Venting Thread

[deliberateliterate]

I'm having my very first experience with a DCP that I just don't like. At all.

I posted about him a few weeks ago. He tried to hand in his contract with the part he did't like scratched out. I tried to clear the air the day after we sorted it, and he made a passive agressive remark.

Yesterday, he comes to the door, and it's very chaotic (everyone gets picked up within a 15 minute window, and he's the first one). Kids are milling around the door trying to get their stuff on, and everyone is in a great, but loud mood. He tells two different DCKs, two different times to be quiet, that they are being too loud.

Um, that is NOT your place. If you don't like the noise, then the door is right behind you. I'll get your kids ready. But don't tell someone else's kids what to do when I'm in charge of them. :dislike::dislike::dislike:

[jgcp]

Only a four day week but it was loonng glad its over. Dcg that runs her home was out all week in disneyland for her 3rd birthday so this week was fun.showed up everyday with a princess dress on? ( not to mention its 12* out) as soon as mom is gone I change her. Then tue at drop off dcm wont leave just keeps hugging and kissing dcg and says " its like the very first day all over again" whaaat?? I was trying not to laugh at how rediculous it sounded!( ive watched this dcg since I opened almost 2 yrs ago) the dcg has asked for cupcakes every single day this week cause its her birthday....uhhhh? And all my hard work with her went down the drain and her attitude was horrible. Hello weekend!!!!!

[daycarediva]

My 2 year old took the day off yesterday to spend with Grandma. She is now a completely different child. I CAN'T say no, but I think I will STRONGLY suggest they plan these days for FRIDAYS from now on. Pushing, screaming NO! MINE! "I DON'T WANT TOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!" and nobody is allowed to FEEL anything. "I feel so happy about..." "NO YOU DON'T! I DO!"

At least it IS Friday.

[Kimskiddos]

This week has been long enough as it is. All kids are coughing and/or snotty, it's been raining and cold for weeks and we are stuck inside.

Yesterday at 4:58PM (I close at 5:00PM) the only kiddo still here starts crying and says his eyes hurt. Next thing I know this kid is puking all over my playroom! He is inconsolable. Mom shows up as I am trying to clean him up a bit and then wants to stand around in the playroom comforting him, which is fine - I guess, now it's after 5. But he is still trying to gag.

Not how I needed my day yesterday to end!! Dcb went to the doctor and has ear and sinus infection and is on meds, so that's good. Glad it's not the stomach flu! Of course he is staying home today.

[kchlmom]

New here and want to vent!

Hello everyone! I am new to this forum so a bit of background before I start my rant ! I a a mom to 4, my youngest being 12 oldest 19 and no longer living at home! I live in a very very small rural Ontario Canada town with a population of nearly 600. Our public school has 121 kids enrolled! I am one of 3 daycare providers in town. As you can imagine, good DCF's are hard to find!
Now for my rant! I have hands down the worst DCM ever! She lives behind me (in a town this small not providing care for neighbours would put you out of business) so I already broke my own first rule about not providing care for friends or neighbours. She is one of 4 part time families I care for. Every one around here is part time care. Most parents struggle to balance jobs and family often with moms working part time jobs and trying to work around dad's schedule. This results in very scattered hours and days. Back to this particular DCM, drop off is 5:30 am, (or should I say was!) This week DCG has been arriving anywhere from 5:10-5:20. I spoke to her about it and her reasoning was "winter weather" Granted she does work out of town but we have not had snow all this week and driving has been clear sailing! I have DCG until 2:15 (although his week has been closer to 2:30 as mom has been "running errands") DCG has been bringing outside toys all week. I spoke to mom and her response "she wont leave the house without them" So toys stay out in the porch. DCG is 3 and totes "Blankie" everywhere. As soon as mom leaves "Blankie" goes away and she is fine! You name it DCM has tried to pull it!
Food from home-check
Excuses why she cant pay-check (1 week before Christmas with the excuse of needing a new laptop! Do I look like I care!)
Last minute date changes-check (as in-You wont have her tomorrow since hubby changed shifts but you will have her Sunday!)
Horrible drop offs and pick ups-check (DCG become hell on two feet as soon as DCM arrives. Pick up can last up to 20 Minutes with DCG running wild and DCM laughing. Solved it by having DCG in coat and boots and at the door)
I could go on and on. And to top it off this morning asked me about February 14th (yes valentines day, yes its a Saturday!) so they can go to the Outdoorsman show! I made the mistake of saying that I was watching an 18 month old for the entire weekend as a favour to her Grandma who just recently got custody. DCM asked me how much I was charging for the wole weekend. When I told her she said "Wow you are really raking it in" To which I replied "Actually no Im not. That is 3 full days and 2 overnights with an 18 month old baby!)
UGHHHHH!!! If I werent leaving daycare all together n April I would term her now but I need her until then!

[daycarediva]

Gwen, welcome! You really can't please everyone all of the time. I would be upfront (my style) and say "Dcm, I noticed that you were upset by X, Y and Z. Is it something you would like to discuss?" She probably doesn't really understand the dynamics of group care. She may want a nanny/1:1 care at group rates, she may just be an impossible to please woman, she may be jealous and want to stay home with her child. The possibilities are endless.

Also- child should have a spare set of clothes to change into and should not have needed to borrow a sock. Did dcm return YOUR sock?

[Gwen]

Venting..... I am so frustrated by a new parent I have.

I have a small daycare that checks all the important and most the not-so-important boxes: competitive rate, small group; only 4 or 5, CLEAN, tidy, lots of organized, age-appropriate and educational toys, long hours available, I take no paid vacations, the children smile and enjoy me and my daycare, there are no real issues; behavioral or otherwise, bottoms kept clean and appropriately diapered, the children are fed on schedule and given naps on a schedule. sleeping arrangements are clean, comfy, appropriate and liked by the parents.

But this parent doesn't have much nice to say, rarely says "thank you" and got annoyed when three minor things happened; 1) one of her child's socks went missing until I persevered and found it later that night. I even texted her to let her know and sent her home with a spare sock so his feet would be warm! 2) I didn't have the pacifier on hand once and brought it out to her car before she left. 3) One time, her child went home with another child's diaper. A simple mix-up.

I do SOO much for her and give her better, more conscientious service than most providers i know of. Why can't she just not sweat the small stuff and be darned grateful her son is happy and getting such good care?!

[LysesKids]

Seriously, you can't leave?

I knew something was off yesterday when little miss slept so much and very off schedule, today because it starts all over this morning only earlier ( she fell asleep with 45 minutes of arrival); add to this whining, not eating/drinking and just laying around... oh yeah, the Fever I called you about at Noon (the child is 20 months and normally whirlwind into everything)...

You finally leave work at 3pm after I threatened additional fees and you know in writing she isn't coming back tomorrow. I didn't appreciate the fact you left her here when there are younger babies needing my attention just because you don't have back up and no time off... not my problem and you know I am pissed that you didn't leave work earlier ( I have texts saying on my way for over a 2 hr period)

Little Miss ages out in 6 weeks so I am holding off termination, but moms last comments going out the door was her fever has been worse... that's not the bloody point mom

[deliberateliterate]

I don't understand the rush to potty train.

I have a 2y3m DCG that is not ready in the slightest. She is just starting to talk, has zero interest in the potty, and can't even really follow simple directions yet. She has been really late to hit pretty much all of her milestones; she just isn't ready.

But because she's over 2, it must be time, right?? DCM is lovely, but clueless. Her friend gave her a giant box of pull ups, and that's her main reason for starting.

She refuses to even sit on the potty at home, but "you'll put her on the potty every 20-30 minutes, right?" Nope. I've been putting her on 3 or 4 times a day when I think of it for over a week now, and not even one pee. But I'll keep doing it, and maybe when I run through her stash of pullups and she realizes how expensive they are, she'll back off.

Pretty much exactly what happened. I asked for more pullups and mom said that DCG is using them as diapers and it's too expensive to continue and that she'll give it some time and try again in a few months. happyface


I did just find out that she is expecting twins in the summer, so I understand the rush a little more now. Paying for 3 sets of diapers is not ideal.

[jgcp]

Sure dcm your barely 4 yr old is soooo ready for kindergarten.... who am I kidding BYEEEEEE!i wont complain if it actually happens...

I Told daycare mom yes her son needs behavoral therapy and not just for nail biting he has issues he throws tantrums and screams every day he is the oldest child here and I don't want my littles to pick up these behaviors too and she said well my son picks up things from the other kids. But your son is the oldest and I he knows better. Get on board or its good bye to you!

[KIDZRMYBIZ]

Absolutely true. My family owned a dealership, and I was AMAZED at how far the manufactured home business has come-energy efficient, nice looking, tons of upgrades available. I considered buying one about 8 years ago when I went into one and found a closet bigger than my bedroom at the time (beautiful closet with build-ins galore!).

Manufactured and pre-fab homes have to conform to the same building standards and codes as those built on-site. They are every bit as good as most any cookie-cutter neighborhood home.

[KIDZRMYBIZ]

I don't understand the rush to potty train.

I have a 2y3m DCG that is not ready in the slightest. She is just starting to talk, has zero interest in the potty, and can't even really follow simple directions yet. She has been really late to hit pretty much all of her milestones; she just isn't ready.

But because she's over 2, it must be time, right?? DCM is lovely, but clueless. Her friend gave her a giant box of pull ups, and that's her main reason for starting.

She refuses to even sit on the potty at home, but "you'll put her on the potty every 20-30 minutes, right?" Nope. I've been putting her on 3 or 4 times a day when I think of it for over a week now, and not even one pee. But I'll keep doing it, and maybe when I run through her stash of pullups and she realizes how expensive they are, she'll back off.

That's kinda my prob with the almost 2yo that is doing the 3-day-train I posted about. It seems like these days, parents want to train RIGHT NOW NO MATTER WHAT because they don't want to buy diapers anymore, or they don't care if their almost 4yo ever trains, and oh how I hate changing pants on a big 3yo!!!

[deliberateliterate]

I don't understand the rush to potty train.

I have a 2y3m DCG that is not ready in the slightest. She is just starting to talk, has zero interest in the potty, and can't even really follow simple directions yet. She has been really late to hit pretty much all of her milestones; she just isn't ready.

But because she's over 2, it must be time, right?? DCM is lovely, but clueless. Her friend gave her a giant box of pull ups, and that's her main reason for starting.

She refuses to even sit on the potty at home, but "you'll put her on the potty every 20-30 minutes, right?" Nope. I've been putting her on 3 or 4 times a day when I think of it for over a week now, and not even one pee. But I'll keep doing it, and maybe when I run through her stash of pullups and she realizes how expensive they are, she'll back off.

[Givingthemgrace]

Who are you kidding that double wides aren't nice, hell my new single wide is fine for 4 babies and me and it's energy star rated. You can not only underpin them, but manufactured homes can be put on permanent foundations too... some are better than cheap stick built now - have you even checked into a dblewide lately to see the new improvements? If you own the land , build a small man cave separate from the house... bet hubby would be happy then

The nice thing about a single or double wide would be that I wouldn't have to do daycare anymore. Even if I wanted to, it's pretty far out in the country. So my concern about keeping the daycare stuff separate from my kids stuff wouldn't matter.I have seen some really nice trailers-I love them! But a basement is really nice too for tornadoes, you're right DH can heat the garage for a man cave.