Venting Thread

[Alwaysgreener]

I agree with you I'm 32 and been working in a center for 7 years as an aide and instead of some people especially younger then myself doing what they're suppose to do, they expect me to do it. Naptime is awful because I'm up doing things (making snack, washing dishes, giving breaks in the other building ect) and the ones that are watching the children in the gym are on their cell phones with their earbuds in and watching movies. No cleaning or planning for their classes until they decide to do it at the end of the day

This sounds like a Martha /Mary situation, they are taking some downtime and you are not. Are you taking a break of do you work through the entire nap?

[Alwaysgreener]

I'll have to remember this for next time! I don't know why parents feel like they need to know - and I don't charge for closures, so they can't use that excuse. I don't ask them what they do on their days off :confused:

I don't take them very often at all, but what would you say if you were to take a day off, just to have a day off? I would be tempted to tell them "I'm doing nothing tomorrow! Taking a day to myself" just so they know that I'm entitled to those, too

I don't know your client, you do but I would think some of them maybe asking out of friendliness/ kindness not to be nosey?

I know when my foster kids were in dc, I may have asked in passing, just to be nice. I honestly was not asking to be rude or judge what she was doing but just as a friendly question. I have asked my hairdresser, the guy at the meat market, the librarian, ect the same thing, just to be polite not because I really care what they do in there free time.

[Josiegirl]

Hugs and good thoughts to all of you for your rough days, the chaos in your lives, the never-ending stress and needs of children and parents in your lives!!! May your week end on a positive happy relieved note and you can look forward to your weekend!!

[springv]

Why is common sense not a thing anymore? Or a basic work ethic? I just don't understand young people these days and now I'm even more annoyed because saying that makes me feel old.

I agree with you I'm 32 and been working in a center for 7 years as an aide and instead of some people especially younger then myself doing what they're suppose to do, they expect me to do it. Naptime is awful because I'm up doing things (making snack, washing dishes, giving breaks in the other building ect) and the ones that are watching the children in the gym are on their cell phones with their earbuds in and watching movies. No cleaning or planning for their classes until they decide to do it at the end of the day

[CountryRoads]

I used to have a bunch of generic "back up" statements on standby for the times in which parents ask why I am closed or taking a day off.

Now when asked why I'm closing I literally just straight up say "Nothing that has anything to do with daycare" then I move the conversation along.

Honestly, depending on who is asking I will sometimes act offended that they are asking at all as it is over stepping and none of their business.

I'll have to remember this for next time! I don't know why parents feel like they need to know - and I don't charge for closures, so they can't use that excuse. I don't ask them what they do on their days off :confused:

I don't take them very often at all, but what would you say if you were to take a day off, just to have a day off? I would be tempted to tell them "I'm doing nothing tomorrow! Taking a day to myself" just so they know that I'm entitled to those, too

[Bluemoon5]

Why is common sense not a thing anymore? Or a basic work ethic? I just don't understand young people these days and now I'm even more annoyed because saying that makes me feel old.

[Blackcat31]

I hate getting asked what I'm doing on the days I'm closed.

"Doing anything fun tomorrow?"
"Do you have a doctors appointment or something?"

One of my many pet peeves from parents ::

I used to have a bunch of generic "back up" statements on standby for the times in which parents ask why I am closed or taking a day off.

Now when asked why I'm closing I literally just straight up say "Nothing that has anything to do with daycare" then I move the conversation along.

Honestly, depending on who is asking I will sometimes act offended that they are asking at all as it is over stepping and none of their business.

[Annalee]

Isn't it funny how when you get an opening and you call first the person who has nagged you for over a year and they say "no, I'll pass this time if you won't let me do part-time" "oh yes, I will do part time but it's still full-time-paying for the slot" She says "oh no, can't do that". Fine by me, move on the next interview.

[CountryRoads]

I hate getting asked what I'm doing on the days I'm closed.

"Doing anything fun tomorrow?"
"Do you have a doctors appointment or something?"

One of my many pet peeves from parents ::

[Rockgirl]

Nap time pick ups don’t bother me as long as the parent lets me know ahead of time. That way I can have their child up and ready to go. If they are picking up shortly after nap time starts I do not lay the child down for a nap. I let him sit in the library playing with a quiet toy or looking at a book.

I did that a few times before changing my stance on that. They never show up when they say they will! It only took a few nap times of children sitting and waiting....and waiting. Now I tell them, “Text me when you’re leaving to head my way.” Then I get the child up and ready. If they don’t want them to lay down, they need to be here before nap.

[CeriBear]

Sent out a letter last a couple weeks ago explaining that if you're child is not at daycare PRIOR to snack time, then they must be fed AT HOME because they will miss out on snack time here.

I had to send out a similar one about breakfast. At my center we serve breakfast from 8:15-8:30. If you want to wait until 8:45 to bring your child. that’s fine just please feed him breakfast at home.

Nap time pick ups don’t bother me as long as the parent lets me know ahead of time. That way I can have their child up and ready to go. If they are picking up shortly after nap time starts I do not lay the child down for a nap. I let him sit in the library playing with a quiet toy or looking at a book.

[Snowmom]

I send out monthly newsletters that include any closures. If I have a closure that comes up that didn't get included on the newsletter, then I do a separate letter letting everyone know.

So, it's very frustrating when a dcp "forgets" or doesn't even know that I'm closed! Had one dcm tell me her child will be late on Friday. "I'm closed." "Oh, yeah. I knew that."

Talking to another dcm, I was telling her where I'm going towards the end of the month. Same dcm as earlier: "Are you closed that day?"

"Yes."
"Oh, I must not of seen it."

That closure was on the past 2 months of newsletters.

ARGH! Drives me crazy. I don't send out messages and newsletters for fun. Read them!!

I had a funny thing happen the other day.
I had scheduled a day off for September (scheduled in July) but later cancelled it (with several weeks notice) since I had to switch some things in October.
The day comes and dcm mentioned Monday what their "fun plans" were since I was closed Tuesday. I say "I am open tomorrow, I switched that awhile back. But if you prefer to keep dcg home, I'm happy to give you credit."
Several back tracking "oh's" and "um's" later, dcg is now coming and "fun plans" cancelled.

[CountryRoads]

I send out monthly newsletters that include any closures. If I have a closure that comes up that didn't get included on the newsletter, then I do a separate letter letting everyone know.

So, it's very frustrating when a dcp "forgets" or doesn't even know that I'm closed! Had one dcm tell me her child will be late on Friday. "I'm closed." "Oh, yeah. I knew that."

Talking to another dcm, I was telling her where I'm going towards the end of the month. Same dcm as earlier: "Are you closed that day?"

"Yes."
"Oh, I must not of seen it."

That closure was on the past 2 months of newsletters.

ARGH! Drives me crazy. I don't send out messages and newsletters for fun. Read them!!

[DaveA]

It hasn’t left my mouth (yet ) but the phrase “God help your next provider!” has crossed my mind way too many times this week regarding DCK & DCP.

[Annalee]

It is easy to fix. It only takes once per family. :hug: Turn them away at the door.

Just do it. Only you can. :hug:

So true, CH! I've lost my edge a little and need to get it back!