER take your eyes off the children, EVER!!! Not even for a minute!!!! SOMETHING COULD HAPPEN!!!!!!!11!1!"

Parents or caregivers get angry/stressed/upset, feel like they need to escape for a few minutes, but then have the fear that if they do put the kid/s somewhere safe and step out for a minute, that they will get in trouble. So they try to deal, but then snap.

There are mixed messages being sent, it's all right there in the literature they send you home from the hospital with. "Never shake your baby, if you're mad, put baby in his crib and walk away for a bit." and then on the next page, "don't ever leave baby alone, EVER. It's not safe!"

Parents feel that they have no recourse.

Then caregivers have all the parent stuff over their heads, as well as all the licensing stuff, and there you go.

[Maddy'sMommy]

Parents or caregivers get angry/stressed/upset, feel like they need to escape for a few minutes, but then have the fear that if they do put the kid/s somewhere safe and step out for a minute, that they will get in trouble. So they try to deal, but then snap.

I agree with this. There needs to be more education for parents that you can put your baby down in a safe place and walk away for a minute. Take a breath and calm down. Especially for single parents who don't have a partner to take over when the reach their limit.

[Cat Herder]

I think at least part of it is the prevailing attitude of "you can NEVER take your eyes off the children, EVER!!! Not even for a minute!!!! SOMETHING COULD HAPPEN!!!!!!!11!1!"

Parents or caregivers get angry/stressed/upset, feel like they need to escape for a few minutes, but then have the fear that if they do put the kid/s somewhere safe and step out for a minute, that they will get in trouble. So they try to deal, but then snap.

There are mixed messages being sent, it's all right there in the literature they send you home from the hospital with. "Never shake your baby, if you're mad, put baby in his crib and walk away for a bit." and then on the next page, "don't ever leave baby alone, EVER. It's not safe!"

Parents feel that they have no recourse.

Then caregivers have all the parent stuff over their heads, as well as all the licensing stuff, and there you go.

Yeah, I see your point.

Ugh, it is a hard topic. There MUST be a middle ground. :confused: