Toddler Being Dropped off in Soaking Diaper and PJ Every Morning

[sharlan]

I'm lucky, never had that happen. If a child pooped on the way over, the parent always stopped and changed it.

I've always let the kids come in jammies, but the babies always had clean diapers.

I would be beyond ticked if a parent plopped a soggy kid on my new furniture.

[JenNJ]

I don't mind PJ's at all. I do mind wet or poppy diapers. Its not nice to leave someone in filth or to pass the buck on a diaper change. Where ever, whenever it happens it needs to be taken care of in that place at that time. If a child poops here while mom and dad are chatting with me, I change the child so I expect the same.

Luckily I haven't had this issue with daycare but I had it as a nanny. I would arrived to a pee soaked bed with child sleeping in it and newspapers or a towel thrown on top. It was really upsetting.

[mom2many]

I could see asking for the diaper to be changed, maybe. I guess I'm too easy? I don't mind at all to dress them. I have fixed one of my girls' hair for the 2 years I've had her b/c Dad brought her really early and she'd come in and sleep. I feel like its part of the luxury of a child care home. They can come in PJs and go back to sleep! Heck, my own daughter likes to wear pajamas all day some days. I'm cool with it! Lol! I used to be a mom who worked out of the home and mornings ****ed!! So, I'm more than happy to take up some slack for my parents. Buuuut, if you aren't comfortable with it, then saying something is a good move b/c otherwise you'll just end up resentful and that's never good!

I'm right there with you on this! I don't mind letting the kids come in their jammies and have no problem with getting them dressed. The parents are good about changing their diaper though and I wouldn't want them to be soaking thru when they arrived!

I have one little guy right now that is Autistic and has trouble transitioning...getting him dressed some mornings can be a battle for mom, so I told her not to stress and just let me do it after he gets settled in here.

During vacation some of the S/A will once in awhile come in their pjs and enjoy a leisurely morning before getting dressed. It's just never been an issue or caused me any negativity or resentment, but if it's a problem and doesn't work for you...it's best to speak up and let the parents know your expectations!

[TBird]

If a baby or an infant poops on the way here (which is very rare), the parents always lift him/her out of the car seat and say "Oops...looks like Little Johnny pooped on the way over here. Should I change him real quick before I go???" Of course I always say no and that they should get to work, but BOY do I appreciate the courtesy!!!

MY POLICY: At drop off, children must arrive dressed and ready for the day in clean clothes (no pajamas please), including hair groomed, bathed and freshly diapered.

One lady used to drop her baby off in FULL AFRO, wanting me to sit and braid her hair during the day with a full house here. UM.....NO. I should also add TEETH BRUSHED to my policy. I had an 8 year old SA boy once who never brushed his teeth or combed his hair in the mornings. I told his mom that he represents ME when he walks out this door and onto the bus...PULEEZE have him come here looking like he's on his way to SCHOOL!!!

[Unregistered]

You people sound awful

From the tone of these posts, I wouldn't leave my child in the care of a single one of you. Seeing how you're doing daycare where the culture, apparently, is to appoint yourselves judge and jury of all things parental, it may not have occured to you that if a parent is bringing a child to you in this condition, it is most likely that they tried waiting until the very last second to scoop up thier baby (to allow the baby to SLEEP a little more- what a CRIME!). She's likely hoping upon hope that she can somehow keep this child asleep so that the transition will be smoother for everyone involved. As a mother of 4 (2 in diapers now), I can tell you that it's not that big of a deal to change a diaper and put clothes on a child, particularly AFTER they have had a chance to wake up. This mom is dropping off this poor baby at 6am for crying out loud, and you want baby to be dressed to the nines before you will deign to care for her? Give me a break. Better yet, have a heart. From reading your approaches to this situation, I would seriously wonder if you were treating my child well when they were with you. You all sound horrible.

Oh, and if my daycare provider refused service over this issue when I tried to drop my kids off, I would fire her on the spot and make sure everyone I know hears about her attitude and unreliability.

[Meyou]

From the tone of these posts, I wouldn't leave my child in the care of a single one of you. Seeing how you're doing daycare where the culture, apparently, is to appoint yourselves judge and jury of all things parental, it may not have occured to you that if a parent is bringing a child to you in this condition, it is most likely that they tried waiting until the very last second to scoop up thier baby (to allow the baby to SLEEP a little more- what a CRIME!). She's likely hoping upon hope that she can somehow keep this child asleep so that the transition will be smoother for everyone involved. As a mother of 4 (2 in diapers now), I can tell you that it's not that big of a deal to change a diaper and put clothes on a child, particularly AFTER they have had a chance to wake up. This mom is dropping off this poor baby at 6am for crying out loud, and you want baby to be dressed to the nines before you will deign to care for her? Give me a break. Better yet, have a heart. From reading your approaches to this situation, I would seriously wonder if you were treating my child well when they were with you. You all sound horrible.

Oh, and if my daycare provider refused service over this issue when I tried to drop my kids off, I would fire her on the spot and make sure everyone I know hears about her attitude and unreliability.

Old thread but I DO NOT think it's too much to ask for a parent to take 45 seconds to remove a urine and/or feces filled diaper from their child's body that has been there for 8+ hours. You, yourself just said as a mother to 4 it isn't a big deal.

Our problem as providers is that sometimes parents think because we care for children that it's ok to neglect some of their children's basic needs because "we can do it for them". Having a clean fresh diaper and a fresh outfit even if it's a clean sleeper should not be something any child should have to wait for. It's often not about providers getting out of providing the service (in this case morning diapers), it's more about holding some parents accountable for their children's basic needs.

[EAP]

I would just send a reminder that the policy is children need to be ready for the day when they arrive. Lately I feel less like trying to understand "why" and I just enforce the policies. She wouldn't send a school age child in PJs and ask his teacher to get him dressed and she wouldn't wait until she got to work to get dressed. A policy is a policy and they need to be followed regardless of the drop off time or her busy morning, we are all busy and its equally an early morning for the provider.

[saved4always]

From the tone of these posts, I wouldn't leave my child in the care of a single one of you. Seeing how you're doing daycare where the culture, apparently, is to appoint yourselves judge and jury of all things parental, it may not have occured to you that if a parent is bringing a child to you in this condition, it is most likely that they tried waiting until the very last second to scoop up thier baby (to allow the baby to SLEEP a little more- what a CRIME!). She's likely hoping upon hope that she can somehow keep this child asleep so that the transition will be smoother for everyone involved. As a mother of 4 (2 in diapers now), I can tell you that it's not that big of a deal to change a diaper and put clothes on a child, particularly AFTER they have had a chance to wake up. This mom is dropping off this poor baby at 6am for crying out loud, and you want baby to be dressed to the nines before you will deign to care for her? Give me a break. Better yet, have a heart. From reading your approaches to this situation, I would seriously wonder if you were treating my child well when they were with you. You all sound horrible.

Oh, and if my daycare provider refused service over this issue when I tried to drop my kids off, I would fire her on the spot and make sure everyone I know hears about her attitude and unreliability.

No, the "crime" is that a parent would think it is okay to make their child sit in a car seat in a leaking diaper and wait for that basic need of a clean bottom to be provided because mom doesn't want to take that "2 minutes" herself to care for her own child. It is not too much to expect a child to at least be changed from the nasty, stinking overnight diaper before leaving home (for me, pjs are fine unless they are dripping in urine). And then to place that child in the leaking diaper on someone else's couch to leave a big wet spot...that is rudeness beyond belief. Also, assuming that diaper will be changed immediately upon arrival at daycare would be a mistake. That assumes her child is the only one in care...if other children are arriving at the same time, it could be added minutes before the child can be changed.

Oh, and, by the way....before providing childcare, I worked full time outside the home. I had 2 in diapers and they were dropped off at daycare when it opened at 6:30 a.m. They were both ALWAYS in a clean diaper and clean clothes when they arrived. I never left them in an overnight diaper and expected the provider to change it. I would never have done that to my kids; it would have been neglect on MY part.

[daycarediva]

From the tone of these posts, I wouldn't leave my child in the care of a single one of you. Seeing how you're doing daycare where the culture, apparently, is to appoint yourselves judge and jury of all things parental, it may not have occured to you that if a parent is bringing a child to you in this condition, it is most likely that they tried waiting until the very last second to scoop up thier baby (to allow the baby to SLEEP a little more- what a CRIME!). She's likely hoping upon hope that she can somehow keep this child asleep so that the transition will be smoother for everyone involved. As a mother of 4 (2 in diapers now), I can tell you that it's not that big of a deal to change a diaper and put clothes on a child, particularly AFTER they have had a chance to wake up. This mom is dropping off this poor baby at 6am for crying out loud, and you want baby to be dressed to the nines before you will deign to care for her? Give me a break. Better yet, have a heart. From reading your approaches to this situation, I would seriously wonder if you were treating my child well when they were with you. You all sound horrible.

Oh, and if my daycare provider refused service over this issue when I tried to drop my kids off, I would fire her on the spot and make sure everyone I know hears about her attitude and unreliability.

It is against my state regulations to allow a child to sleep during the transition to my house. I must wake them if they are asleep to do a full daily health check.

I also have 4 kids, and had 3 in diapers and 1 not and worked full time outside the home. Like a pp said, my kids were dropped off at daycare in a CLEAN diaper. Overnight diapers are disgusting and it takes 2 minutes to change (as you said yourself).



It is in my contract that children stay in what clothes they came in, unless they get dirty. If you bring kiddo in pj's, they stay that way. I have a dcb that poops EVERYDAY in a clean pullup on the ride over. He is only not potty trained for poop and Mom will put him on the potty, and he will poop the minute they get in the car. Mom walks right by me (as I busily serve 6+ other kids breakfast) and tells me where they are headed...again.

[Unregistered]

Years ago I had one boy who was dropped off in a very wet diaper..sagging to his knees...when I changed him I KNEW it was the diaper I had sent him home in at 5 o'clock the night before (this was 8 a.m. the next day) BECAUSE I had 2 or 3 in the same brand of diapers so wrote their names on the front...this diaper had his name on it in MY handwriting...

[Hunni Bee]

From the tone of these posts, I wouldn't leave my child in the care of a single one of you. Seeing how you're doing daycare where the culture, apparently, is to appoint yourselves judge and jury of all things parental, it may not have occured to you that if a parent is bringing a child to you in this condition, it is most likely that they tried waiting until the very last second to scoop up thier baby (to allow the baby to SLEEP a little more- what a CRIME!). She's likely hoping upon hope that she can somehow keep this child asleep so that the transition will be smoother for everyone involved. As a mother of 4 (2 in diapers now), I can tell you that it's not that big of a deal to change a diaper and put clothes on a child, particularly AFTER they have had a chance to wake up. This mom is dropping off this poor baby at 6am for crying out loud, and you want baby to be dressed to the nines before you will deign to care for her? Give me a break. Better yet, have a heart. From reading your approaches to this situation, I would seriously wonder if you were treating my child well when they were with you. You all sound horrible.

Oh, and if my daycare provider refused service over this issue when I tried to drop my kids off, I would fire her on the spot and make sure everyone I know hears about her attitude and unreliability.

Would you do it? Would you drop your child off (or even leave the house) with your child in a soaked, leaking diaper? Knowingly, because there's no way you pick a child up, place your arm under their bottom to support them and not feel the telltale squishiness of a full diaper?

And would you rationalize it the way you described - "its okay if I bring my kid out in the cold with a leaking diaper and plop him on my daycare providers new couch because it let him sleep a little longer"?

No, Im guessing you wouldn't do this. Or maybe you have done it, and hearing how it makes people view you struck a nerve? Regardless, its lazy, neglectful and inconsiderate. Whether it takes five minutes or an hour to wash a child's face, change their diaper and slip on clean clothes, its your job as a parent.

Fwiw, I've dressed, diapered, done hair and even bathed hundreds of kiddos and its never taken me longer that 15 minutes - whether at 6 am or 6 pm.

[kitykids3]

When my parents are dropping off, I don't have time to change the diapers and clothes. They need to come ready for the day. If I allow it for one, then others will expect me to get their kids dressed. I don't have time to change 5 diapers and sets of clothes when I should be getting breakfast ready and starting the day. If the child needs to sleep a little longer, then put them to bed a tad earlier. The daycare provider should not have to deal with those basics because mom and dad couldn't trouble themselves to. And you know the parents don't walk out of the house in jammies and messed up hair.

[jenny31052]

I have six kids that gets dropped off between 6 and 6.30 am - I have no time to change soaked, nasty, leaking diapers from the night before because I'm busy receiving the kids, cooking breakfast, and getting ready for the day. Kids needs to arrive ready to participate to our activities, which means having clean clothes, and fresh diapers.

I get my own son ready and dressed before I come downstair to the daycare area. Not even my own son gets off the bed, and lounge in his pj and overnight diaper all morning. He is ready to go and play, like all of the other kids.

This parents live just around the corner, and this is her only child. Yes, she needs to find 5 minutes in the morning to get him ready for daycare.

BTW: this was a old post of mine, and I eventually terminated this family for late payments, late pick-ups, and no call- no show... go figure...

[Former Teacher]

I have six kids that gets dropped off between 6 and 6.30 am - I have no time to change soaked, nasty, leaking diapers from the night before because I'm busy receiving the kids, cooking breakfast, and getting ready for the day. Kids needs to arrive ready to participate to our activities, which means having clean clothes, and fresh diapers.

I get my own son ready and dressed before I come downstair to the daycare area. Not even my own son gets off the bed, and lounge in his pj and overnight diaper all morning. He is ready to go and play, like all of the other kids.

This parents live just around the corner, and this is her only child. Yes, she needs to find 5 minutes in the morning to get him ready for daycare.

BTW: this was a old post of mine, and I eventually terminated this family for late payments, late pick-ups, and no call- no show... go figure...

Awesome!

I just love when "unregistered" brings up old posts and we get an update from the original poster! happyface